Going through pregnancy without the father...

Brandi - posted on 02/04/2010 ( 132 moms have responded )

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Hi, this is pretty much just a rant. And God knows i need all the inspiration i can get lol! I'm 5 1/2 months pregnant as of right now and am going through this pregnancy without the father in the situation. Don't get me wrong, i have my family and awesome friends who support me but i still lack going through my first pregnancy with the "significant other" and it really really REALLY REALLY hurts... We've been "together" but never official for a very long time. He's always given his heart to other women and has yet to be with one he didn't date or ask to marry him, but i'm an acception for some reason. I come up preggos and he bolts. After everything i've been through with him and all i've done for him and his son, he leaves? Honestly? Well, come to find out, there was another girl in the situation at the time with a son. once i tell him i'm pregnant, all of a sudden he's been talking to her for a while. I honestly knew nothing of her until i came up pregnant. He's accused me of getting pregnant on purpose to try and trap him, told others it's not his, and told other people that it was "one night stand".... but for some reason, when his girlfriend doesn't give him what he wants or needs, he'll text me saying what he can or doing what he can to "hook up" again. I've kept all the text messages he's sent me from day one. As soon as my baby girl gets here, he will be court ordered for a DNA test so i can get child support FOR HER and to shut his and his girlfriends mouth about it not being his. I've kept all the messages she's sent me throwing a fit and saying there's no way the baby is his and all that special mess, as well. That boy has put me through total hell and it breaks my heart to see him love her and spend money on her and her child but he can't man up and be a father his only daughter. And i don't know how he can love everybody that treated him so badly and put him down or "leeched" off of him, but he can't love me when i busted my butt to give him the world? Any advice to make my life easier or to keep my heart from breaking even more would be greatly appreciated... thanks :)

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Wendy - posted on 10/06/2012

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im feeling lost aswell. i am now 5 and a half weeks pregnant, when i told the father he denied it was his, blocked my phone numbers and facebook and moved. i cant get ahold of him at all. i have not one person to come to the hospital with me or even tell me things will be fine. i have a son who is 19 months old, his father and i were good friends. now that i am pregnant with someone elses child he refuses to acknoledge me and hasnt taken his son for his normal visits.. he told me he hopes my unborn child and i die. i have been crying for 3 days, my eyes are so swollen. all i wish is that i had one friend. the only person i have is my mother thank god. she will be watching my son while i do doctor stuff so i will be all alone. i am afraid.

Butterflies - posted on 11/27/2013

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Hey ladies well my story is quite similar I am 7months expecting with my first child and at first the father was happy and excited I let him know of everything the baby needed and he was ok with it and all of a sudden out of nowhere in my 6th month he started to have doubt and said he was starting a family and getting married soon and asked for a dna test. it hurt tons because i wasn't with anyone but him in 2yrs also to kno he's marrying someone else after he was just living with me hurts even more..and to think i loved this man unconditionally even after everything we have been through..wow i just don't get it..so now he's saying we donot need to speak until after the baby is born..i felt we needed to speak before the baby was born to have everything in order but i figure why waste my time when I'm obviously not going to get any cooperation...so i won't b saying anything until my baby boy is here..I want you ladies to know its hard going through it alone but we are women we are made to be goddesess and to know our worth..we are strong! We give birth to whole humans for gods sake lol..we are strong just remain focused on what really matter which are your babies..God has helped me something serious because without him i would be broken but with his grace and mercy i am making it i have my sad moments but i don't remain there..its important for us woman to know that although god didn't give us who we wanted or what we think we want he has something faaaaar better to give us..just have to be patient, let go and let god..If any of you ladies need advice or just want to talk please feel free to email me =) God bless

Lauren - posted on 11/07/2015

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Nikki Caldwell,

I'm glad your little fiance is in your child's life but your comment was the most ignorant comment I have ever seen. First of all, if a man laid down and have unprotected sex with a woman and make a baby then he needs to man up and raised that child. To say that " u know how someone will act before you get pregnant" is bull and you're very asinine to say that. If a man comes at a woman and says "I want you to be the mother of my children" and she gets pregnant and he leaves her high and dry because ish done got real is not knowing how they will act before you get pregnant, it's called putting up a front. Your fiance is no better than that young lady's baby daddy, he's just as damn bad. He treats your child better than the other child. GIRL BYE! That man is the epitome of a asshat. It's call out put a condom on if you're not man enough to take care of that baby. So don't come out of the mouth with that crap. I cannot deal with the stupid crap that you said. Once you find out a child is on the way you either help raise or move out of the way let someone else who will care more do it. Blaming the mother is not cool. Your post was negative and shameful. I would rip you apart if you would have said that to my face.

Nikki - posted on 04/03/2014

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Not to sound harsh but I never understand why women having babies by guys that don't want one....just because you decide to have it will not make him be involved he more than likely will not have a change of heart...I believe u know how someone will act before you get pregnant...if he's just not that into you, u getting him pregnant will not make him change if anything it will make matters worse and he will totally split. You are affecting the child negatively because u are denying him a father. That if u. Just waited for someone who really loves you would stick around. I will be 30 soon and just had my first child with my fiancé and he was there all the way but I asked him before hand letting him know that I was not prepared to do this alone and if he wouldn't have wanted me to have the baby I don't think I would have...also he has another child by a woman that he didnt really like and told her that he did not want a baby and she had it anywaysand u can totally tell the difference between his involvement with my child versus hers....ladys men want children out of love not burden! With all that being said good luck and don't worry about the guy now u just need to do what u have to do for ur baby!!!!

