Cassie - posted on 05/28/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )
my son(isaac) was born on march 17 of this year and his dad(drew) said he would be around (which was a lie because he was never around during the pregnancy). he was hardly ever up at the hospital when isaac was born and on the last day of the hospital stay i get a call from drews mom saying they want to get a lawyer to change isaac's last name from mine(harting) to his(engler) and to put drews name on the birth certificate. how could someone call you while you are in the hospital after just having a baby and say somthing like that to you!! and she was being such a witch about it. drew, being the spineless idiot he is, wasn't around when his mom called me....what a coincidence. so after fighting for almost two hours over the phone in my hospital bed holding my son, i agreed to change his last name to harting-engler but not put his name on the birth certificate. i wanted drew to prove himself first. anyway...they went through all that yelling and arguing and now, 2.5 months later, they have no contact with us!!! ive tried texting, calling, etc and i get zero responses. and now i find out drew has a new girlfriend...WITH AN 11 MONTH OLD DAUGHTER. this just upsets me to no end...it breaks my heart for Isaac. how could someone not want to come around this amazing little boy.
anyway....i need advice on how to deal with all this and not let it affect my son.
oh and needless to say....Isaac has just MY last name now. and the state made me put drew on the birth certificate because my son is on title 19(medicaid) so the state wants their money reimbursed.
but please....i need help dealing with this!! it just breaks my heart to know i can't fix this.