does anyone think being a single mom is hard?

Sade - posted on 03/25/2010 ( 357 moms have responded )

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im a single mom of soon to be two and i seem to manage okay......but from reading these blogs alot of people seem to think differently so my question to u is "if u can do it all over again would u

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Kelly - posted on 03/31/2010

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Yes, it is difficult without a lot of support. i have limited. But I am about to graduate from college again and get reacclimated into the work force so my children don't miss out on sports or any other opportunities. They have a deadbeat dad and i stayed with him too long. I should have left when the children were little. I've been gone 2 years and my son is 13 and daughter 15. Teen years are rough but they are everything to me and I will do what it takes to make their lives good and successful. Rough but worth it !!!

Allyce - posted on 03/31/2010

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l would do all over again l love my daughter with my life but it is hard to be a single mum

Marketta - posted on 03/31/2010

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Being a single mother is hard at times but I think it is sooo worth it. Her father and I aren't together but we do share the responsibility for taking care of her (child support! lol) We are adults and we made adult decisions to bring her into this world. There are moments when I feel really overwhelmed, I can't hang out like I used to but when I look at Miss KJ and see her beautiful innocent smile, I know that it was all worth it. I love her and God has given me her love for a reason - She has definitely humbled me. I never realized that I could love someone this much!!! Thats my heart right there!

Marketta - posted on 03/31/2010

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Being a single mother is hard at times but I think it is sooo worth it. Her father and I aren't together but we do share the responsibility for taking care of her (child support! lol) We are adults and we made adult decisions to bring her into this world. There are moments when I feel really overwhelmed, I can't hang out like I used to but when I look at Miss KJ and see her beautiful innocent smile, I know that it was all worth it. I love her and God has given me her love for a reason - She has definitely humbled me. I never realized that I could love someone this much!!! Thats my heart right there!

Marketta - posted on 03/31/2010

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Being a single mother is hard at times but I think it is sooo worth it. Her father and I aren't together but we do share the responsibility for taking care of her (child support! lol) We are adults and we made adult decisions to bring her into this world. There are moments when I feel really overwhelmed, I can't hang out like I used to but when I look at Miss KJ and see her beautiful innocent smile, I know that it was all worth it. I love her and God has given me her love for a reason - She has definitely humbled me. I never realized that I could love someone this much!!! Thats my heart right there!

Cozzette - posted on 03/31/2010

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If I can do it all over again...I can honestly say...I would have waited...

Sina - posted on 03/31/2010

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In the blink of an eye, I would!! I love both my babies! i have no regrets, it aint easy thats for sure,but the innocent looks on their faces,how can u not give them ur best! I also believe that things happen for a reason,and what dosent kill u makes u stronger!

Claire - posted on 03/31/2010

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i am a single mother of one baby girl. do i think being a single mom is hard? that would be a yes i belive. i will never change my life having my daughter but if i could change back time. i would make sure i am married, or have a good man to take care of me and my daughter. my daughter is my world but i hope when she gets older she will wait till she gets married and have a life then think about having kids. but all the srongling i am having. my daughter is worth ever bit of it. i would not know what i will do without my little girl. she changed my world. there is a reason for everything and i belive that.

Nadine - posted on 03/31/2010

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If I had to do it all over again and be solo mother with my son. I would do it in a split second. I have an unbreakable bond with my son now. It is hard at times, and frustrating, but he is worth every single second of it. He's my heartbeat.

Vivian - posted on 03/31/2010

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yes i would, although it is extreamly difficult being a single mom of three boys, the rewards are priceless...

Sara - posted on 03/31/2010

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being a single mom is the most rewarding I get all the hugs, kisses and then the bad comes but then I look at that little face and I cant think of my life without him.

Rina - posted on 03/31/2010

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I am the single mother of 3. Being divorced is a blessing in many ways, although I used to worry alot about how my kids would be growing up in a divorced household. It's been three years, and my kids are very happy, loving, outgoing, funny, and just biggest joy to be around. If I was given chance to do it all again I would in a heart beat. I love my life and the way that it turned out even though there are people that scold me for divorcing when my children were so little. It was worth it and I have my "perfect" life because of the choice to divorce.