Hannah - posted on 11/16/2013

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Oh sweetheart, I am so sorry! I went through a very similar situation. I told him I was pregnant and he demanded I get an abortion. When I refused, he didn't talk to me for three months. I texted him after EVERY doctor appointment, and each time something happened. (I had to go to the ER twice and had a three day hospital stay.) I was polite and pleasant even though it killed me.

The day of the child support appointment. He walked in, signed everything, denied the need for a paternity test, and asked to have the money be pulled out of his paycheck automatically! From talking to the case worker, this was very unusual.

I was alone during my entire pregnancy, too. It was hard, and I cried myself to sleep multiple times. But you can do this! Don't be afraid to ask your family and friends for help. If you let them know what you need, I'm sure they'll bend over backwards to get it. With several of my more selfish family members I said, "I really need to talk, and I really need it to be all about me this time." They were more than happy to hear me vent. I started journaling, too. I carry my journal around with me so nobody accidentally reads it. It's not very flattering, but again, it was all about me.

When I was really feeling down, I started doing things I knew would make me happy. I feel into my favorite things, crafts, books, etc. I really hope this helps.

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Quistinadaniels - posted on 04/08/2017

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I have dated and leaved with this guy for 8/2 months...kept begging me for a child...we actually reached a point where we used to kneel down n pray for a child...on the 8month he accused me of seeing other men and that i brought men in the house when he had travelled...i got so angry and left with everything,after a week i discovered i was 2weeks pregnant when i told him he denied the child...a month later trying to confront him he says there is no baby there and if there is it happened after the pregnancy...then 2months later trying to talk to him he said it was my decision and hang up the phone on me...its now 7months i have not talked to him ever since...and his now back with the other woman who had his 2kids..any advice?

Taylor - posted on 11/15/2016

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I'm 21 I was dating my boyfriend for about 6 months using birth control everything was good. At this time I didn't for sure know if loved him or not I just got out of 3 year relationship, but I found out I was pregnant. I didn't know for sure if I should keep it because I didn't know if I truly loved this guy and or if I was even ready for all this I just turned 21 I was finally able to have some fun with my friends. But he told me he didn't want me to give it up and he would take care of us and he loved me so I thought I loved him. I'm 4 months along now and ever since then all we do is argue and now we live together and he starting to make all of these rules even just about the house. I'm so depressed and lonely now. He !makes me feel horrible because some days I don't feel good and wanna just relax. He holds everything over my head because he owns the house. I don't know if I should stay with him for the baby because I know he would be a good father and be un happy or should I leave him and raise this baby by myself and let him be apart of appointments and apart of the babies life as much as he wants? I don't know what to do but I'm so scared

Linky - posted on 10/18/2016

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Once your baby is here, you will be the happiest woman on health, babies are called bundles of joy hey.

I am a single mom, my baby is 3 months old, and i am looking forward to life more than ever now. I am waiting for my heavenly sent to find me.

So be happy enjoy your pregnancy. :)
God has your order of happiness, seek for him.

Nellfusini - posted on 09/07/2016

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I'm in a similar situation. At the beginning he told me he was single that he wanted something serious. He told me he had a kid but wasn't with the mother anymore. I fell so hard for him. He was always there when I needed him. Gave me attention affection. For once I was happy and had goals and dreams for our future. I was in an abusive relationship previously so I really thought this time he was the one. I gave him all he wanted never held back from him then everything changed when I got pregnant. He told me to abort because he didn't want his bm to find out because he was still with her and living with her. I was so broken I couldn't believe it. I refused to abort so he stopped talking to me. I went through the pregnancy alone but because of all the stress and heartbreak I miscarried. I was so devastated because I really wanted the baby. I felt like I lost everything.. but regardless of the hurt and pain he put me through I forgave him and went back to him after the miscarriage because everything I went through because of him made me attached to him. I was already so inlove with him and missed him a lot.. we started messing around again and now I'm pregnant again.. I'm happy about it because I wanted my baby back I felt like it wasn't fair that he put me through a lot and I lost the baby.. but this time I choose to not tell him about the pregnancy. I don't want him to know. I don't want to deal with stress again and lose this baby too.. I'll have a big surprise for him and his bm when the baby gets here. I know it's not going to be easy but with God anything is possible.

Maria - posted on 07/07/2016

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I understand what you are going thru. I have had to cut off contact because I cant deal with his Dr. Jekell and Mr. Hyde personality. He asked me to get prego. Then when I told him he turned into a monster. He said he didn't want a child. Then he told me that he wanted to keep it if its a boy because women are bitches. I had to tell him that I was going to have an abortion so that he would stop with the verbal threats. I lied about the abortion thing because I could not talk to him. He was screaming at me. And talking at me. I could not reason with him or anything. I had to get away for my own sanity.

