Kristine - posted on 02/13/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )
i was 10 weeks pregnant when we separated, he wanted me to abort...then he started thretening to take my child when he was born ..i left the state and moved closer to my sister... after my son was born i had mixed emotions about it all and decided to allow him to see my son..he has seen my boy 5-6 times in the three years since his birth... he is disrespectfull of routines and really pushy with him expecting him to be able to do things out of his abilities...he applied for mediation to take place expecting that he would get half or partial custody... i denied him overnight stays because he is so young and dosnt realy know him and i dont know that he is reliable but was fine about fortnightly visits... he dropped the mediation....and turned up 10 months later.. i allowed him to stay in my house because of the expense of travilling interstate... the first day was tense but not too bad i servived it... my son and i woke early and played out side... he woke at 1030 in a foul mood and started insulting me and my family things went way out of hand and i had to ask him to leave... he said to my son " look your mummy is the reason i cant see you its all her fault i have to go" i told him to leave... and he lunged at me and grabbed me by the throte he was so angry and looked like he wanted to kill me.. my son saw it all.. he kept yelling at me then when he let go i grabbed my boy and ran out of the house... he wasnt going to go so i had to call the police... he also called the police... because i was and told them that i was insain and made him do it... they told him to leave the house and he left..to make a long story short i filed a report agreed to go to court though they wernt able to make the arrest as he went back to his home state.. he told the police officer that i was insain he wants to charge me with abusive language and file for custody of my boy.... how can i stop him...???? does any one have any advise for me? or any one who has been in the same situation any help is better than the none i have now....ps. having a dad is so important to my son all his friends and family have a dad it was a big deal for him. he seemed to relish being with him i feel like he is going to hate me when he is older..