Amanda - posted on 03/31/2010

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Sometimes it is hard being a single mom...but, I have to say the hard things are far outweighed by the good times. The hardest thing I find is not having someone here to back me up. My 11 year old son is very arguementative and I have a hard time not getting "sucked" into his arguements. It would be nice to have another parent here to give me a break and support me, but it isn't worth the other hassles of having a man in my life.... I just stand firm and walk away when my son starts to argue; that seems to help alot. Financially, it can be hard as well...I've worked two jobs off and on for over 8 years and that gets tiring. But, I wouldn't change it as my two little ones and I are very happy being the "Three Musketeers!" My children and I are very close and they are good kids...I'm a very lucky woman!

Rebecca - posted on 03/31/2010

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i think it can be, but at the same time, i think it is worth it. all i have to do is look at my son, and all my complaints go away. i would gladly do it again

Autumn - posted on 03/31/2010

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I'm a single mom of a 4 y/o girl. I wouldn't change my life for the world. It was a little hard at first, but it really hasn't been too difficult. I believe it boils down to acceptance of your life/roll and taking the good and bad. She is the biggest blessing! I would die for her!

Ginny - posted on 03/31/2010

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I would definatly do it all again i love my daughter more then life, her dad doesnt do anything so im a single parent, im 19 an i thought it was going to be hard but my daughter gets me through the day even though she is at the terrible 2s stage i think you take one day at a time an you always have family and friends around to help :)

Aimee - posted on 03/31/2010

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At times when your boys get out of hand and they don't care of a thing you say to them.yes,it is very hard.times like that is when i need ther father the most to step in to help control them.and when u have to work and have no one to help watch them as well is hard.but other then that we have our good times.but even if i was with there father we would still have hard days.parenting is not a easy job at all.

Carla - posted on 03/31/2010

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I would do it again, but when Im married and financially stable! I love being a mom but it has its hard times but always worth it. But put into consideration i have my son from the time I wake up to the time we lay it down, cus I was blessed wit a job in which he can go with me. But I do wish for a break sometimes, and with the father not being around, that can be quite difficult!

Jen - posted on 03/31/2010

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solo parenting is a hard job

I think parenting probably is full stop

I have a 14 year old who has learning difficulties and a 4 year old whose father is difficult

would I do it again

You bet I would

solo parenting and parenting in general is full of great rewards :)

I try to live my life focused on the good :)

Shawna - posted on 03/31/2010

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I am a single mom of three kids and I have to support myself all on my own financially and that is the toughest part, in the state I live to get any help you basically have to not work so that is frustrating, I do child care in my home and I love to still be able to be a stay at home mom even after a divorce. I also have been having some discipline problems lately and I have tried most everything but it seems their dad can just say "go sit down" and they will is this just a mom thing?? so balancing being the loving snuggly nurturing mom with discipline has been tough .... I would not have chosen this all over again for my kids , I have grown in so many ways (especially spiritually) but after seeing them go through a divorce I wish I could give them a home with mommy and daddy but when their are two people involved you can't choose for them... but we all different situations and some work better for others :)

JANICE - posted on 03/31/2010

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Being a single mother of two boys is very hard especially when one is a teenager, the father is in the picture but he does not want to be the bad parent but I will be the bad parent for his better good. If I could chose the father of my children hell yeah I would but we don't always get what we want in life. I am making the best of it these are my boys and I love them very much. Thank God I have a family that is very supportive and always there to lend a hand when I need.

Jamie - posted on 03/31/2010

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I would totally do it all over again. Yes being a single mom is hard but I love it. I have been on my own with my son for almost 20 months. My son's father has only meet him once. but if I had to do it I so would. It gets tough at times but that is only every once in awhile. I think that you will do just fine this is your second baby you will be just as good of a mom to the new little one as you are to your first born

Michelle - posted on 03/31/2010

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I am a single mom of a amazing 2 1/2 year old little girl. She is the most amazing wonderful thing. I dreamed of having her my entire life and would never ever change ANYTHING in my past because that would not have brought me to the place where I finally was able to get her. I don't really consider being a single parent hard because it simply HAS to be done. There is no alternative. My daughters father disappeared when I was 5 months pregnant and he is illegal so I get not support, but I am fortunate to have AMAZING family that has made it possible for me to go to school full time and give her the best education available. When my education is done I will be able to live on my own with my child and fully experience the Mommy Daughter life. I am very excited. I would absolutely do it all over again.

