Help With My 21 Year Old Son

Jane - posted on 10/18/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Last November he lost his job. He was able to continue living in his apartment on unemployment. When that was about to end, he had to move out. I told him he could stay with me at my apartment as it was just down the street.

I helped him move his things but told him he could only stay as long as he looked for a job and payed rent - which he did, 300$ each for september and october. which isnt a lot. I told him at the beginning of October if he didnt have a job I was going to call the cops and have them remove him, an thats what happened. October 15 came, he didnt have a job, I called the cops, they came and took him out.

He doesnt do drugs or drink, and he doesnt have a criminal record but i think he’s depressed and he refuses to help himself get on with his life. All he did was play video games and drink coffee all day. Now he lives in his car I took the insurance off of, right outside my window, texting me all day and night saying he has no where to go, is miserable and to give him another chance. But i keep just ignoring him even when I leave and return home. I cant deal with him not doing anything. He cant even text when hes outside of my Wifi’s range because his phone is disconnected otherwise.

He texts me saying he cant believe his mother would make him homeless and pretend he doesnt exist but he just will not do anything for himself. Ive called shelters and theyve contacted him but he says he ‘refuses to go to a homeless shelter just evause his mom is nuts when all his stuff is here and he paid rent’. I really need help i dont know what to do with him

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Jessica - posted on 10/21/2013

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That is really sad and I know that situation is probably draining you. There is definitely something wrong with his that is stopping him from wanting to grow up/better himself. We all would love to sit home and be lazy and have things handed to us, but some people just have no motivation and as a parent you just want to fix him. If he does not want the help, then you cannot help him. Tough love is best.

Have you tried looking for jobs together? Maybe an hour out the day. I do not understand what stopped him from looking for something. It would kill me but I would not let him back in unless he finds a job so he hits rock bottom and sees that he has got to get his life together. That's a tough one!

KatieCruz - posted on 10/21/2013

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Well, sometimes they have to learn. And we all have to learn the hard way. My mother went through the same thing with my two grown brothers. They refused to get a job and I have to help my recently unemployed, laid off mother with her rent. He has to learn to become a man one day. I know this is probably has hard for you as it is for him.

Carolyn - posted on 10/19/2013

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WOW that is a tough one...your son does sound depressed...hang tight....continue the tough love and pray that he will decide to take care of himself

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