Maria - posted on 07/07/2016

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I need to be at peace more than anything. I rather be alone than to be around someone that is plotting against me, negative, and not in my corner. I don't like to argue and be stressed out when I am prego. We have not had any contact.

Maria - posted on 07/07/2016

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I am praying a lot. I have started attending church again. Its giving me the strength to go on

Maria - posted on 07/07/2016

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I am prego. I told him and he was nasty. Needless to say I rather be alone than to deal with the bs he wants to put me thru.

Shyrome - posted on 06/24/2016

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The best avice I have I pray,pray,pray ever single day because what your going through will pass and you will be happy again. Enjoy your pregnancy don't even worry about these worthless men they are much more weaker than we are and we have no choice but to be strong. Your baby will make you so happy, everyone wants a happy family with the father of their child or just for the father to be in his child's life but God will send the right one for you it may not be the father but you will be blessed. Everything happens for a reason.

Dhdorothy - posted on 05/22/2016

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I need advice also. I was dating a guy and got pregnant then find out from his ex that he still wanted her. After he was exposed we broke it off and I wanted to keep the baby but he didn't because of wanting get back with the ex whom he has a daughter with. She was ensuring me that she wasn't getting back with him but was supporting his decision and tried to persuade me into abortion. They both stressed me out until I did. Afterwards they got back together behind my back and he continued to mess with me. I slowly started back engaging with him while he is denying being with her. She finds out he is still messing with me then he tells her he was just using me and there was a big blow out. She left him and I cut him off completely. Then I found out Im pregnant again.I just told him and he says leave him alone n he wants nothing to do with me because he still wants her. I honestly don't know what to do now. I know I should have left this guy alone after the first incident but let my emotions take over. He is a bum and I don't want him but I don't want to abort again. I have two kids already ages 10 and 7 and their dad is serving 35yrs in jail. I am currently seeing someone but I don't know if they will continue if I'm having another dudes baby. I just want to move on with my guy and hold this other guy accountable when the baby comes. It will be a handful but I provide for my children without their help if it comes down to it but I don't want my child feeling abandonment if he doesn't step in. I'm stuck

Danielle - posted on 12/15/2015

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I am in the same situation. I actually have a miracle baby and my was then boyfriend always wanted to try. Well I kept catching him cheating texting his ex things like "good morning beautiful" while I'm laying in bed next to him. To a co-worker telling me she saw him on tinder. Whatever his excuse it doesn't justify. He doesn't even care about the child. Has "borrowed" money from me and never paid me back. Clearly doesn't feel he needs to provide but take away from his child. Worse part is, he is addicted to heroin. So believe me when I say, it hurts going through this alone. I never imagined not having my child's father there to hold my hair while I vomit all day long to taking "we're expecting!" photos. I feel like an idiot sometimes but the one thing that keeps me going is that I am going to be a good mom. I will provide, care, and love this baby like no other. I can't wait for this baby to be born. I get to name it what I want. I get to dress it how I want. I get to raise it how I want. My baby will be so happy not knowing it's father and I promise that. He can run off with the next one or back with his ex. I've let go and I am happier for it. It just proves he isn't the man to be a father to my child. I'm mommy and daddy. It will be his regret in life. Peace and love hun, we can do this! Just put all your pain into love for the baby.

Jlafayej - posted on 11/08/2015

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I wish you luck! I'm in a similar situation we're both due March 9th I bet too!! As long as you have family and friends support that's all you need. Time heals all wounds. Cut him off unless it's about the baby. And that baby is not here til March. Stop giving him the gratification of pulling on your heart strings. He's a jerk.

Click - posted on 09/18/2015

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That guy is similar to my father's baby... How come such demons exist?

Shyrome - posted on 09/18/2015

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Reading all these post made me cry because everyone's story is very similar to mine. But as for me I'm 13 weeks, before I found out I was pregnant I stop dating my child's sperm Donor and I say sperm donor because it takes a lot to be a father even if you're scared to be one because little do they know we are also scared. Back to the story, It was 3 weeks tops we stop talking and I started feel weird wondering where my period, I've never missed a period of course so it was completely weird so one day I decided to just go get 2 pregnancy test from dollar tree, when I found out I hurried to the doctor the next day. Then I got an ultrasound. All the time before that I was think of an abortion tripping out, in which I never believed in. I felt so sad, everyday since I found out because I couldn't make up my mind, so I spoke to different friend about what they think of course some said do what's best for you others said I think you should and more said No keep it !! .. So I felt even more worst, until finally I stepped up & called the donor to let him know, and when I told him he went crazy, saying I need to ask some other guy because it isn't he's, he also said he has a girl in the same situation, he can't be there for my child, good luck with you & your baby, calling me all out of my name b**** & hoes, he told me he hopes me & my baby dies, he said I'm trying to trap him, he said ever b**** want to have my baby. Every thing he told me put me in so many emotions no because I want him because clearly I dumped him before found out, but because we were friends. He was never that type of person. A few weeks later after I blocked him he called me Unknown telling me he's sorry and he loves me, he just isn't ready for kids, he has nothing going for himself and he's trying to get his life together. Almost like he wanted me to feel sorry for him & what he was going through, just because I can hold a child in my stomach does not mean I am ready for a child but If I lay down with some unprotectedly and have a child basically I'll have to get ready no ones ever ready. After the things he said to me I couldn't bare talking to him, I look at him like the worst person I met in my life. He told me he doesn't want a child by me. Trying his best to say anything to get me to have an abortion that guys think is the easiest thing in the world. But all thur my pregnancy everyday I've just been so depressed I even lost friends. But everyday I'm trying my best to just get over it & enjoy my pregnancy for my baby. Any time I'm down I listen to Music soulchild- love

