how can i sort my daughter out with her tantrums

Claire - posted on 01/19/2009

Quoting Zoe:

My eldest is pretty good.very easy baby. she was very very hard to toilet train. And did have tantrums but i know i.. wouldn't say strict but i didn't let her get away with much. My youngest from 1 month she had reflux and colic and slept for 20mins at a time i could never lay her down or not be next to her or she would scream this went on till 7 months old. I don't even know where that time went or how i even coped? Saw my doctor and i went on this crazy diet to elminate what she couldn't handle through my breastmilk which ended up being everything except nuts, rice, bread and water. It was a nightmare but i had to slowly re-introduce everything! Now I know she is alergic to eggs and can't handle dairy except natural yoghurt! She is so happy now she smiles all day i just say her name and she smiles... i never thought that would happen. But we get through it somehow!

hi thanx we gonna work on it tomoz think i press the wrong button an added u as a friend x

Zoe - posted on 01/19/2009

My eldest is pretty good.very easy baby. she was very very hard to toilet train. And did have tantrums but i know i.. wouldn't say strict but i didn't let her get away with much. My youngest from 1 month she had reflux and colic and slept for 20mins at a time i could never lay her down or not be next to her or she would scream this went on till 7 months old. I don't even know where that time went or how i even coped? Saw my doctor and i went on this crazy diet to elminate what she couldn't handle through my breastmilk which ended up being everything except nuts, rice, bread and water. It was a nightmare but i had to slowly re-introduce everything! Now I know she is alergic to eggs and can't handle dairy except natural yoghurt! She is so happy now she smiles all day i just say her name and she smiles... i never thought that would happen. But we get through it somehow!

Claire - posted on 01/18/2009

Quoting Zoe:

no problem. Best of luck. Its hard to stay calm but you can do it! hope the move goes well.

im already moved but had no heating so will be movin in tuesday im all unpacked an that just gotta sort cassie out now i c u av to little girls do u av any problems wiv them ?

Zoe - posted on 01/18/2009

no problem. Best of luck. Its hard to stay calm but you can do it! hope the move goes well.

Claire - posted on 01/18/2009

Quoting Zoe:

First dont let her see that shes upset you you dont want an emotional tug-o-war. Be firm and either shut yourself in another room and ignore her stay calm i know its really hard. or try move her somewhere she cant hurt herself too hard..... carpeted room.... shes not going to do any real damage. and walk away. Once se sees it gets her no where (which could take a few weeks) she will stop and it helps if you congratulate her on Calming herself down and if shes still a bit upset say Take deep breaths... and cuddle her when shes stopped This worked for me. Then tell her what she can do when she feels that way.

ok thanx i will try that its hard wen ur a mum 24 7 she  dont see her dad he sees her a few times then wen he knows i wont take him bk he dont come to see her.im moving in my new house on tuesday so hopefully it will work

Claire - posted on 01/18/2009

Quoting Zoe:

First dont let her see that shes upset you you dont want an emotional tug-o-war. Be firm and either shut yourself in another room and ignore her stay calm i know its really hard. or try move her somewhere she cant hurt herself too hard..... carpeted room.... shes not going to do any real damage. and walk away. Once se sees it gets her no where (which could take a few weeks) she will stop and it helps if you congratulate her on Calming herself down and if shes still a bit upset say Take deep breaths... and cuddle her when shes stopped This worked for me. Then tell her what she can do when she feels that way.

ok thanx i will try that its hard wen ur a mum 24 7 she  dont see her dad he sees her a few times then wen he knows i wont take him bk he dont come to see her.im moving in my new house on tuesday so hopefully it will work

Zoe - posted on 01/18/2009

First dont let her see that shes upset you you dont want an emotional tug-o-war. Be firm and either shut yourself in another room and ignore her stay calm i know its really hard. or try move her somewhere she cant hurt herself too hard..... carpeted room.... shes not going to do any real damage. and walk away. Once se sees it gets her no where (which could take a few weeks) she will stop and it helps if you congratulate her on Calming herself down and if shes still a bit upset say Take deep breaths... and cuddle her when shes stopped This worked for me. Then tell her what she can do when she feels that way.

Claire - posted on 01/18/2009

Quoting Zoe:

HI claire. My daughter went through a stage of trantrums and i wish i could remember what I did. I actually think it was sugar and food colouring because they always occured when we were at her grandparents, they often fed her those fake orange juices and biscuits all day! I have a few great books you might want to check out. "the Mighty Toddler" and "kid wrangling" they always help me when Im stuck. How old is your daughter?

hi my daughter is only 2 but sum times feels like shes 22 wen shes proper on 1 shes gettin really difficult for me to cope wiv her shes had me in tears today

Zoe - posted on 01/18/2009

HI claire. My daughter went through a stage of trantrums and i wish i could remember what I did. I actually think it was sugar and food colouring because they always occured when we were at her grandparents, they often fed her those fake orange juices and biscuits all day! I have a few great books you might want to check out. "the Mighty Toddler" and "kid wrangling" they always help me when Im stuck. How old is your daughter?