does anyone think being a single mom is hard?

Diana - posted on 04/04/2010

I am a single mom by choice. I adopted my little boy 4 years ago and have never looked back. I have never wanted to get married. I love my independence to much. I have no support from my family as they do not accept my little boy as he is of colour and still manage perfectly well on my own. I hit a snag when I get ill but have lots of friends who are willing to look after him. I just love being a mom!

Noreen - posted on 04/04/2010

im a single mom too...my hubby passed away a yr n half ago and my baby was barely a month old back then...i never say tat it is easy to b a single mom...to b a father n a mother to a child, it needs lots of energy, morale support n strength...however,no matter how difficult it is, the moment when they smile at u..everything else disappear into the thin air...

JENNIFER - posted on 04/04/2010

WHEN I FOUND OUT I WAS PREGO I WAS SCARED SHITLESS!! THE FATHER HAS BEEN IN PRISION SINCE I WAS 2 1/2 MONTHS PREGNANT!! BUT TO ANSWER YOUR ? BEING A SINGLE MOTHER IS AWESOME, ALL THE TIME IS BETWEEN YOU TOO AND YOU DONT HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT ARGUING AND VISITATION RIGHTS UNLESS THE FATHER WANTS TOO VISIT!! I LOVE IT AND IM SINGLE AND I WOULDNT CHANGE IT FOR THE WORLD!!=)

Angela - posted on 04/04/2010

I had my 4 year old daughter through marriage. Things happened and I became a single mom when she was 9 months old. Yes things have been hard, but it also makes you stronger! Since I have become a single mother I am teaching her to become independent. I would never change a thing! My love for my daughter far outways the hard times that I have. She is my life...and yes I would do it all over again and not think twice about it!

Meranda - posted on 04/04/2010

NO I WOULDN'T DO IT ALL OVER AGAIN LIKE STEPHANIE SAID, THINGS HAPPEN FOR A REASON, MY SON IS MY BLESSING IT JUST WASN'T MENT TO BE FOR ME AND THE FATHER I GUESS. IT IS A STRUGGLE TO BE A SINGLE MOM BUT IT'S WELL WORTH IT.

Jodi - posted on 04/03/2010

I believe I was blessed with a very good child which I am sure helps. Being almost 40 when having my first(and only) I was very ready for all the challenges and being a single mom just means he doesn't have to share me! I love it

Lynette - posted on 04/03/2010

Being a parent is difficult....period!!! I am a single mom of twin 12 yr old boys and I would change nothing!!

Rhoda - posted on 04/03/2010

Hi Sade,

To answer both questions, being a single mom can be hard at times but the reward far exceed the struggles. I have two wonderful kids, actually young adults and I would not trade the years of raising them for anything in the world.

Sandra - posted on 04/03/2010

Being a single parent can be challenging but at the same time it is a blessing. I have been a single parent to my two boys 9 and 7 for the past 7 years and it has been tough but at the same time it has been the most amazing experience. I dedicated my life to my children instead of focusing on dating and finding another man to take their dad's place. I make sure that my children have waht they need, not always what they want. I have raised them without a TV and you can do it too!!!! They are full of energy, so we do a lot of outside activities, sports, library visits, concerts, museums, fairs, musicals. It helps to be in a town where you have all that too. I moved from Florida to Michigan three years ago so I could offer them a better life. As long as you make them your priority, they will be just fine. Make sure you are an involved parent in school and don't be afraid to find "resources" If it were not for scholarships, medical assistance and even food assistance, I would not be able to do it. They get to participate in summer camps, sports and many other fun things because I find the resources. There is lots of them out there. I also have taught my children to be thankful and grateful for every breath they take. We attend church and that social group has helped a lot. They don't have a father figure, but they do have male role models in their life that are positive. I read a lot of material on positive parenting and have attended many worshops on parenting too. Most important, always tell and show your children that they are most important to you and love them like there is no tomorrow, I wish you well and always remember how blessed you are to have them.

Wendy - posted on 04/03/2010

i cant say its hard to be a single mom but i will say its tiring to be a mommy no matter is single or not...i am a single mom i feel is tiring u got to do most of the thing by urself, but i would say its actually more joy than that...i love my son alot...i will give him everything the best if i can turn back i will still give birth to him and be a happily single mom..cause the joy he gives me is much more better than anything else, he smile can make me forget about the pain and the tireness...to all single mommies who love their babies...we are the best~!!!