Click - posted on 09/18/2015

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I am glad to have found this page. I am 11 weeks pregnant and the father all of a sudden decided to go back to his previous relationship and ask her to marry him. After all the love and care I thought we shared, he turns out to be a complete jerk after finding out I am pregnant. I pray for strength to take each day one at a time but it is very difficult for me to accept that he is not the person I thought he was. At times I was able to share how down I feel with him, he scolds me for being weak, hence, I stopped communicating with him. My baby and I do not deserve such treatment. Seeing all your posts similar to my situation, somehow I feel I belong to a group pf strong women who are able to survive the struggles of a single preggo. Thank you for all your sharing and may God bless us further more.

Melissa - posted on 09/03/2015

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Hi Jasmina, just wondering what happened to the dad? I'm in a very similar situation, I have a six year old already. I'm just sad

Carli - posted on 07/16/2014

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I am now the mother of a wonderful 2 1/2 year old son. He was conceived after 10 months of trying. He was planned to the point when i hadn't concieved after 6 months we were referred to the fertility clinic, lucky i fell pregnant a month later. I never had reason to question my relationship he was wonderful supportive, kind and seemed to be happy. He proposed a month after i found out i was pregnant. I believed this was what we had both wanted given the ectreme of seeking fertility advise. 2 months later in my 17th week of pregnancy we seemed to be going through a rocky patch which was unual for us by the end of that week he told me that he did not love me and did not ever really think he had loved me. Well i was devastated to say the least my world shattered. I packed my things and left that was 5 november 2011. At first we still had contact and visited, however he refused to attend my midwife appointments and scans we continued to see each other until december 20th 2011 this was when i noticed he was distracted andchecking his cell numerous times during a concert his other 3 kids were involved in. I knew then there was somebody else on the seen. I left that day knowing i would have to go through the pregnancy on my own. I offered him every opportunity to stay involved with appoinments and scans and even invited him to the delivery to which he replied and i quote " i dont think i should be involved in your delivery". I would hear from him on occasion when he was struck by guilt. Well baby was born and it took 3 days for him to visit and because of this new bird when i was discharge having had a c sec i was not able to drive, he refused to come to my home to visit baby and bond with him i had to make the effort after 4 weeks to go to him. At first he saw my son fortnightly however his new partner was obviously uncomfortable with thingsand started to cause trouble and shit stir via facebook. I made the decision after addressing her behaviour with the baby daddy (which escalated post this) to withdraw my self and my son from the situation. It is because of this fat cow and my ex lackof character that he is now estranged from my son. HOw did i get through this, staying strong and making the choice for a stress free pregnancy and not dealing with ex bullshit until it was really necessary. I'm lucky my son has had a great step father since 6 monthsold who adores and supports my son as if he was his own. Some ex's are just Asses

Charmaine - posted on 06/23/2014

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Guys are such dogs sometimes. Being pregnant and alone is much lonelier than just being single and alone. I think we can all relate. It almost seems like it doesn't matter what stage you are in a relationship with a guy, married, engaged, gf of many years, friend, casual sex partner, when they are too cowardly to man up and take care of a child they laid there and made, they just seem to bail. In one way or another, right away or gradually. I was 5 weeks pregnant when I told my guy and he wanted to pay for an abortion right away. To be fair, he said several times over the course of the year that we were having unprotected sex that he didn't want another child bc he already had a 5 year old daughter, I didn't want a baby either, but when I found out I was pregnant I couldn't go through with it. He bailed. Haven't spoke to him since. My friend ran into him and it appears as though he's claiming "it ain't his". When my son comes I'm going to throw his ass on child support so damn fast I hope his head spin lol. Smh.. little boys will be little boys..*sigh*

Nieasha - posted on 06/22/2014

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I wish things were different for us all but i don't want for any of you to have an abortion.

