Lisa - posted on 12/12/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )
Hello every one, my name is Lisa Marie, I'm 17, in college, working, and a mom. I've never been the average teen i have studied hard and only hung out with the people who i knew wouldn't get me into trouble, though asked a lot i never went to partys, i dated a guy named Trevor for over a year, i found out i was 5 months pregnant after we had broken up, we When i told him i was pregnant he told me to get an abortion, of course i said no, then i was told that if i didn't get the abortion he would find away to take my son from me and give him up for adoption,(WITH OUT my consent) My son is now 6 months old and has never seen or met his dad. Trevor wants nothing to do with his son, when i gave birth to my son i did not put Trevor's name on the birth certificate so that i could insure my sons safety. For the last few months MY father is been telling me i need to talk to a lawyer and let Trevor have suppervised visitations and force him to pay child support. I'm really struggling financily and i want to provide a good life for my son but with part time school and a full time low paying job, i still come out broke at the end of each check. My question to every one is Should i force Trevor to take the paternity test and Own up to his responsibilities as a father? I have no feelings for Trevor except hatred because of the things he did to me while i was pregnant. But if i don't have him help then do i let my son suffer for my choices? I just want the best for my little boy and i don't want to hurt him in any way. what is the Right thing to do here? and if i chose to continue letting Trevor out of his responsibilities as a father how do i tell my son the truth about his father when he asks where he is or why he doesn't have one with out making my little boy feel like its his fault??? I honestly just don't know what to do. please. i just need some guidance.