Karen - posted on 10/01/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )
ok so here's the story. my ex and i broke up when my daughter was 5 weeks old, he did not see her for 3 months finally he showed up at my door asking to see her. we agreed on every other weekend for visits, and extra time if he wanted it. he showed up 2 weeks in a row but now he only comes every 4 or 5 weeks, my daughter has been recently showing sings of separation anxiety, not letting me walk out of the room, waking up in the middle of the night, ect. it has been 3 weeks since he last saw my daughter and will be another 2 before he comes to get her (at least that's what's planned) i am worried about how she will react to this, she barley knows who he even is. everytime he has got her he has trouble with trying to calm her when she's upset and getting her to sleep and now with the separation anxiety i know it will be that much worse. i know it's wrong but i am begining to think that it's in her best interest if i stop allowing him to see her. what should i do?? also is it possable that his random visits are making the separation anxiety worse??