dating and a new baby?

Kristin - posted on 02/19/2010

I say it's absolutely cool to start dating again. My daughter is 4 months old as well and I'm wanting to date again. Yesterday I asked out the guy I've liked for the past year. He kinda said "yes" so we'll see what happens. He's a very nice guy, works for my father, and is a very hard worker! (He actually got Employee of the Month for February.) Well, good luck in the dating world! And good luck with your baby.

Nichole - posted on 02/17/2010

I was so worried about my kids meeting my "guy" friends, if your guy friends have kids the park is great, even now that I am in a relationship when I take my kids to the park there are other parents there with kids and if your kids notice you talking you can say this is "Timmy's" dad and it gives you and your friend a chance to be together and your kids get to know your friend, after a few encounters at the park have a play date at home (yours or his), and if you don't become more than friends your kids don't notice. Now my bf has no kids at the current moment (his first is due Sept 19), so it was a little harder with him he was actually only the 2nd guy my kids had meet (the first we did the whole park thing and it didn't go anywhere, we are still friends and are kids still play) I was living with my parents when I meet my bf and while my kids were with their dad, my bf came over and he stayed until after my kids got home and he was introduced to my kids as every ones friend and as things progressed in our relationship my kids were slowly introduced to him being more than a friend. How ever you decide is best is what matters but I would take it slow either way..

Merinda - posted on 02/06/2010

So today is the 1st time my new bf is going to meet my 12 week old son and what all you have said has help alot! thanks :)

Elizabeth - posted on 02/02/2010

Ashley, in December my boyfriend of only 4 months broke up with me. In the short time we dated he had become a huge part of my daughters's lives. It has been hard on the since we broke up. He is the only father figure they have known and now he is gone too. I would definitley make sure it's going to be a long-term commitment before introducing her to a new boyfriend. And I know it's very hard to find a sitter that's how my girls came with me. I hope that you can find someone who is patient and will understand that your daughter is your number one priority and i wish you the best of luck in finding that someone special.

Pennie Jo - posted on 02/01/2010

that was soooo funny, and actually it's a good idea.

Ashley - posted on 02/01/2010

thank u, that all helps a lot! i like the idea of what u see is what u get but i also understand not introducing anyone to her until i know it is serious....i will work it all out soon enough

Meagan - posted on 01/31/2010

ps my daughter is very comfortable with the opposite sex and even tho there were relationships that didnt work out it never affected her negatively bc the bfs never played "dad" its ok to have casual bfs, she just got used to hanging out w/ mom and her "friends" whether boy girl whatever theres nothing wrong with just having fun and enjoying someone as long as u keep your head on straight & dont forget where your focus & priority is, i never put my kid 2nd to b with any man... good luck

Meagan - posted on 01/31/2010

when i first became a single mom my kid was always in the picture it would b false advertising to go out with out her bc the reality was she would always b with me! and i wanted someone who loved her just as much as they loved me & honestly i think the guys i dated loved me more bc they saw what a devoted mother i am and how amazing my kid was...my daughter is 4 & im no longer a single mom & im expecting baby #2 and my bf loves my daughter as if she was his own and she has always been around since we started hanging out. he had to realize that our life together would b family oriented activities and spending alot of time at home, and it was nice to have someone by my side for those things and the more serious we got things stayed the same...now that were having a baby we already know the kind of parents both of us are and what u see is what u get!

Shannen - posted on 01/31/2010

i have been on my own since he was 3mths.. he is now 19mths. just b very careful, ive had a few tyre kickers all for playing happy families etc but when sumthing serious happens like the child is sick ive never seen sumone run sooo quick, i have been dating a guy for 3 mths and im gettin nervous about them meeting. my advice is just b careful and try to do it when ur lil one is alseep but ur lucky she is so young she wouldnt know who is who.good luck! i hope u find mr right!

Candice - posted on 01/30/2010

i always try (yeah, always, like it happens alot...ok, i'll reword that...) I liked the method of introducing them in a place where she would meet new people anyway...like the park, or while doing something entertaining. although, 4 months is pretty young for that idea...she probly won't have a clue. lol. ok, that was useless.

Kelly - posted on 01/30/2010

I don't think it matters when she meets your new bf because she is so young she won't remember if you guys break up and even when she 1 or 2 she probably wont remember any of that so I wouldn't worry :)

Brandy - posted on 01/30/2010

I don't think you should introduce any men into you child's life until you are in a serious relationship and you know the man really well. One of the biggest causes of death in young children is abuse at the hands of a mother's new boyfriend. While i don't want to scare you, you daughter has to come first, and her safety and well being is the what is most important. There is nothing wrong though with having a responsible sitter watch her while you go out and have some fun and relax, it's hard to be a new single mom! but casual dates and new boyfriends have no place in her life until they have proven themselves worthy and a good man will understand that!!!

ANTOINETTE - posted on 01/30/2010

I really think it depends on if the father is in her life ......If so u really don't wanna confuse her ....but if not i think u should wait to introduce her to him you don't want her to get use to seeing him and it don't work out ....I been in this situation before my son was the same age as ur daughter and my son was crushed when I left my boyfriend......I hope this helps a little Good Luck