Have you cheated before?

Samantha - posted on 02/28/2012

You don't have to be married to cheat Sherry, If your in a committed relationship with someone that is enough.

Sherry - posted on 02/26/2012

I have never been married, so obviously I have never had the opportunity to cheat.

Jen - posted on 02/26/2012

Yep

Samantha - posted on 02/22/2012

I've been cheated on and I have also cheated on.



People say girls are stupid for going back to men who treat them bad or cheat and vice versa but really they are just not ready to give up on the one they love hoping they will change, and you know what sometimes they do.



being cheated on I knew the pain, but still the loneliness, isolation, and depression I felt lead me to do the very same thing, I'm not proud of it, It makes me feel sick what was I really thinking. It's not an excuse either what I did was wrong at least it's a mistake I've definitely learned from. That's why I don't think once a cheater always a cheater is actually right I think it's more like twice leads to a third time. However it's also up to the other person to forgive some people just don't have it in themselves to forgive something like that even if the cheater like me really did realize the mistake and whole heartedly swore never again. Being someone who has also forgiven another I know how hard it is to do, it can shake you to your core but sometimes it can make a relationship just that much stronger, overcoming something like this.



Now(this was quite a few years ago) I strive to be someone worthy of the trust and loyalty given to me and maybe someday I really will deserve it because at the very least the person we love deserves our trust and loyalty.

Briana - posted on 02/21/2012

yes i have it was a one time thing and i even addmitted it to my boyfriend at the time i felt horribal

Christeen - posted on 01/18/2011

I cheated on a guy who cheated on me first. Not a great reason to cheat but I felt it would hurt him like he did me. It didn't because he just didn't care. And I felt so terrible that I was shaking and sobbing. That went against everything I ever felt. Two wrongs do not make a right. But lesson learned :)

Angie - posted on 01/16/2011

I think every situation is unique. Its easy to say how you would react until you find yourself in the middle of it. People make mistakes, its how they deal with and learn from those mistakes that define character.

- - posted on 01/15/2011

I HATE people who feel the need to cheat !

I've been cheated on & it's not nice. If you're with someone then surely you care about them ??

Why would you want to see them hurt.

Even if you don't care about them enough, then at least do the decent thing & leave instead !

Plus cheaters almost always get caught out. So why would you wanna get a bad name for yourself?

It can definitely change people's opinions of you.

Mia - posted on 01/10/2011

no. I don't believe in infidelity. I think that if you are no longer happy then end the relationship. I don't hate on people who cheat as I know a couple who have/are still cheating. It's just something I fail to understand.

Lesley - posted on 01/09/2011

Never cheated in my life and im 32!

Brenda - posted on 01/09/2011

Is it cheating to yourself when you date a married man?

Cheryl - posted on 12/27/2010

Reading through the comments and seems to me that women thinks it's okay to put themselves out to much or call cheating "Borderline" there is no borderline. And setting your options open is just like saying hey I'll do. Men (or women) will respect you more if you show self respect and not put out for all. Women is just as guilty of cheating and the mental games as men.

Cheryl - posted on 12/27/2010

and Being a F Buddy is lowering your own standards for yourself. I don't play that game, tell them either me all the way or none at all

Cheryl - posted on 12/27/2010

NOpe, and once a cheater always one. Once that trust is broken then there is no more relationship

Paige - posted on 12/27/2010

What would be smart about cheating? To me the smart thing to do would be to get out of the relationship that you are not happy in and begin the one that would make you happy. Then you wouldn't have to sneak around and deceive, and no one gets hurt. Being cheated on can affect someones self esteem for life... not smart

Crystal - posted on 12/25/2010

@Christina... you had a pushy SOB in your case it sounds. I wouldn't call it cheating, so much as preserving a rather ill union. Women seem to have a hard time cutting their losses with bad men for some reason. I have never understood that type of personality in men either. They proclaim to not want you, but they don't want anyone else to have you either. That's when you lay it down with "You don't want exclusivity, I date other people and that is none of your business unless our situation changes. You want to end it, then hey... that's one less person I have to eliminate from the pool anyway."

What you do in "casual dating" mode is your business and any questions asked about what you do should be quickly answered with, "that would be none of your business." And of course, not with hostility, but just simple matter-of-fact.

@Brenda: women seem to have an abnormally high rate of trying to steal the affections of attached men, most especially married. With all our abilities to share our emotions, we really seem to trash one another's lives pretty bad.