Sarah - posted on 04/03/2010

im a single mum of a 2yr old boy i have been since i knew i was pregnant it can be very hard at times but comes so much joy i wouldn't change my boy for anything i love him very much there are times though i would love an hour to my self just hard been mom and dad but my son is my world

Malissa - posted on 04/02/2010

I don't think being a single mom is hard but I only have one. I think it depends on the children(their personalities and how many you got) and the mother and your lifestyle. Everyone faces problems at times.

Jessica - posted on 04/02/2010

I love being a mom, but it can be hard. I love my daughter hailee so much.She is so active, intelligent, beautiful and amazing little girl. It is hard having my daughter go with her dad for once a week even if it is for 3 hours. I miss her when she goes with him.

Alisha - posted on 04/02/2010

i'm a single mom to a very active 2yr old boy. since the dy i found out i was pregnant and told my sperm donor he was goin to b a dad i was single then. it is hard being a single mom caz i have no help from friends fam or my sperm donor. if i can do it all over again??? i would just change the sperm donor....he is and was the problem in the first place

Leigh Ann - posted on 04/02/2010

Yes...being a single mom is difficult, but being a married mom in a bad relationship is worse. I am proud to live a life single and show my daughter that you can live and be all God wants you to be.

Mary - posted on 04/02/2010

I've been a single mom for 10 years now and a single with two for 7 years. I adopted my kids as a single and would have loved to adopt more!



YES it's hard sometimes, but YES I'd do it again in a heartbeat! Anything worthwhile takes work and plenty of it. I'd do some things a bit differently maybe, but overall I have no regrets! I don't have to worry about child support, visitation, fighting and custody issues like some single parents do. That adds some stress. but there's NO other parent out there for my kids either. That has its own pros and cons.



Having a good support system is the key in my opinion!

Erica - posted on 04/02/2010

I would do it again. I love my daughter and would't trade her for the world. Yes, it gets difficult at times, but you can have difficult times if you had a husband or boyfriend that was involved. I find the difficulty comes when you find that you don't have the time or money to do what you WANT...

Melissa - posted on 04/02/2010

I have 2 girls ages 17 and 11 and one boy age 15. I must say it's been a real struggle raising these kids by myself. My family has helped me out alot when it comes to getting them places and such. I don't think i would have made it if i had to actually DO everything by myself. I have loved yet hated the challenge in all this. But when you hear someone say "for a single mother you've done a great job raising these kids" it makes the struggle and the pain all worth the effort.

Deeney - posted on 04/02/2010

Everyones situation is different. I am a single mom of 1 and i am getting by just fine these days (with the help of my amazing family). If i could do it over again i would probably do it the exact same way bad times and all otherwise i woldnt be where/who i am today. Besides have u seen my lil man. He's super cute and a ton of fun to hang out with.

Nikki - posted on 04/02/2010

I'm a single mom of 2 girls, a 3 year old and a 14 month old. It's been extremely hard taking care of them as a single parent, but I would do it all over again in a heartbeat because all of the hard work I have done is worth it all because of the love I have for my children. I'm not saying I'm happy to be a single parent, but I'm happier to be raising them on my own like I am than with the help of their biological father because he turned out to be a completely different person than I originally knew him to be and he's not the kind of influence I want around my daughters.

Lolita - posted on 04/02/2010

I would say being a single mother is hard but just as long as you love your babies there nothing to take bqck and as long as your getting help from him are your parents its well worth it doing it by yourself im also a single mother and i know how it feels but i dont regret a thing.

Lolita - posted on 04/02/2010

I would say being a single mother is hard but just as long as you love your babies there nothing to take bqck and as long as your getting help from him are your parents its well worth it doing it by yourself im also a single mother and i know how it feels but i dont regret a thing.

Misty - posted on 04/02/2010

Being a single mom is hard. You have to be the bad guy all the time and teach your kids that they dont always get to do what they want. When my boy's go with there dad's they let them do whatever they want then come home and I have to start all over again. But if I had to do it all over again the same way I would. My boy's know that mommy is the one that has always been there for them and would do anything in the world for them....

