Erin - posted on 07/18/2012 ( 9 moms have responded )
The main reason I'm at my breaking point today is that my now ex-fiance just won't committ to his family, won't get us a place to live won't take care of us and just wants to live as a bachelor in another city.I'm fully fed up with him. For a year I have waited while he made up excuse after excuse after excuse not to save up, get a place to live or mover here to town. First he got cold feet, then he got laid off and "didn't have any money" even though he made almost $1500 a month just with unemploymnt not including wages from drill each month!!! The he "couldn't find a job" for six months, but magically he suddenly had a job the same week his unemployment ran out. During this whole time I asked him to come live here in this town where we are suppossed to live ( he lives 40 miles away) anyways and live for FREE, NO BILLS, FREE FOOD, and NOPE he won't do it. Gets a shitty job in his own town instead. Then it's "I can't afford to live in * and drive to * I don't make enough and I can't afford to save any money". SOOOOOOOOOOO I waited while he tried to get his old job back making $20/hour. Then the day he finds out he gets the job A PERMINENT SLOT IN THe MILITARY MEANING ONLY DEATH, DISCHARGE, QUITTING OR MURDERING SOMEONE CAN GET YOU FIRED!!!!! He calls and says he's gotten kicked out of the Guard for lying!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!`
We have a baby due to be here in September! I need him to take care of hs family not live in another town farting around! He's never here. So what does he say next?? I want to go to welding school and then mechanics school for three years, maybe we can get a place in a year or so. A YEAR OR SO??!!!!??? Then what wait for two years more while he looks for a welding job???? I don't think so!!!! Then he says maybe I can help you pay the deposite so you can get Cirha!!!! Are you F*ing kidding me!!!! I already have crappy housing now why would I want to move to pay more for equally crappy housing??? And wait around indefinatey for this child to grow up and be a man!? I told him it's over, I'm done! I'm done waiting! I'm not putting up with him coming to visit our baby once a monh when he feels like driving here! Ths is why I'm at my breaking point!
I threw a huge fit and yelled and screamed: all these dads get a free damned ride when us moms or their mommies or new wives, or new gilfriends babysit for FREE for them while we moms are stuck in a dump paying for everything or sitting poor because they get to work and we have to stay home and not make any money!!!! I told him I'm filing for child support immediatley for the baby.I don't trust a single man to pay unless they are forced.
Here's his reply to me : "You're making this a bigger deal than it is." Are you joking???? He has an apartment, his own car, cheap car insurance, cheap medical insurance, a job, airconditioning, gets to eat fast food anytime he wants, gets to do whatever since I am nowhere near and he's never here, gets to go out with friends and drink and whatever.
I have nothing! I'm fat and feel like shit, my back hurts all day, I have a pinchednerve, all I get to do is cook, clean, school work,do pottytime, go to the grocery store, and get poked and proded and tested every other day. I lve with my mom, in a house that's 85 dgrees hot at all times, I don't own my car because I can't afford the insurance, I have government assitance for my food, and medical insurance, and $140 to pay for all my kids' needs! It's not all his fault but I said I'd work if he ot his butt here and helped!!!!! BUT NO! Nope everything is all about him and I'm just being stupid and unreasonable.
I say fine I'll jst dump all the kid on all the men and they can sit at home and do nothing and go on welfare and I'l go to work and they can whine to me for money. GOD!