How do other single moms make new friends?

Bella - posted on 04/19/2013

I have no friends that go no where I miss having girld night out :-( boo whooooo

Danielle - posted on 08/11/2012

I actually met two good friends down at the bus stop of all places! My one friend introduced me to some of her friends.

Mary - posted on 08/03/2012

Oh Sweetie. I'm a single mom too. I know how hard it is. This is a start here, and you are right it is hard to get out and talk to other people when your children are with you 24/7. I had the same issue with folks at church, although my son is from a rape and not a divorce. I was looked at by some people as this was my fault. It wasn't. I'm proud of you for defending yourself and your children! You needed to be out of that bad situation. I found that volunteering in my son's school or just talking to a mom in a McDonald's Play-land helps. You make friends through the friends of your children. You can do it. Don't give up. It will get better.

Nisha - posted on 07/31/2012

Hi I have the same problem no solution.

Tanya - posted on 03/16/2012

hi neic to meet you

CARRIE - posted on 10/09/2011

Girl i can not help u at all. i have the same damn problem. friends, boyfriends (which has been a while) just anyone. i went and did the park thing and i do all the activities in this small ass town. STILL NOTHING!! maybe we can help each other out on this one. lol maybe i'll just wait for them to come to me. he he he lol just messing round. I FEEL YA THOUGH!!!!

Margie - posted on 10/03/2011

Look into meetup.com for single parents groups. I did and have met some friends. It has been a lifesaver. :-)

Blossom - posted on 09/27/2011

famous words "We have allot in common, we should get together and chat sometime" this has gotten me lots of friends for me and my kids. I attend all birthday invites my kids receive from classmates and pitch up with gifts in hand and stay throughout and dont just drop them off. get chatting to other parents etc.

Karen - posted on 09/20/2011

I understand the feeling. Being a single parent is so very isolating. You have way less available time and your kids go everywhere you do. Add to that the fact that married parents disapprove, act like your situation is contagious, or just don't understand. Other single parents don't have any more time than you do...as a rule we don't get out much!
I recently moved to a new community, and am having the same problems. Hanging out at the park is nice, but doesn't get dinner on the table. While we make it occasionally, I have yet to meet any other parents there. Church is also great, but it's hard finding one that is accepting of my situation. One with other single parents who are in a similar situation seems to be asking too much.
I don't know what the answers are, but if you find them, please share!

KElly - posted on 09/16/2011

There is a web sight called meetup.com. I just found this web sight and last week and I've already went to a party that I didn't know anyone but wund up meeting a good friend. This web sight is really good, please check it out but watch out some places charge you a few bucks, once I get a job I will join them. Please let me know how you like it. good luck to you and everyone else whom is reading this post. :O)

Tiffany - posted on 09/12/2011

I have the same problem too! lol I am divorced, I do foster care, my kids are in some activities, but I still find it hard to really make friends. I have always been that way, so I can't help with advice, but I can let you know you are not alone. ;)..I try to talk to other moms, but I just can't seem to figure out how to get much farther then the friendly hello.

Tiffany - posted on 09/08/2011

The best place I think to start is to join a site for parents. A site like this :) I am finding it very difficult to find friends where I live who have kids.

Jane - posted on 09/07/2011

"Most moms at church will turn their heads if they here I am divorced"

Then you haven't found the right church yet. Keep looking! There is one out there.

Tricia - posted on 09/07/2011

Thanks for all the helpfull tips. We recently moved to a new town so my old church friends are to far away. We don't have much money so joinint extra groups right now isn't in our budget, but I hope someday. We go to the park alot but always see new people and it is a little hard for me to just ask someone to get together after talking for a couple of minutes. We are looking into a new church. It takes awhile to find that right group. Most moms at church will turn their heads if they here I am divorced, even if it was for mine and the kids protection. I don't trust easily at all due to things that happened and am finding it hard to open up to people. However I am aware of it and am working on it. I am glad there are other moms out there who understand. I hope peace finds you all.

Kimberlyn - posted on 09/07/2011

Have you tried church groups or at your kids' school? Meeting people at parks or within your community are some of the few places you can meet other moms with young kids. Also, if you enroll them in special classes like arts, music, or dance, there are parents who usually hang around until the classes are over. Hope you find some friends soon. Take care and God bless you and your kids. :)

Sandy - posted on 09/07/2011

Girl scouts or boy scouts is a good way to meet other moms and dads and also there is a group called Parents without Partners. They have single parent nights and also family events. Good luck.

Jane - posted on 09/06/2011

Join some sort of kid-friendly group. It might be a church of some sort, a play group, a craft group, some sort of reading activity at the library, or even a class of some kind, like Kindermusic. Our gym even has "Mommy and Me" exercise classes.

A friend of mine recently asked me to come to her Buddhist peace circle - I'm not a Buddhist, but a lot of the folks who are in our town tend to be artistic, and somewhat unconventional so its a good place to meet folks who are different.

Laurie - posted on 09/06/2011

I totally relate to you. I find everyone is busy with their families and don't choose to invite me to any social gathering. I have been told it's about being a single woman. It has nothing to do with having children with you. Then there are different types of single mums. Some have fathers who take the children at certain times, as well as pay child support. Some mums like me, have an abusive ex & upon the advice of highly qualified people as well as my own intelligent judgement - it is ver inappropriate for now to allow this man to have any contact at all. Due to recent physical health issues I have been unable to work for some time now, which really gets me down. It impacts upon my isolation and finances. The only way I have ever created some as semblance of meeting people while at the same time provides age appropriate activities for children, is at one of those alternate churches, even the baptist churches. There you will be welcomed, have ongoing invitations to a range of activities, with just women or as a family. I'm not suggesting being insincere, but it does work. It might take a little while to find women you click with, but in the process, you and ur children will enjoy a sense of belonging, large range of activities, support, and new friends. Just an idea. I have tried to do the mother stuff for sport & school & hated it. It wasn't just that the women were boring, their conversation and interests were absolutely of banal mediocrity. I have had a full life, am very eclectic in my interests, with a penchant for being creative and left of centre (unconventional), only to those women I have met who are insular, exclusive, & have to be part of a clique. I am always open to making new friends, something I never had trouble doing since I became a mother and moved from the eastern suburbs to poxy Sutherland shire. I wish you all the best!

Sherry - posted on 09/06/2011

I volunteer at my daughter's elementary school. I have her in cheerleading and girl scouts. We frequent the neighborhood pool. I also work full-time as a registered nurse. And I recently moved into a very family-oriented community. All of this allows me to meet friends. Plus it also allows me to make friends with people who have children around her age.

Sarah - posted on 09/02/2011

Take your kids to the park and chat with the other moms, maybe that will spark a new friendship... I have been having the same problem!