Cassandra - posted on 03/31/2010

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i do think being a single is a little hard. i'm a single mom of three and if u don't have a good support group of family and friends it will get. it may not seem hard now with one child but each child will have different personalities. i don't regret having my babies, i love them with my whole heart but i do regret having bad choice in fathers. so if i could do it again i would want the same children different man.

Kelly - posted on 03/31/2010

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There you have it . it can be financially hard. But happiness wise I wouldn't go back and my children and I are much happier. Men are highly over rated in my book......

Dana - posted on 03/31/2010

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You will have trying times but that's what makes us stronger because those little ones are depending on you. When you look into that cute little face, there is nothing you wouldn't do for them. I'm a divorced single mom and I have 2 kids. A 9 year old son and a 5 year old daughter. I didn't sign up to do this alone, but as the story goes, I'm doing it alone. I will say this, every single mom needs to take action if the father is not helping to support their children. If they will not pay willing, then you take actions to make them pay. The older the kids get, the more expensive it gets. So that's the one thing you should not let go by. Daycare, medication, sports, dance, clothes, shoes and so on all cost and they need to help. Willing or unwilling. It can be done. Stay strong single mom! Be blessed.

Dusty - posted on 03/31/2010

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my answer is no i love being a single mom yes it is the hardest thing to be but if i was to do it over again then i woundnt have my boys and i would be lost with out my boys. congrats on the arrival of ur 2nd baby. they are a blessing and a curse in one but i would not have it any other way.

Alaina - posted on 03/31/2010

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I think it has it's challenges for sure, and some days are harder then others, but if i had the opportunity to do it again....i would exactly the same way! i love my son with everything i got!!

Colleen (curran) - posted on 03/31/2010

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April - posted on 03/31/2010

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I have been a single Mom for 16 years and I think its all about attitude just like anything else in life. Some things are easier like being able to make all the decisions yourself and not having to worry about someone else's opinion, preferences etc. Other things are harder like managing schedules, budgets, finding a little "me" time. I think the most important thing is to have a great support system and not letting the little things get you down! Would I do it the same way over again? I don't know and normally choose not to think about it. Can't change the way things are now but I do hope my children find love in marriage and raise their kids in a two parent home. If they don't its okay too. . .I will have lots of advice for them!

Colleen (curran) - posted on 03/31/2010

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thank you for your input....you just made my day....i always do what others tell me to do and I hate it. i love my son sooo much. he has been a blessing to me.

April - posted on 03/31/2010

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I have been a single Mom for 16 years and I think its all about attitude just like anything else in life. Some things are easier like being able to make all the decisions yourself and not having to worry about someone else's opinion, preferences etc. Other things are harder like managing schedules, budgets, finding a little "me" time. I think the most important thing is to have a great support system and not letting the little things get you down! Would I do it the same way over again? I don't know and normally choose not to think about it. Can't change the way things are now but I do hope my children find love in marriage and raise their kids in a two parent home. If they don't its okay too. . .I will have lots of advice for them!

Margie - posted on 03/31/2010

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being a single mom has it's struggles,but i have waited 24 yrs for a child,I wish the circumstances can b different but its not,but I wouldnt change things I love my boy and dont know how life would be without him

Christie - posted on 03/31/2010

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I am a single mom of a beautiful little 18 month old girl. Just found out I am pregnant again! People think I am crazy! I am doing just fine. I believe everything happens for a reason. I was married for 4.5 years. Tried on fertility drugs for 5 years for a child. Had to even go through surgery! Nothing happened. Then my little miracle! Know I am going to be blessed with another. I struggle just like any other single parent. I think at times why!! At the end of it all when she is giggling and we are good. The world is as perfect as it should be. You go girl! Congrats on doing an amazing job!!

