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Dear Zane.. (A MUST read!)

Luvmia - posted on 05/08/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )

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Good evening fellow mommies!

This is a letter written to an author by a "wronged" husband pleading for her help. lol.



Dear Zane,



My wife is one of your biggest fans and she seems to value your opinion. Hopefully she will read you response to our dilemma. Well, here goes. My wife and I have been married for almost ten years and we have children together. I love her so much. A few years ago I did some really foul shit. I was laid off from my job and was offered unemployment for two years or until I was called back whichever came first. My wife told me to get another job and she would help me. I ain't never got unemployment, so I wanted to get that free cheese. She said that if I am not busy or working then I would get into trouble with so much time on my hands. She was right. I started hanging with my single and younger friends. She was against that decision. Well my friends introduced me to a "party girl". We talked, got high, drunk, and hooked up a few times, then she moved away. Well the girl contacted my wife on facebook and told her we had a one year old son together and she needed help. My wife thought it was joke and called me. At first I denied knowing the girl but later had to admit the truth. I told my wife the child was not mine because I was not the only one she was with. The girl was a prostitute and she even admitted it to my wife in the message that she met me when she was sellling her body. Well, dna proved the kid to be mine.



My wife was ready to leave me but I begged her no to. She agreed to work on the marriage with counseling. Counseling for the marriage and counseling for my cocaine use (she did not know this until the girl told her), sex addiction, and alcoholism. I really think she asking too much from me. I am not a junkie or a drunk or a sex addict. I admit I have cheated on her before and used drugs every now and then. But I am not an addict. I am still on the couch. She refuses to have unprotected sex with me. We have never used condoms before. She has had TWO HIV tests since she found out six months ago. She is driving me away with all these rules and demands. This shit came out over six months ago, I think it is about time she get over it. What's done is done and can't be undone. How long is too long for the dog house?



So....ladies....any thoughts? I am DYING to hear them!

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Luvmia - posted on 05/08/2012

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ZANE'S RESPONSE: Wow! Darling, I wish that I could tell you what you obviously want to hear but here is the bottom line. You are lucky to even be on the couch instead of out of the house altogether. Do you realize how disrespectful it was for you to go get high, drunk, and fuck a hooker and get her pregnant knowing that you and your wife never use condoms? What exactly do you expect her to say? Okay, it has been six months. You can come back to bed and fuck me down into the mattress like it never happened?

To make matters worse, she had to find out about all of this on Facebook, including your use of "stimulants." In her mind, she probably is questioning who or what she is married to. If you were cheating, getting high and getting drunk behind her back and she has been with you for ten years, she is probably wondering where it all ends. It seems like you have learned your lesson but she was right; idle hands are the Devil's Playground. Free cheese or not, your children need to see you going to work and providing for the family. Now all you have to show for it is a younger sibling for them and springs from the sofa digging into your ass at night.

You need to give it time and get down on the ground and kiss her feet. Most women would have divorced you by now. You are acting like it is no big deal and that she needs to get over "the shit" because it was six months ago. She deserves all the time that she needs to get over this. She made a decision to forgive you and move on, true enough, but this is not a rat race and you did serious damage to something beautiful. I wish you well but you need to do a reality check. You are coming off like she is the villain. You got the liquor, the drugs, and the pussy and what did she get out of this deal? Disrespected, put at risk for STDs, humiliated, and having to feel like her entire life has been a masquerade. Cook her dinner tonight and rub her feet. She is that chick for dealing with you because it damn sure would not be me!

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