Did I Make the Right Decision?

Sicily - posted on 10/25/2009

I don't think it matter too much what last name the child has, both of my children have there father last name. From personal experience if you file child support on the father and he has to provide health benefits you will probably have to change the child last name to his because the requirement from insurance companies. The is true in most states. So, in my case it was easy to give the child the father last name. Remember is not about you or the father, it what is best for the child. Only you can make the decide.

Nikki - posted on 10/25/2009

I wished i wouldve given my daughter my last name cuz (1) we werent married (2) i thought we going to n (3) he proved to me that he only stayed because of her..... 2 years n i went through emotional abuse n even got my tooth knocked out then i left now if i wanted to change my daughters last name i have to get a lawyer n he would have to consent to it and i know he would never give up his last name and now im pregnant with a lil boy n im definetly givin him my last name.... i wish i would have done what u did... but my ex was very manipulitive and got his way n i was too naive to know,,,

Mandy - posted on 10/20/2009

I did the same thing. I gave him my last name because I felt like if he's going to disappoint my son the same way he disappointed me... I didn't want his last name haunting him the rest of his life. If you want to change it later you can. Nothing did can't be undone... So, don't doubt your decision. The Laws don't change for a child just because you choose a different name. He still will have to take responsibility!!

Jessica - posted on 10/18/2009

I think you did the right thing. When I was pregnant with my daughter I went back and forth about if she should have my last name or his. Im so glad I chose for her to have my last name....because her father ended up leaving us.

Cassie - posted on 10/17/2009

I did the same thing when my daughter was born. In the end I figured it would be easier to change her last name from my last name to his later on, if he decided to be "daddy". Rather then giving her his last name, and then trying to fight with him later on to change it to my last name. And I agree with everyone else, if he has already been named her father then her having your last name would not matter when it comes to her father having to support her.

Cynthia - posted on 10/17/2009

my daughter and my son both have my last name, i tottally think you did the right thiing...as long as he is on the birth certificate you are covered...It was not selfish, if her dad hasnt married you then there is no reason for him to have the last name.good lluck

Chantel - posted on 10/17/2009

My ex husband is in the military and the last name has nothing to do with it. Your child will still receive all the great health benefits any child under a service member would!!! I think I would have given my daughter my last name if I wasn't married to her father at the time. After the divorce I actually kept my married name so my daughter and I had the same last name. There is nothing wrong with giving your child your last name!!!!!!!!

Marie - posted on 10/16/2009

you did the right thing...I gave my son my lastname for similiar reasons! As long as your daughters father sign acknowlegment of paternity YOU ARE SET! and like someone elso stated things work out your daughter can change it in the future! BUT like another person wrote about a boy should have same name a father....I dont believe just because my ex is the biological father makes him A DAD!!! There is NO WAY my son will have his lastname!!! : )

Elizabeth - posted on 10/12/2009

i think that you did the right thing i did the same thing i gave my daughter my last name and that was bc i thought that i was going to have more rights to her but realy we dont well i dont think that we do but i think i did the right thing there is something that they call dna if they want to no if he is the real dad or not or anything you no she it real dont matter but i think that if it was a boy i think that you should always give the dads last name to carrie it on

April - posted on 10/12/2009

Thanks! I have a birth certificate with his name on it.

Tonya - posted on 10/12/2009

as long as there is something legally binding that he is the dad then it shouldn't matter what last name the baby was given. If you feel that they baby needed your name then that is what is right. if you get married and things work out or when the kid gets older and decides to take his dad's name all it is, is a name change. So you did right

Shavonne - posted on 10/12/2009

I think you did the right thing. As long as you have legal document stating he is the legal biological father then I don't think they can deny your child benefits. I gave my son my last name for some of the same reasons you did ... 1.his father & I weren't married & 2. He left me 3 weeks before I gave birth. Best thing to do is speak with a lawyer to make sure of what rights you do have regarding benefits for your child. Good Luck...