Sheri - posted on 03/31/2010

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Hi Sade, I am a single mom of 3-1/2 year old twin boys and although some days are very tough, the good days out weigh the bad. I am challenged every day but find strength and hope through my boys and wouldn't give it up for the world!

Donna - posted on 03/31/2010

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Yes it's difficult when it comes to taking care of your child, and financially also.But that's the greatest challenge of being a single mom raising your child on own and making it sure that we raise them well in good manner.Our child is the best gift from above and whatever that we need trust in the Lord that he will provide it.

Melissa - posted on 03/31/2010

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I think it has it's ups and down, but for the most part it's managable, if it's in your heart to be a loving mother. I would do it over and over again, my son is my world and weither he has a father or not he's still gonna the greatest gift I have!

Cath - posted on 03/31/2010

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My life changed when I had my first daughter and I tell both of my girls that life without them just wouldn't be complete, I think mums have a unique bond with our children, a bond that not even dads get I have been a single working mum for the last 2 years (officially) but have always been there for my girls, they are my world and why I wake every morning and work my toushy off, they make me laugh, we cry together I have always been honest with every question they ask and 1 major thing I do is I never ever put down their father as my feelings towards him have nothing to do with their love for him, so in a round about way I would do again in a heartbeat...My life without my girls just wouldn't be a life at all -x-

Katie - posted on 03/30/2010

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my son just turned 5 and I've never had any kind of help from his father whatsoever which is fine with me because I don't think I could have handled having him around, I think it's best for me and my son plus I make all of the decisions on how to raise him. It can be hard but I would do it again in a heartbeat!

Karmen - posted on 03/30/2010

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I am a single mother of 4 soon to be 5. They all have the same father and i find that dealing with him and his inconsistency with the children is the only difficulty i have. I am very hands on with my children, we have chore charts, letters of the week, countries of the month and follow a daily routine. My older children know how to cook and all my children are always complimented on their behaviour and manners, even by the ex in-laws which I am sure really gets to them. If I didnt have to deal with their father and his family and the way they make me feel someimes there would be absolutely no problems in my life. Isn't it about quality over quantity?? My husband was around for 13 years treated us very badly and never lifted a finger to help me even though I worked as well so I challenge anyone to tell me my children are worse off now simply because it's just mum!

Caina - posted on 03/30/2010

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I love being a single mom and I wouldn't have it any other way. It is actually easier for me.

Heidi - posted on 03/30/2010

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in a heart beat.. yes it is hard, but anything worth keeping is hard...I want to pull my hair out every day, and then when I look at all 4 of there smiling faces at the end of the day and kiss them good nite its all so worth it. And shoot I can always by a wig. I figure if u are taking the time to find out what all these mothers think then u r taking the time to care about your feelings towards your children and that is defenetly a good start to being an awsome mom....Give all u got heart and soul.....and most importance patiance and u will never go wrong.

Crystal - posted on 03/30/2010

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I am a single mom of a 18 month old boy. Of course it is hard. But I wouldn't change anything. He is the best thing I have in my life.

Karmi - posted on 03/30/2010

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You know being a single mom is a struggle only because of my son's father being such a pain in the ass. Other then that I am happy, I love being a single mom and taking care of my son. I would do it all over again if I could. He is such a blessing and I would do anything for him.

Irma - posted on 03/30/2010

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that's very true, that's why when my daughter turned 14 I told her if she wants the most expensive stuff she have to work for it. So she got a job at McDonalds. Because it was getting to the point that you couldn't shop at Walmart for this girl, so she had to work for her own things.

Sheila - posted on 03/30/2010

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I wouldn't say that its hard, but its not all that easy either, especially if you have more than one. My biggest problem is the older they get the more expensive they get. But if i had to do it all over again I would, I Love my kids and would do anything for them.

Natasha - posted on 03/30/2010

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if i could do it all again i would is it hard yes it is, my mom always told me your not a real parent till you have 2! and she was right 2 was a handful 3 well its more work i love my kids and wouldnt give them back if i could but it is hard

Askeona - posted on 03/30/2010

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It is extremely hard. Probably one of the most hardest things you can do. But it is equally the most rewarding. It gets better and easier in time, but you will always have those moments. Pray on it and keep doing what you do.

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