Lisa - posted on 04/02/2010

I am a single Mom of a 12 y.o. I would do it again, but prior to doing it, I would have finished college, had a career better in place. I do it all alone, I get no child support, the child support department wont help at all. I struggle paying bills and staying a float. But aside from that stress, my son is my life, and love. Everything I do is for him and I wouldn't send him back for all the money in the world.

Carrie - posted on 04/02/2010

Being a single mother is very hard at times. Having one child is not as bad as having two. When taking care of one child you get to bond with that child but then you have two and you have to split your time between your two children and house work and your job outside of the house plus deal with other problems in your life.

Stephanie - posted on 04/02/2010

Single mom of four and yes, would not change a thing. If I divorced sooner, I wouldn't have had the amazing gifts I have. Going it alone is TOUGH and as they get older and I'm torn in a zillion different directions for school things, activities, work, household chores, etc. I find myself stressed at times. But, the kids and I are far better off and this I know with all my heart. Only advice I have -- ask for help when you can, take a few minutes for yourself if at all possible, and know that you have the strength within to manage anything!

Lauren - posted on 04/01/2010

im a single teenage mother that works, tryin to get my schoolin done, and still manage take care of my daughter & myself theres no doubt being a single mom is a tough job but id rather do it this way than any other way! && i wouldnt change it for anything! my daughter has made my life complete :)

Tracy - posted on 04/01/2010

I would definately do it again, my sons are my world, yeah being a single mother is hard...and REAL hard at times..but it's all worth it.

Jodie - posted on 04/01/2010

i am a full time mum of 2 kids i raised my son from the start he is soon 13 yrs old i thought that i would be looked down upon cause i was 17 when i had him i also have a 4 yr old lil girl at first i was with the father of my daughter whom is the youngest he never helped and the relationship soon broke down and i was single again with this i found the best way was routine and to not nit pick at everything they are doing wrong for eg if they are fighting let them go they will soon sort it out and only step in when it is getting quiet physical and dont get down on urself if the house is not clean and spotless or there are finger prints on windows and toys on the floor the most important thing is that u and the kids are happy the rest can wait... I have great friends and family support ( only my brother is living close to me ) and i would never change my life for anything in the world i feel i have done a great job in raising both my children on my own and they are well mannered behaved polite children and never miss out on anything that includes the stuff a dad shows them if i could do it agian i would say in a heart beat yes being both mum and dad is hard but we can never hold it against a innocent person for the behaviour of some parents in the world a child is a gift you dont choose them the child chooses you to be their parent and when the days seems like the worse ones u have ever had they always know how to make it better when they look u in the eyes wrap their arms around you and say mum i love you and thank you for doing the best job in the world

Tina - posted on 04/01/2010

I'm a single mom of three teenagers and it's very hard. I thought that it was hard when they were young. Now trying to get three different teenagers to 3 different events is SUPER HARD!!!

Lauren - posted on 04/01/2010

Single Parenting is hard. But not as hard as staying in a bad relationship. Compared to what I used to be part of looking after 2 boys under 4 is super easy. I do find that I need I time out on a regular basis and cannot thank my parents and babysitting friends enough. Its all about balance. And yes, even though I have days where water just seems to leak out of my eyes and my hands want to rip my hair out (don't worry- these are getting less and less) I would do it all again. every little second of it. I love my boys and once did love their father.... I am a firm belieiver that people meet just to make children.

Adrienne - posted on 04/01/2010

I have been a single mom for most of 7 1/2 years and now have 3 amazing kids ranging from 10 months to 7 1/2 years old. I would not change my kids being in my life for anything, but sometimes feel resentful that I have to be away from them so much to work to provide a comfortable life for them because their fathers provide little to no support physically or financially.... The financial strains and struggles with time management are my only gripes. If I had a money tree, I might be ok with life as it was. Although...there is that desire for companionship on my level that I long for, too....For several years I made great money and could afford to provide them wonderful care when I was not around. This past year, times have gotten more difficult financially and I am extremely anxious about being able to provide them great care while I work my long hours. All I want is to provide them the world and life they deserve...I guess, yes, being a single mom is hard!!!!!!!!

Iesha - posted on 04/01/2010

yes its hard but i wouldnt have it any other way.

