Lisa - posted on 09/03/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )
Need some basic help and advise. Here is our situation. My husband, oldest and youngest daughter, and myself moved to TX in 2009 from Missouri. My 20 year old daughter returned to Missouri and was attending school in Joplin, MO last spring. After the tornado went through town, we all decided it would be better for her to move back to Texas with us. She had a boyfriend, that she had been dating for quite sometime, but she agreed that she was ready to come home. On June 12, she moved lock, stock, and barrel to Texas and is loving it here. On Wed. Aug 31, after her not feeling "right" for the last several days, and having lower back pain, I had her stop and buy a pregnancy test. (She hasn't made any friends here yet, and had just started school, and a new job) She said mom there is no way...I haven't done "that" since May, and I have had a period. I told her to buy one anyway. She did, and it was positive! We went to the doctor on Friday, 9/2 and she is 20 weeks pregnant. (All seems healthy with the baby and her Thank God!) She has had NO SYMPTOMS, NO SIGNS, AND NO WARNING! She has remained in contact all summer with her MO boyfriend, and he is wanting to be involved with the pregnancy (appts, shopping, taking care of her) and is trying to get the money together to get to Texas. I am trying to prepare for the legal aspects of this. I am not familiar with TX law at all. Can my daughter put her boyfriend down as the father on the BC at the hospital, if he is not able to get here by then? (This is a 20 year old kid, who has little to no savings, and found out 3 days ago that he will be a father in under 5 months, and his family doesn't have the resources to help him with the move..neither do we) How can the paternity, support, custody, and BC name be taken care of without high priced attorneys, and court. Or is that even possible? What if he changes his mind and doesn't move to TX. The baby was conceived in MO, but will be born in TX. Does it have to go through both courts since the parents are in different states? My mind is spinning with all the scenarios, and questions! Both are good kids, and the baby's daddy seems to want to do the right thing. I don't want to see the baby, my daughter, or the father damaged or hurt. Any advise or help would be so appreciated!