Nikki - posted on 03/23/2011 ( 1 mom has responded )
After 6 months of being split up, I'm finally taking my daughters father to court for custody and child support. Since we've been broken up, we've only had a verbal agreement on where she would live and who would see her when.
Friday nights her grandparents have her, because her father works, he has her Saturdays and Sundays, and Mondays her grandmother brings her to daycare, picks her up, and watches her till I get home from my night-class. I then will have her till the following Friday.
Her father is convinced that I am trying to take days away from him by taking this to court, however that's not the case. I'm happy with what we have worked out, however, I would feel more comfortable if it were a legal court order. He wants to get a written agreement and get it notarized, however from the research I've done, that wouldn't hold up in court God forbid anything were to happen.
Another issue is money, and has been for awhile. He only contributes to paying for her daycare every other week, and the costs he has for her when she's with him. He claims he has her the same amount of time as I do, though I don't believe that's true. He only spends Saturdays and Sundays with him, Fridays and Mondays, all though his grandparents live in the same house as him, are simply a means of babysitting since he doesn't see her due to work on those days, and wouldn't be any different had they lived somewhere else.
I myself can only work the weekends, part-time, as a waitress. I work a total of 20 hours, while he works at a very respectable paying job monday-friday. I don't believe there's no reason he can't help out more than just every other week for daycare. Though he's still fighting with me on this whole taking it to court. He wants to do more research and see if there's an alternate option...Thoughts??