Tarysha - posted on 04/01/2010

I would certainly be a single mom again! My daughter's father has never been in the picture and if he were, I think it would make it more difficult. Yes, there are struggles (like having to find that balance between love and disciplene when there is no one there to back you up when you're being the "bad" guy), but my daughter and I are so close and we are able to have a relationship that many don't, due to the fact that it's just us.

Denise - posted on 04/01/2010

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Claudia - posted on 04/01/2010

I would!! I love being a Single mother.. Yes it can be very hard at times. But it is what you make of it. So enjoy those hugs and kisses that you baby gives and you dont have to share with any one else! :o)

LaTisha - posted on 04/01/2010

to me being a single mom is very hard only because i wasnt ready for my son i had no money no job.

Catherine - posted on 04/01/2010

I thinks parts of it are hard, but parenting in general is hard. I wouldn't change a thing. I adore being a single mom.

Adele - posted on 04/01/2010

i fink it is hard bein a single mum im 18 n i av a house to run n go college aswell but i wunt change my daughter for the world wen im not finkin about it i really enjoy it bt wen i fink ov wat it wud be lyk 2 have a family its fair upsettin n see familys together makes me wish i had a family but my daughter is the best n good things come to thoose who wait dats wat all i fink about xx

Zaveise - posted on 04/01/2010

Yes I would do it all ova again...Im a single mom of a soon 2 b two year old & I love her more than anythin in tha world. Yes its hard 2 b a single mom sumtimes but da lukk on ma baby's face is worth evrythin that I endure. Sad 2 say I regret da loser dat I had her wit but I wouldn't trade her or being a mom 4 anythin in da world. I would do it over again 2 b a single mom bcuz I can do without all da drama & issues that her father seems 2 b displayn. Yu jus gotta have faith & know that God will never put more on yu than yu can bear.

Crystal - posted on 04/01/2010

I love my daughter with all my heart and wouldn't give her up for the world. That being said, I wouldn't go back and not have her but I won't be having anymore children unless there is a chance that the sperm donor (he doesn't deserve the title of father because he's never been one) is going to stick around.

Shana - posted on 04/01/2010

I have 4 under the age of 6 and I am a 25 year old mom and granted my life is hard. I would do it over again because my children created the woman I am today

Stephanie - posted on 04/01/2010

I love my two children. Yes, they drive me nuts, but so what, they are kids. I wouldn't change anything, except maybe who my sons dad is since he is a not so nice person. But other than that, my kids are my anchor and keep me going every day. I love them so much. It is hard but in the end when they want to snuggle with me on the couch and watch a movie, it makes everything I do worth it all the more. :)

PETIER_LEA - posted on 04/01/2010

it is in some places but over all no as long as u have a patten and all the things like that im a single mum of to a 2 year old and a 9 month old

Jacqueline - posted on 03/31/2010

I have been a single mom for the last 5 years and having to look after 3 teenage children (one in university and 2 still in senior secondary), it wasnt easy initially because you are so used to have THE man ruuning around the house, paying bills for the house and anything that requires fixing. But howeve, lesson taught me i have to be independant, and I enjoy doing things on my own now. Somehow or rather you need to learn what the men do at home too, and paying bills arent that difficult! Trust me...u can do it, infact get your children to help you, then your bond with tghem are even better and closer, you learn to treat yourf children like your best friends.

I am also a working mom, so i jugglewith my time for them..weekends are for family, weekdays are for friends....YOU CAN DO IT!

Kelly - posted on 03/31/2010

I see your there, so never give up , we can and will do this !!!!!

Kate - posted on 03/31/2010

I would not have it any other way. I love being a single mom. I have a great job that I love and make a good living at. My daughter wants for nothing. I have great support. Her father does not know she exists. It could not get any better than this!! :D

DeWanda - posted on 03/31/2010

Yes Yes Yes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Kelly - posted on 03/31/2010

Yes, it is difficult without a lot of support. i have limited. But I am about to graduate from college again and get reacclimated into the work force so my children don't miss out on sports or any other opportunities. They have a deadbeat dad and i stayed with him too long. I should have left when the children were little. I've been gone 2 years and my son is 13 and daughter 15. Teen years are rough but they are everything to me and I will do what it takes to make their lives good and successful. Rough but worth it !!!

Allyce - posted on 03/31/2010

l would do all over again l love my daughter with my life but it is hard to be a single mum