Miriam - posted on 05/11/2014

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I am in complete shock to see how I am not the only one going thru this as I read similar situations. I was In an 8month relationship with a cop in my town. I was involved in an emotional abusive relationship prior to this so all I was looking for was another chance at love.this cop , I thought, was the one for me. Our relationship was serious or so I thought but when it came time to commit he didnt want to. After 8mths of him telling me me loved me, I found out I was pregnant with his baby. On the day of me finding out I was pregnant, I also got an email by his 3 year girlfriend that was living with him that I had no idea about.. he ends up telling me that his heart is for this girl and he is going to try to get her back ..and im here now, just realizing that I am pregnant, and was the other girl the whole time. He lied about his life, his love, and who he was as a person. He comes to me when its convenient for him. At first he thought it was ok to be with me but see his ex gf as well. He told me we were a family but a family does not mean involving another woman in our unborn childs life. I have told this girl several times to not interfere in family affairs But she is still around and him spending time with her and giving her priority is affecting my pregnancy because he constantly defends her and supports her. I have friends and family who love me but not having the father of ur child around for emotional support because he is out with another woman is heartbreaking and very unhealthy psychology as ur pregnant. How can I include him in our doctors visits if he is seeing another woman? I want to go to court now to see if I have any legal rights Before this baby is born, I know I cant deny him his child when he/she is born but I dont trust him, so I have a scary feeling he is going to try to fight for full custody out of spite. I am so sad, hurt, betrayed by all this. Do I have any legal rights to get this girl out of the picture?

Crystal - posted on 05/11/2014

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I am going through this pregnancy alone as well. Honestly I wasn't expecting to become pregnant and i obviously wasn't thinking about the what ifs only that I wanted to ease a bit of loneliness i had as i'm working 2 jobs while aiming for goals that i wanted to achieve like go back to school etc. which left no time for a serious relationship. Decided to see this guy occasionally who seemed to be looking for a casual relationship like me, who was busy a lot and i did ask him why he was single after he asked me he had said that he wasn't in a rush. Guess what?! I became pregnant so fast it was amazing lol i was like what the hell right when im close to my goal?! I had told him he had to initate any relationship with me as i have a big tendancy to get shy which he did initiate first; well when i had to get ahold of him to notify him of the important news that i was pregnant I found out he lied to me about his name, that he wasn't single (just got engaged to his longtime girlfriend a week after he saw me) and other things. What happened to being a decent human being? I was sooo upset and hurt that someone could be so ugly to place an unsuspecting woman in such a situation. I dont believe in poaching and i believe in relationships which his utter disregard for her and me put me in a state of shock. To top it off this lying, cheating, ugly character had the nerve to tell me that he didnt want any part of "this" that he cant even provide for himself so for me to please understand his request and not to involve him then contradicts himself by saying its up to me to keep him updated. that he wont be able to take care of a child he didnt plan for that he was sorry that he cant do anything right now. well i didnt text him again till i found out i was having a girl and was really indecisive about having such a dispicable person in my babys life that finally i decided to try just for my baby as i know what its like to not know your father, he never responded. how could someone be so disrepectful in general then go get married ?

Jasmina - posted on 04/22/2014

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Hi im i can say not every guy you meet shows his true colors. is it fair for the women who have put time in with a guy to abort a baby because he decided that he did not want one. He was ok with having unprotected sex but soon as the there is a baby out of it the women should get rid of it. If you read some of the post there were women who were married to men and they still left. Men are going to do what they want rather they are single or married it does not matter but to tell women she should not have a baby by a guy, a guy that she may not have ever seen that side of hime is wrong.

Jasmina - posted on 04/22/2014

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Wow after reading all of the post i did not think there were women going through what i am going through right now. I was dealing with a guy for about 6 months we were not together but we were grown. Around november i found out i was pregant i told him and he was happy. We talked about it three times before i told anyone i was pregant i just wanted to make sure he was really ok with having a baby. He ask me not to ask him again and that he was happy. So i left it alone about a week later he said he wanted to be in a monogamous relationship with me i asked was he sure and that just because we were having a baby we did not have to be together. We could co-parent i was fine with that. From that day everything was great until i was 4 months out of no were he started acting funny and i knew something was up. He then toold me that he felt like he did not have any say so with us having a baby. I was confused because we talked three times and he said yes. Long storie short i have not talk to him since Jan this year . he does not call he does not text he does not respond or actknowledge that i am having his son. I am a very strong women i work two jobs and im getting my masters now and i have a five year old everything i have i owen so for a min i through what did i not bring to the table. For a min i wanted this baby to be gone i did not want to have it i also through about giving the baby up for adoption but how would that help me. i try to have a connection with the baby but it hard to connect to a chid who is not wanted but both creaters. I cry everyday all day i snap out on people who do not have anything to do with this just because i cannot snap out on him. just thinking about this and writing this i am crying because i still do not understand why a man who i have been with who i have layed with spend time with and gave my all to would not say that he was not ready for a baby from the start. So now im stuck all alone with a baby that i have not connection with let along that i have to take care of by myself. Some people say that he will come around but truthfully i would rather him just say gone. oh and he move acrossed the country and never told me he also deleted me from facebook and other networks. I did reach out to his mother and told her what was going on she acted like she cared but the truth is there family will always have there back no matter what.

Marcilossy - posted on 04/20/2014

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My husband has abandon me and the kids for the the past 8months now, and refuse to come back because he was hold on by a woman whom he just met, for that, my self and the kids has been suffering and it has been heel of a struggle, but i decide to do all means to make sure that my family come together as it use to, then i went online there i saw so many good talk about this spiritual man King Shola reuniting families and homes with his spell powers. I asked for his email reunitehomespelltemple@ gmail. com, so i had to contact him and in just 9 days as he has promised, my husband came home and his behavior was back to the man i got married to, and that was what happened. I am so grateful.

