Does mother often gets full custody of the child? (CA law wants what is best for the child)

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I want to get full custody of my daughter. Does mothers often win?

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Sara - posted on 10/23/2013

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okay my situation is that my bby's daddy hasnt been in my daugthers life shes 3 years old and hes never helped me at all and the reason i never told him anything cuz he had gotten deported and now all of a sudden hes back knowing hes deported and figthing visation rights and my parents have been with her these 3 years wh0le years and my question is can i fight full custody if i dont want child support ??

Amanda - posted on 04/03/2010

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Mothers don't always get custody if the dad isn't a dead beat. If he is truly a good father then the judge will see it. Don't assume you will get your kid you have to fight. Why do people go in the court room and say I know I will walk out with my kid. I have seen it. He was working had a great house always stayed home after work to be with his kids, never got drunk, never did drugs. She had a house, had a job, stayed home after work, went out once a month with her friends. Both were great parents but he got custody of him. The kid was 10 months old and because she had been arrested once when she was 18 and never again in 7 years the judge gave him custody and her visitation rights. So no Mothers don't get custody ALL THE TIME! Sometimes they shouldn't! DUH sometimes the moms are the dead beats! SO NO THEY DON"T GET IT ALL THE TIME! It depends on the situation!

Vilavanh - posted on 04/03/2010

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It all depends on the situations....for my case, my son's father was never around so I asked for full custody and was granted along with child support.

Raniesha - posted on 04/03/2010

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I've been told if yhe father hasn't been around then they not goning to take the baby away and send them somewhere else, because they are use to u and only know u, but if the father has been around then chances are u will get shared custody, or he will get visition rights.

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Evelyn - posted on 10/13/2013

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Amanda Lemay-I know full well for a fact that mothers do not get custody of their kids all of the time like some of the others have said. Now a days, fathers can get primary custody in a joint custody set up just as easy as a mother can. Unless proven to be unfit, no one parent is better than the other.

Tessa - posted on 10/02/2013

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I am single mom for a beautiful 3 year old daughter me and the father split because of his drug addict and alcohol problem it became really bad he started abusing me verbal emotion mental and physical got out of the relationship he now met some1 else his getting married and his still an alcohol he keeps telling me his gona take me to court for custody he has been harassing me via email sms phone calls him and his family are telling people im mad that's why they taking me to court I have been sending the child for visit but she comes back wetting her self I keep to my self but now I am scared because all these years I supported her he was there but never bothered please are they going to take my baby away

Jonelle - posted on 04/04/2010

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It definitely depends on the situation. If your child is under the age of 16 the court can award either joint legal and physical custody or sole legal and physical custody or a combination of both. The only time sole physical custody is awarded is if there is a pattern of one parent not being present or having a criminal history, including drug abuse, alcohol abuse or physical abuse. Otherwise, be prepared to share custody. Once the child is older, usually in their teens, the court will consider the childs wishes as much as the parenting ability of the parents. Good luck.

Amanda - posted on 04/03/2010

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In most places it depends on the situation. My sons dad stopped coming around and then stopped phoning. I was in and out of court within 10 minutes and walked out with him all to myself and the judge left the visitation up to me. He hasn't even tried to come and see him. But good luck just tell the truth! If he is a good dad then why keep him out of her life!?

Wendy - posted on 04/03/2010

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i am not sure abt ur side there but in singapore..usually daughter will goes with daddy and son with goes with mommy or they will see which side can give the best to their children in money and in time...if the child reach 12years old he or she can choose to be with mommy or daddy...

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