Monica - posted on 03/15/2017 ( 2 moms have responded )
Here my story. So I was married to my soon to ex husband for 3 year we have a daughter together. During this time I was the provider and he was in school We have been separated for a little over a year now. So I keep my daughter for about 2 months straight and then me and him started visitation he would get her on the weekends . I had a job offer in California and I decided to take it. Me and my ex did agree on a rotation schedule. I start my new job and got my place. Literally a month later I got custody papers of my ex trying to take my daughter away. I decided I needed to come back to North Carolina. Before I moved back we did have our court hearing and the judge didn't wasn't to take her out of the state. During the 3 months I was gone I was denied visitation. I moved back to North Carolina got a job place to stay and day care. He refuses to communicate. He refuse to Share medications and inform me of medical issues like trips to the emergency room. She have been to the emergency room maybe 5 times and I've only know about 1 and it was because I Skyped her and she was extra Winnie. He filed for child support. Mean while I'm paying for health care day care and paying my bills he had none of that. We wen to court for child support he was granted it but magically he went and got insurance and daycare they same week before court and the court took it. I did see how much he mad a month which was around 7000 a month. Yea that made me so mad. So we had our 2nd hearing and he wanted to take my daughter to live in Cleveland OH. During the hearing his lawyer made it seem so bad for a woman to work and pay bills And the judge let him take my baby with no job no place to live no health insurance no daycare.like I'm on drugs or have a addiction. With me I provide all things that is needed I didn't have a lawyer at the time. He stated he want to move for better opportunities and he had a job offer I found out today he has a job working at HCL Technology. Which is not the company he said he had a job offer for and it is also in the the state of North Carolina 10 minutes away from where he lived. How can a judge rule that it's better to be with the parent that has no job didn't get one til a month later no insurance for the child or day care as I also found out that he is dating the same girl that he said was his friend. She stayed with him for a month literally 3 months after I moved out. She has tried to have words for me but I called her and told her I would file for harassment and it stop real quick. I honestly think they live together and we are still married. I also think she was pregnant and had a miscarriage because some of my friends saying he posted on Facebook stating I have a son and the couple months later rip little one. This is still adultery right? I am thinking about sueing her because he receive money for being married from the va and I don't see nothing and it's being spent on her. Also I think that's where our money was always magically disappearing too. I'm stuck I feel hopeless I'm trying to save for a lawyer but it's hard I need encouragement right now!!!!! I need to know what would you do in this situation?