Marcilossy - posted on 04/20/2014

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My husband has abandon me and the kids for the the past 8months now, and refuse to come back because he was hold on by a woman whom he just met, for that, my self and the kids has been suffering and it has been heel of a struggle, but i decide to do all means to make sure that my family come together as it use to, then i went online there i saw so many good talk about this spiritual man King Shola reuniting families and homes with his spell powers. I asked for his email reunitehomespelltemple@gmail. com, so i had to contact him and in just 9 days as he has promised, my husband came home and his behavior was back to the man i got married to, and that was what happened. I am so grateful.

Kimberly - posted on 04/17/2014

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Hey Ladies,
I am a 30 yr old single mom of two beautiful girls. Their father left me after he committed a crime (he had a secret life), and now he is in prison for 15 yrs. He was put away when my oldest was 18 months and I was 4 months pregnant with my youngest. It was a horrible experience to all of a sudden be a single mom of two over night. However, I have made the best of it and have tried to be the best mom and dad to my girls. It has been 4 years since he was first put away. I met a man and got into a relationship in August of 2013. I had an oopsy and got pregnant by him in November 2013. I am 24 weeks pregnant now with my third daughter :) he has decided not to be a part of her life and he is refusing to acknowledge her at all. We are no longer together and he is just living life like we don't exist. He is a police officer and prides himself on being a "stand up guy." Yeah right...I just don't understand how someone could abandon their own flesh and blood like that! I just joined the community because it is hard to see all the couples at the doctors office and I just feel so alone. I just want to know I am not alone and if anyone has any advice for me I would appreciate it. It's hard being abandoned by two men. I'm just worried for my girls, I do not want them having daddy abandonment issues. Makes me so angry at those guys!!

Kelsey - posted on 04/17/2014

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You don't know how a guy will react. You could be married for 5 years and they end up having a meltdown because they aren't ready. Or you could have an oops moment with someone you're casually seeing and they step up to the plate 100%. My child's father has blocked a deleted me. He's younger than me. We had discussed the possibility of a what if situation. He said he'd step up. "Be a good dad." But no. He's turned out to be a horrible person. I'm sickened by the thought that this is my child's father. However, that anger makes me more determined to do what's right and be the best mom possible. Good luck to you ladies.

Miranda - posted on 04/10/2014

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I am almost 10 weeks pregnant and have 18 month old son with my baby's dad. I last talked to him just over a week ago. Now I heard he's dating another woman. He's a jerk and I know I'm better with out him. But now i l be lonely and can't have sex or find a new man. A shitty thing for him to leave prego.

Kimberly - posted on 03/29/2014

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i might be late but i just got to let this out... well im 38 weeks today. since i was 35 weeks my husband decided to leave me saying that he no longer loved me. so on that same day he leaves to go with other girl. im currently still living with him because i have 2 children already and no place to go... so i see him leave with her text her and call her, he will leave the room when she calls and he'll make a excuse to go somewhere just to go see her. and what makes it worse is that they work together he is her manager. i know im only hurting myself by staying here but i just love him so much and i know he doesnt deserve it. please i just dont know what to do... ive gone to the hospital multiple times for the baby and he wont come but when she needs something hes there for her.. i cry everyday for him i stay up waiting for him like an idiot. what do i do to make him see what hes doing to me. im sorry ladies i just needed to let this out.

Suzanne - posted on 03/29/2014

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Cece email me smclaughlin24@gmail.com or call me 2018529294 I think we can be a lot of support for each other as we go they this alone

C - posted on 03/29/2014

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Hi, my name is Cece. I just found out I was pregnant this month. My boyfriend and I were so excited, he had popped the question before we even found out... Well. After telling my mom, she wasn't having it. We are best friends and her whole issue is "Can this man take care of you?" He's in the service and he literally leaves in a couple a days to a station overseas. He basically told me I'm holding him back on his life if I have this kid, he has too much going on with his mom and how his mom needs financial support and he can't take care of his mom and my child. I've thought about abortion, but everytime I drive to the clinic I cannot bare to get out the car. He said he will be there for me throughout this whole process, however. My living situation at home is hectic and I cannot bare bringing a child into this world and my mother out ideas in the baby's head on how it's father is "irresponsible" and whatever she wants to label him. He decided to cut off marrying me because he has other priorities, but I mean, what mother that knows you're having a baby is going to ask to be financially supported when she makes money and her boyfriend lives with her? That's selfish. Now I'm pretty much on my own, single, pregnant and still in college. Lie has it so easy, he's going across the country with no care in the world how I'll be or this kid. And it doesn't help that once I got pregnant I was no longer allowed on my parents insurance due to pregnancy being an act of emancipation. Again, I'm just a college student, I don't have money to cover medical bills let alone enough to move out. I've spent these last couple of days trying to figure out what's going on with us. One minute it's marriage the next it's "you know I don't want this, why are you pushing?"

