how do i get my 5yr old to stay in his own bed?

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my 5 yr old goes to bed in his own bed but then through out the night frequently tries to crawl into bed with me. i always put him back when he wakes me trying to get into bed with me but there are times i don't know he's there. i believe he needs to learn to stay in his own bed so if anyone has any suggestions i am open to them. HELP!!!!!

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Kelli - posted on 09/12/2009

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ok if he doesnt like the taste of it... try to trick him into drinking it bye putting a small amount of juice or something to give it a better taste.. even with little added to it, it still does the trick...

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thankyou for the advice, i will try the chamomile tea, hopefully he will drink it, he has this thing about what he does and doesn't like, he's become really fussy lately. i will let u know how it goes, i will do the test over a months time if he drinks the tea and i will let u know at the end of the month on how it went.

Kelli - posted on 09/11/2009

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i do know that when a night terror occurs the child does not know where he is or what they are doing. you basically have to get down to his level.. and talk/ sooth him out of them..kinda like you are part of his terror.. they do grow out of them..at what age, thats the tricky part... usually doesnt last that long.. you said he is 5 therefore he should be about done with them.. but they can come and go...and as long as he stays calm relaxed and not tense he should be able to control them.. heres another remedy for this too...my childs doctor has told me to buy chamomille tea.. and make it up as a cold tea or a warm tea.. this tea is supposed to relax and calm the body.. i have given this to my children as a cold tea and they seem to like it better and it does work.. just dont let him drink it all day throughout the day.. only at bed time... i hope i have helped you ....if you have any other questions feel free to ask me...

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basically everything u have mentioned i do, so basically it sounds like night terrors from what u have said. do u know if there is a way to stop them or atleast control them? do u know if they grow out of them? or atleast learn to control their emotions and tactics when they have them?

Kelli - posted on 09/11/2009

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I have had problems with my children with this too, but they are only 3 and 4.. and i know where you are coming from with the " it works for daddy" issue...my kids can go to their dads house and they dont give him a problem going to bed... when they are with mommy they want to sleep with me... may i suggest a couple of different things..

my kids have a tv in their room, and their beds have a space on the floor between them...i have taken cushions, blankets, whatever needed, to make myself a comfy place to lay down near them but not with them.. put in a movie and wait for them to doze off.. and if there is no tv in his room. maybe try to go in and read him a story or just talk with him for a few minutes then explain to him that you need to go to bed get your rest.. that you will leave his door open and will be right in your room..

and if he is telling you that he is sleeping when this happens, maybe he is having night tremors.. my son has those as well.. kids dont realize they are doing sumthing when this happens... you need to take him ans softly talk him out of it and put him back into bed and let him knw things are going to be ok... and wait for him to doze off before leaving his side.

for him to know that you are going to be there and not leave will help comfort him more..i can only hope sumthing i mention helps you...

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no when he stays at his fathers house he has his own bed and does the bedtime routine the same as i do, everything he does before bed at his fathers place he does at my place aswell this is where his father got the routine for it.the only problem with the gate is he knows how to open them and he may call out to me but i may not hear him always as i don't always hear him all the time, even when he crawls into bed with me. thanks for the suggestion anyway as i would have probably thought of that one myself if it was someone else asking the question.

Samantha - posted on 09/11/2009

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You could try putting a small gate in the doorframe of his room and leaving the door open. Really, it is for his safety, so you know he is safe in his room while you are fast asleep. If he needs you, he'll call.

Also, I noticed you mentioned when he is at his dads he doesn't do this. Could it be possible that he sleeps in his dad's room and that is why he needs you so much at night? Or, does his dad possibly follow a slightly different sleeping schedule that might actually be working better for your son?

Wish you the best of luck!!

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he says he doesnt remember doing it when i ask him about it in the morning so i thought he must be asleep but there are times i wanna think twice about him actually doing this in his sleep

Valerie - posted on 09/10/2009

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My son does the same thing and I tried making a similar deal but I find most of the times he does this he's asleep! Now his baby sister is wanting to do the same thing and they are driving me crazy.

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thanks i'll give that a try and see what happens, the odd thing is when he's at his dad's he doesn't do this. this makes it confusing for me.

Laurie - posted on 09/10/2009

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My 5 year old son does this too. Often to help him feel settled in his bed, I'll lie with him while he drifts off to sleep, making sure he knows I won't be there all night. We also have a deal that he can only come into my bed once it's light in the morning and if he keeps to this I let him sleep in my bed from the morning for an hour or two. I find he's quite happy with this as he IS allowed to sleep with me for a little while as opposed to being banished from my bed at any time. Maybe it'll work for you?

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