Amber - posted on 05/22/2012 ( 12 moms have responded )
Hey, i'm new to this site and i'm quite happy that I came across it I need your opinion on some things. Here's my story, I was with my daughter father for a year before I became pregnant. He put me out and didn't want anything to do with me because he didn't want children. I moved back home with my mother and he came around until I was almost five months then I never saw him again. He would say just about anything to try to run me away. I saw a side I never seen in him before, he told me he had a 14 year old out here and he don't know if it is a boy or girl and he don't give a *uck so why do I think he care about this one, he told me he will slit my throat, and he also called me the n word because i'm black and he is white this is all during pregnancy. ( i'm going to make this fast) So I had my daughter and called him when I was in the hospital and he replied oh u want me to come see the kid? That really hurt because I only been with him and he knew that also he was just being rude and ignorant. So he refused to come to hospital and refused to sign birth certificate. I called him every two months whenever she had doctors appt or if she became ill because I needed to know his family medical history. He continued to say hurtful things so stopped calling. She went to the potty for the first time and I sent out a chain message about it because being a parent it's exciting to see your kids grow. To make a long story short I emailed him a pic of her because he told me he was tired of me calling. When he recieved the pic he called me asap talking about how beautiful she is and he thought that she was going to come out blacker than me. He saw her a few months later for her second birthday that was the first time he ever saw her but he was not concerned about her he was on me saying how good I look and talking about the past. He disappeared.. *DECEMBER 2011* I recieved a letter from judge stating that my daughter last name is changed and he can have unsupervised visitation with her without me not knowing any of this I jus happen to get her a new birth certficate and her name was changed. Now he won't return my calls, I called his attorney and he told me he is going to advise him to call me but it's been a month and still no call. I'm just afraid because I don't know what this guy motive is if he wanted to really build a relationship with her then why was it so important to change her name? She is 3 and already know the name she was born with now she is confused. Also, why is it so important for him to get unsupervised visitation when he only saw her a total of five times and she is 3? She does not know him and I feel she is in danger because of the threats he sent me.Also, he said his house is empty and he is moving out of state. I'm afraid especially since the last time I saw him he said somebody is going to find me with a bullet in my head. I talked to a lawyer they said it's nothing they can do it's court ordered and it's out of my jurisdiction I have to let him see her or I will be in contempt. I don't mind letting her build a relationship with her father I just don't think he is mentally stable and it's something fishy about this whole situation the name change without me knowing it just scares me sometimes like i'm not going to be around much longer thanks to him. This dude has something up his sleeve, any advice or someone going through a similar situation?