Suzanne - posted on 03/27/2014

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So it seems like you guys have a lot in common with my situation and I could really use some support....I am currently 8 weeks pregnant with the man I thought I was gonna Marrys child. Unfortunately our situation was far from ideal, he was in the middle if a divorce and he got drunk one day and told his wife who he alreay has kids with that we are gonna have a baby. The wife who wanted him back decided to file a motion for more child support and sole custody. The day after she did this he left me to go back with her. This guy swore he loved me more than anyone he ever knew. That I was worth leaving his wife for and he was so happy to start a fam with me. The nite before he left me he cried telling me how much he loved me. I am not pregnant with his kid and alone and he's back wit the woman he claimed to have despised and told me it was bc he can't deal with not seein his kids. What about this kid? What bout the woman u claimed u loved? I'm so scared to do this alone and not have him around when the baby is here. Any support would be greatly appreciated

Heather - posted on 03/25/2014

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There are a lot of encouraging things on here and I am so glad this is here because I am not sure if I can make it if I did not come across these posts. I have a similar situation. I was with my significant other for quite some time and we were perfect for each other. I started working three jobs to stay in school and finish my bachelors of science in nursing and it was getting really tough to see him. The only time we had together was at night and one afternoon a week. I really missed him and I promised to spend as much time as I could with him and I kept that promise. On valentines day I invited him out that night and he never answered my calls or my texts, so I just went to my best friend's house and me in her drank wine and talked. The next morning I woke up drove home and did not find him there. I called him and he said that he had a new woman and wanted me to leave his house. I did not argue with him. I packed all my things and I left. I am not the type to fight, yell, get upset and mad so I said ok and I left. Of course, I cried...for days. I was very sad. After a week, I called him and asked him what I had done wrong and he said I did not have enough time for him. Can you believe that? The following week I missed my period. I did not say a word to him. I waited the whole month but I started feeling really weird..I just knew I was pregnant. I went to the doctor and sure enough the test was positive. I don't know what God did but this guy he call me that same week. He ask if I was okay and I said I need to talk to you and it is really important. I asked him to meet me at my favorite place to eat. We had dinner and over dinner we talked about a lot and I asked him if he was ready to be a father. He just stared at me. I cried. I couldn't help it. I was so emotional. I thought this guy was going to leave me in the booth crying but he asked if I was pregnant and I said yes. That was the end of the conversation. We went our separate ways for about 2 weeks. Then I called him and he told me that he does not believe the baby is his and I said his name and I asked him if he thought I had to cheat on him when we were in a relationship and he stayed so quiet I felt like I could hear the clock ticking on the wall at his house. He knew it was his and he was so scared. Now I have 5 month and he is still with that b***h and taking care of her baby from another man, but he still call me to check up and tell me he miss me and love me. I just don't understand why he still says those things to me when he moved in with that woman. I wish I knew the thought process of a man. I know I can make it these last 4 months...I just have to keep working hard and praying hard.

Pearlie - posted on 03/24/2014

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im in the same situation you are in me and my babydaddy was together for three years I had a still born in may of last year he left me after that and now im pregnant again as much as it hurts for him to be absent it's for the best hunny you don't need the stress you focus on u.and ur lil girl god will deal with him hun I wish u the best of luck

Shanon - posted on 03/23/2014

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These comments are breaking my heart. I'm 12 weeks and just found out my live in bf of a year and a half was cheating on me. He denied everything but I read texts, saw pictures, and even found him on a dating website. The saddest part is I thought our relationship was perfect. I honestly had no clue. Now all I do is cry. I can't eat. I can't sleep. He's tried making me feel 'crazy' by telling me it was just texting, but I checked our phone bill and he was messaging over 20 girls all day every day sometimes until 4am. I'm sure they have NO clue about me either. I doubt they'd care anyway because men make the gf seem 'psycho' when they are the ones that do things to make us psycho. This entire thing has hijacked my brain. All I do is think about it and how he could do this to me and our baby. What kind of man abandons his pregnant gf for a fling? Apparently, the man I thought I knew and loved. Our relationship seemed perfect too. I thought we were madly in love. We got back from a romantic vacation just a month prior to me finding out. I guess you never really know someone. This is my first pregnancy and I'm terrified to do this alone. I imagined him and I and this loving family. I wish I knew why he threw it all away and left me all alone to go through this. I'm heartbroken.... A part of me want to play ignorant and just allow him to do what he wants so I have the moral and emotional support I so desperately need right now. But my pride tells me that's wrong and if he's doing this to me now what would he do to me in the future? I decided to kick him out of my house and just try to do it alone. I have amazing friends and family that are very supportive. Technically, I'm not totally alone. It's just hard going to sleep alone and waking up alone. I cry myself to sleep very night wondering why.

