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How can you help your child do what they are told?

Terrie - posted on 11/07/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I have to keep asking my daughter time and time agian to do some thing! is there some way of rewarding her for doing what she is told I don't hit her to make her listen to me! please help

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Morgan - posted on 11/10/2009

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What works for me is choices. Have them choose...for example cleaning the room. You can choose to clean your room or you can choose not clean your room but you will have to go into time out. Or you can choose to clean your room or pick your toys up. Make sure though that when you do it, you follow through and they really don't have a choice. They have to do one or the other. Another thing that might work if you choose a chore to do and then she would have to choose something. Then she can pick from the two choices. Hope this helps.

Ginger - posted on 11/10/2009

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i had the same hassle with my son,i found rewards a difficult one as he would only do something if he got something,and thats not how life works,what i now is i make him aware of the consequences of not doing what i ask,i let him choose then for himself what he wants to do,for example,bed is half eight if he dosnt go there will be consequences,you will have to go to bed earlier the next night so what do you choose?put it back to them,it wont be easy as you will prob have a battle the next night but you must do what ever it takes to adhere to the rule,same at tea time i give him his food and i tell him if he dosnt like it to please put it in the bin but there will be nothing till dinner time so its your choice,but you must stick to it and not give in,its very difficult and it will get stressfull but soon they will learn you mean business,it really worked for me,but sometimes i slip up and all hell breaks loose,hope ths helps x

Grace - posted on 11/09/2009

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rewardiing for doing what!!! She needs to listen or she doesn't get rewarded. Reward good behavior don't make a game of it. I'm a grandmother now but I still except my boys to listen. I play with them and I spoil them but they know when Nana is serious and its time to listen. Don't be a friend be a parent. You can love but still make them mind. They just can't do anything thing else until they finish what you want them too do. I know you love your daughter but love is also making them a better person starting when they are young.

Grace - posted on 11/09/2009

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Quoting Terrie :

How can you help your child do what they are told?

I have to keep asking my daughter time and time agian to do some thing! is there some way of rewarding her for doing what she is told I don't hit her to make her listen to me! please help


 

Erica - posted on 11/09/2009

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try to talk to the child

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