Liz - posted on 08/12/2010 ( 16 moms have responded )
I'm going threw a ugly divorce with my 1 year old daughter's father. He was verbally abusive with me, and with his oldest daughter from a previous marriage. He has never been alone with my daughter or spent more than a few minutes with her. He has never showed any interest at all in her. Since I've left he is trying to act like father of thwe year and trying to say i'm keeping him from his daughter and when i would be nice and let him come see her, he would only spend a few minutes with her and spend the rest of his time trying to get me alone with him. He threatened to beat me the night i left and i'm horrible uncomforable with him being anywhere around me. I got a restraining order last week because he was harrassing me. He has a criminal record for assult and a previous wife had to get a restaraning order for family violence. I am horrible worried about my daughter's safety if she were alone with this man, he doesn't know anything about her and has never tried to get to know her. He doesn't really care about her at all he just wants to bother me, he knows thats what gets to me. I'm really scared because he can afford a lawyer and i can't, and the legal aid in my town doesn't offer help with divorce or child custody and i have applied at 50+ places and haven't even gotten a call back yet. I'm also planning on moving to New York to be with my family, and up there i will have more job opportunities and a free full time babysitter i can trust. Has anyone else been threw something like this? and what was the outcome at the courtdate? i am so worried about my daughter being alone with this man, he never hit us, but he scared me enough to think he would. He calls his other daughter horrible nasty names when he gets mad over stupid things, and i don't want my daughter going threw that as well. He also has a little boy he had supervised visitatin with and he didn't make but 1 or 2 visits and lost regular visitation to him. can anyone help me?