Jalina - posted on 10/15/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )
im looking for experience strength and hope from other single moms who may have been in this situation...i was engaged to my ex when i got pregnant and had our daughter..we split up four months ago when she was a yr and a half..she is now 22 months...right now we are splitting custody 50/50...he has her 2 weeks a month and so do i. hes a great dad and i dont want to deny her time with him and since shes not in school i thought this might work. i dont have any help as far as care goes with her, im living with my mom at the moment. i just started school again online and at her age (very active) i have not been able to do my school work or even focus for more than a minute, i just have no time (also i have hyperthyroidism...so im tired all the time, so when she takes her naps so do i, so i havent even been able to do my school work then) i can get her into daycare which would help and give me the time i need but im wondering if i should change our custody schedule...maybe id have her mon-thurs and him fri-sun or vise versa...this way she can go to daycare and have more of a routine. i also need to get a job so that i can afford for us to move out and have our own place (the house is not baby friendly or organized therefore very stressful living situation) im having trouble doing it all simultaneously, as i never expected to be a single mother and im having trouble adjusting to this new life...before i didnt have to work and i had taken off from school to be a stay at home mom because her father supported us...all i did was take care of her and did nothing for myself it was all about her 24/7 now all of that has changed and i need to find a balance, i need to finish my degree in order to ensure a better future for myself and my daughter...also another huge problem with the custody schedule is that her routine is so out of control...i dont know what her routine is when she is with him as he doesnt even do what i do, he runs his own company and works alot so she is with his mother most of the time until he gets home around 8pm feeds her bathes her and puts her to bed...im having trouble getting her into a good routine as far as mealtime, naptime and bedtime...and when i finally get her to bed after midnight! im so exhausted i cant even do the housework or schoolwork ive neglected all day...im in desperate need of some good pointers/advice/encouragement.....please help!