Mandi - posted on 10/27/2008 ( 1 mom has responded )
I have a wonderful six year old guy. He's smart, funny, and well-behaved. I think we're pretty tight. He may tell you different, but he's not here, so we'll go with my opinion. He's the kind of guy I can take to a fancy restaurant with no qualms. He'll even order his own dinner politely. He's really independent, pushing towards stubborn, but he comes by that honestly.
Anyways, my dude is having behavioral issues at school. His report card shows that he's grasping the work. He's doing fine in each of his subjects. He comes across as an exceptionally confident and social guy, but he has this quiet and very insular inner emotional life. He tends to worry over something, but won't talk about it. He's the kind of guy who will try not to cry, even though I've always said crying is totally okay if you need to do it. I think he's worried about not being as smart or as good as the other kids in his class, so he's refusing to do his work, goofing off, and distracting his classmates.
How do I motivate him to make good choices at school, boost his self-esteem about his academic prowess, support his teachers, while making it clear that his current behavior is absolutely unacceptable. How do I keep this from bleeding into the rest of our lives? I'm a woman accustomed to doing a lot. I have a full-time job and two part-time jobs. I'm taking my GRE on Thursday, so that I can go to graduate school next year, but I can't focus on anything else because my guy is off kilter.