Priscilla - posted on 03/23/2014

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:/ I'm going through the same ladies :/ it's so sad I'm 14 weeks pregnant and my bf just kicked me out of his house a week ago. He told me we need time , and he has not text me at All to see how I'm doing, I feel so alone I wish he cared and wanted to be with me. I had my app at 9:30 am I asked him with days in advance if he will take me he said yes. So I was really looking forward to that, a day before the app I text him what time he will be picking me up in the morning, he said he can't in the morning that to reschedule that he had errands to run, it's not true tho cause I passed through his house he was still there probably asleep so he text me later that day saying he can't believe I did not reschedule and for me to just leave him alone trying to make me feel bad . Anyways I'm lost maybe I should give him his space hoping he will come back :(

Andrea - posted on 03/21/2014

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To Lesly Isabel Enciso Garcia..I was alone during my entire pregnancy, about 2 years ago (I was 17) so I can relate to you're situation..if you need someone to talk to, feel free to email me at: agarcia2147@gmail.com

Jada - posted on 03/20/2014

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Hi, I just honestly need to vent. I am 5 months pregnant with no father involved. My child's father & I were actually in a 2yrs relationship & were planning this baby until things took a crazy turn. He was involved in a major car accident with lead to brain rehab, which lead to me dealing with his mom on a more personal level. For some reason his mom didn't like me much & it showed but for the love of him I dealt with her. On many occasions she has disrespected me, as she claims to be a women of god. After being hospitalized for almost a month, she took him to another state to help with rehab, we became even more in love especially with her pushing us apart & the distance. After a few visits I became pregnant, she pushed for an abortion & all of a sudden, so did he, after praying for this baby together. I refused, then family began to plant seeds as if it's not his. This hurts, I really loved him, no we don't even talk, & when we do, he speaks as If it's just my baby & not his. I know he's probably moving on in life, but how can you act as if I'm not carrying your child? I feel so alone, especially when you give a personal your all. I didn't want to get courts involved but I feel as if I have no other choice. 😡😢

Alicia - posted on 03/16/2014

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I can definitely relate. I lost my 8 yr old's father to suicide. I only wanted a daddy for him, so finally at the age of 4, I met a guy I thought would be great. I soon found out I was pregnant then this man started lying and stealing from me. I tried to look past it for the kids and now I'm 36 weeks pregnant with his second child. He stole from me yet again, so now he's in a drug and alcohol treatment center and I'm alone, pregnant, and have absolutely no support system being that his whole family are drug addicts and my mom lives an hour away. I never knew my dad and my mom never was the typical grandma, even when she lived closer. I'm at my wits end but I know I have to keep my composure because my kids have nobody else . I've always kept my own place for my kids to call home but I need help now more than ever being that I'm out of work for a couple of months, without pay. My rent is $675 and I have a baby due very soon. I'M LOSING MY MIND!!! And never do I get a break, not even for a little bit!! All of you that have family that help are truly blessed....appreciate it because some people have no support, not even emotional...

Angela - posted on 03/13/2014

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Hi my name is Angela I'm happily married to my husbend we have been trying for over four years to have a baby and just recently found out my husbend has low sperm count and not much we can do what ever we tried failed and If your thinking about giveing up ur baby I will give it the best life you can imagine that's are biggest prayer and dream to have a baby we will take it like are own u can email me mrsangela601@yahoo.com

Angela - posted on 03/13/2014

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Lesly isabel enciso garcias can you plz email me my name I's Angela I wanna help you mrsangela601@yahoo.com

Lesly Isabel Enciso - posted on 02/27/2014

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Hi, Im 15 years old an im pregnant. I went over to mexico to have my 15th party and i met this guy who i fell in love with. He promised me many things that he wanted a whole life with me and told me he loved me. Since he lived in mexico and i lived in calfornia we decided to run away together withut anybody knowing so we did. My mom was pretty mind but she said it was my decision to stay or not and she told me i was losing alot but i didnt listen and decided o stay with him. Me and this guy starte livig together and he told me he wanted a baby sice he ws older than me but i told him i wanted to wait but then eventually i got pregnant and when i told him he was very happy and tolde he was excites and he said thank you. Once i told my mom she told me it wa better if i had my baby down here in the USA so he/she had more opportunities. Me and my boyfriend talked about it and even though it was a hard decision we decided it was the best. So when i was 3 months i came to live with my mom and we would talk on the phone everyday and everyhing seemed good but as time passed things started to change he wouldnt pick up when i called or he would start actin mean. Now im 5 months pregnant and it seems like he doesnt want anything to do with me or his babygirl. He told me he just couldnt be with me anymore. So i asked him if he wanted his daughter to have his last name and he first said no but then he tells me i will if we do a paternity test on her. Why would he say that? He knows he was the first guy i was with and that ive never been with anybody else. That i gave up soooo much for him to be telling me this kind of stuff. I just feel alone i appreciate my parents helping me nd my friends supporting me but i wanted him to supprt me to and be there with me thick and thin like he once promised and im scared of being a single mom. So i am goin to do a blood test on her and of course it's goig to come out that he is the father! And im thinking about takig away all his rights as a father after he knows it his daughter. Or i dont know what im going to do its difficult im stressed im mad im sad im confused i dont k ow whats going on or why all of this is happening to me.

Mel - posted on 02/06/2014

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I can relate. I am 9 weeks pregnant and the father just simply stopped talking to me. He was happy he said he wanted this baby and me. Then just dropped me. I feel so alone. I feel as if no one cares.

Mel - posted on 02/06/2014

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I can relate I am 9 weeks pregnant. The father just simply stopped talking to me. We were fine, he said he wanted the baby and to be with me. Then doesn't answer my calls and doesn't call me. I feel so lost. I have no one who cares any more. I don't even know what to do.

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