Crystal - posted on 12/25/2010

No, and it hasn't been for lack of being in a miserable relationship either... that's usually where it starts. Small issues grow to become big ones, things never resolved, feelings left unshared, isolation sets in... etc. I honestly believe the only reason my ex never cheated is because he knew without a doubt I would leave. I left for other reasons, but cheating was never my concern. Even in that misery, cheating on him was never an option.

There is no forgiveness for the cheater. I have scanned a couple posts and the casual dismissal people seem to have of the ones with whom they consider their "permanent" relationship just sickens me. It is just riddled with narcissism, selfishness and immaturity. I truly hope your significant others find people more worthy of their loyalty and trust.

For me, a relationship will end the moment there is cheating. Its easier to forget the cheater and move on than try to forgive and try to live in that constant state of unbelieving paranoia as you stay convinced they are out doing it again (I truly think they will anyway). I'm just not living like that.

And regardless of how bad a relationship has ever been, bringing someone else into fold of BS to get a quick sense of euphoria? high from not getting caught? being someone's hero? whatever the motivation... it doesn't fix the problem, which is YOUR relationship and YOUR response to it.

We tend to get so focused on what we are NOT getting out of a relationship, we fail to realize we're not putting much into it either. As counterintuitive as it may sound, if you want to feel more loved by your sweetie, it starts by you being loving to them.

Not getting caught is not a reason to brag, its a reason to get therapy. What makes you think you don't deserve to have a truly loving monogamous relationship, so much so that you sabotage it before you even really try?

Christina - posted on 12/19/2010

Ehh, I borderline cheated. I was sleeping with other people between the months of Sept-Jan (last year) while dating guys. I didn't tell any of them that I was sleeping with someone else. I dated this guy named Mike for about 5wks and the entire time he kept thinking we were exclusive, saying he hated cheaters, but he didn't want to be my boyfriend. He wasn't ready for that level of commitment, but didn't want me to date/sleep with anyone else. Poor thing had no clue I was sleeping with two other guys (one was a friend I've known since childhood, and we've messed around before. Another was a guy I was casually seeing since Sept. My friend and the guy I was casually sleeping with knew I wasn't exclusive with them, but Mike had no clue.) Once I got with my "husband" which was Jan of 2010, I haven't seen anyone else.

Amanda - posted on 12/19/2010

nope. never cheated on anyone in my life and never will.. HOWEVER. I was "the other women" twice without knowing it. I was soooo pissed.

Brenda - posted on 12/16/2010

Oh Amy I have been thru that! Don you just hate it! When someone doesnt trust you? and they think you are lying? till this day he thinks a cheated with a guy that I used to chat online with..lmao just because this guy sent me an I love you e-mail once, and he stated i know you are married and we live on different states, but I just wanted you tyo know..lol I cutted off comunication with him but it never matter..his mom says I did it and the mom is the one to be believed. Losers! =p

Amy - posted on 12/16/2010

No I have not even though I was accused of doing so. My ex had this thought for the 18 yrs we were in the same house that I cheated on him while he was deployed. Unlike him I took my vows seriously. He didnt once ask me he jsut believed lies that others told him. .

Kimberly - posted on 12/16/2010

No I have not! I have been cheated on and it hurt so bad. It was disrespecctful to myself and the others and it was an extremely SELFISH act!!!!! It ruined the relationship and changed the fate of my children. so unfair.

Kasey - posted on 12/15/2010

I cheated in the past, but now I just I'll date other men. I wont have sex with two men at the same time, i like to wait, so I know I'm clean (stds). I just date though, because sometimes I am tempted by what else is out there, and my momma always told to me keep my options open, and when I find the right one, i wont even think twice about another man

Karmi - posted on 12/15/2010

No I have never cheated before. I think it is so disrespectful and classless. If you care about yourself you wouldn't do it.

Brenda - posted on 12/14/2010

Yes I guess, but since we might just never see each other faces, I just wanted to know..A lot of surveys say that woman are the ones who cheat the most than man, I have been tempted to cheating, but I am not that smart, I never thought I could get away with it, but hey It could be a fantasy if you are not in love..

Danielle - posted on 12/14/2010

not proud of it but yes i did. on and off for 5 years. wouldnt have confidence to do it now though

Blessing - posted on 12/14/2010

hmmm not a lot of ppl will be confortable answering this but yes i have known girls and boys who cheated on their partners and i have too for 2 and a half years, never got caught either.