How do other single moms make new friends?

Tricia - posted on 08/30/2011 ( 41 moms have responded )

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I am a single mother of two children 7 and 3. My question is where and how do you meet other adult friends when you have your children with you almost all the time. Due to things that have happened in the past I hate leaving my children with sitters and rarely leave them with family. I would really love to make some new friends but find it hard getting out. I have family but it would be nice to have friends again. Any advice? I guess maybe I already started by joining this site.

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Racheal Ann - posted on 01/05/2014

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I am recently separated, with my divorce in process. I was with my soon to be ex husband since I was 15 years. Really he was my only friend. We never had friends outside of each other. I am in need of some single girlfriends, I am just not sure how to begin. Any suggestions?

Daniel - posted on 04/06/2015

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Well as a single father.
It is impossible to make new friends.
I have been a single father for 5 years now, and with my 2 boys. 6 and 8 yo.
There simply is no free time, or more like, no free energy left over...

Taban - posted on 04/19/2015

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Hi there its all about friendship,Arthur a Ugandan here though still single would like to be that one friend that will try to put a smile in your face by chating when you feel you are bored,tired or need someone to talk to.Feel free to add me or here is my whatsapp number +256705814034.Hopping to hear from you.

Mary - posted on 08/03/2012

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Oh Sweetie. I'm a single mom too. I know how hard it is. This is a start here, and you are right it is hard to get out and talk to other people when your children are with you 24/7. I had the same issue with folks at church, although my son is from a rape and not a divorce. I was looked at by some people as this was my fault. It wasn't. I'm proud of you for defending yourself and your children! You needed to be out of that bad situation. I found that volunteering in my son's school or just talking to a mom in a McDonald's Play-land helps. You make friends through the friends of your children. You can do it. Don't give up. It will get better.

Blossom - posted on 09/27/2011

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famous words "We have allot in common, we should get together and chat sometime" this has gotten me lots of friends for me and my kids. I attend all birthday invites my kids receive from classmates and pitch up with gifts in hand and stay throughout and dont just drop them off. get chatting to other parents etc.

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Tammytrent2010 - posted on 03/13/2017

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I am a single mom of 2 ages 7 and 1 me and my daughters dad just broke up I'm trying to find things to get him off my mind. I just don't know what to do or who to talk to I have no friends. What kind of groups can I join? What kind of things can I do to get over this? I did this with my sons dad but it was easy because he moved to a different state. I work with my daughters dad I don't see him all the time but it is goin to be hard when I do what do I do when I do see him? What kind of thing's can I do to stop thinking of him and what was between us? Thank you for all your help.

Sarah - posted on 02/27/2017

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To make friends, you just need to hangout where other moms are going to be. I spent hours each week at the library, park and rec center or the community pool.

Moira - posted on 02/25/2017

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I'm single mum with a 10 yr old daughter and would love find friends, adult company for some craic. To have ME time☺ I've lost all that and miss it. But I've tried to find things in my area and unsuccessful. Any ideas??

Sarah - posted on 02/16/2017

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Sarah W, Circle of Moms is a free, open and international site. Within the site are hundreds of communities ranging from christian parents to same sex couples, special need and moms who spank. Find the communities you want to join and you will find other moms that you share common beliefs. As far a friends? If you are looking for an actual physical meet-up, you can try your public library or park and rec center for a pre-school activity. Welcome!

Sarahw051983 - posted on 02/16/2017

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I'm sorry I see that this is an older post, but I'm a single mom of 4 the youngest are a year and a half, oldest 14 so I haven't had a friend for quite some time. Google and came actoss this site/post. I have to ask is this a racist or exclusively Christian site??? I see some church heavy comments and anti Muslim comments which are being liked, a lot. I just want to make a friend not stumble into a beief pushing intolerant type situation. Please someone let me know so I can find the right place. I'm desperate for someone to talk to.

Donna - posted on 07/12/2015

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Hi single mum for just over a year to 3 girls aged 12 years 9 years and nearly 4 years . Tired of feeling sad and lonely xxx

Daniel - posted on 04/07/2015

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Well thats a good idea.
Unfortunatly my kids dont want too, they are stuck on their computers.
I dont like to drag my kids somewhere, then watch as they dont want to take part.

Plus most of the other parents are mothers, and even worse muslim mothers.
So there is virtually no chance of making friends.

Its not a problem, who needs friends.....

:)

Laura - posted on 04/07/2015

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You get your children involved in activities they like and you become likable to the other parents on your children's team.

Nadine - posted on 10/17/2014

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I'm in the same situatio, ssinglemmom, new town. I will definately try some of the suggestions posted. It's good to know that there are other women going through thessame thing. I was starting to think there was something wrong with me, why I was having so much trouble finding friends. I feel bit more hopeful now, thank you!

Christy - posted on 07/02/2014

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Rachael Ann where do you live? My ex husband controlled me to the point of having no friends. Now the mother of a 13 year old daughter I would like to make some friends and have a girls night out every now and then.

Amanda - posted on 11/13/2013

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I know how you feel...im I'm in NC and I don't have 1 friend.my husband and I just separated and I have went Into a deep depression...i even thought about taking an add out just to meet a friend...lol..now that's desperate....what state do you live in?

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Hi my name is Shannon. My suggestion would be to try and join a group of girls like a walking trails group or hiking group, any kind of activity where a few woman get together with a common purpose or goal or something they do together.

By joining them you will have similar interests then.

Let me know if it helps.

Regards.

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Julie - posted on 08/26/2013

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I've done a lot of Meetup Groups on meetup.com to make friends with other single moms in my local area. I'm also in a metropolitan area, so I have a few groups in rotation. The groups I've been to have been nice because they allow for events you can do with your kids and also outings where it's just mom's night out too. Sometimes you just want to put on a cute outfit and connect with other women who 'get it'. I count on these groups for a lot of social outings. My daughter has made some friends too. Friends I've known for longer either are married without kids or single without kids so I don't hang out with them as much.

Vanessa - posted on 06/29/2013

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I have been trying everything! I swear & still NO friends. All the moms I meet throught my son's school are married and seem to already have enough friends keeping them busy. All they do is call me up to see if their kid can come over to my house and play. Basically, needing my free babysitting services I guess. It is getting pretty painful. I have lots of friends before I had a child. We have moved twice since my son was born, so I do not live anywhere near my good friends.

So I am not help. I actually looked at this thread to see what kind of advice others gave you. I hope you have better luck than I.

Bella - posted on 04/19/2013

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I have no friends that go no where I miss having girld night out :-( boo whooooo

Danielle - posted on 08/11/2012

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I actually met two good friends down at the bus stop of all places! My one friend introduced me to some of her friends.

CARRIE - posted on 10/09/2011

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Girl i can not help u at all. i have the same damn problem. friends, boyfriends (which has been a while) just anyone. i went and did the park thing and i do all the activities in this small ass town. STILL NOTHING!! maybe we can help each other out on this one. lol maybe i'll just wait for them to come to me. he he he lol just messing round. I FEEL YA THOUGH!!!!

Margie - posted on 10/03/2011

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Look into meetup.com for single parents groups. I did and have met some friends. It has been a lifesaver. :-)

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I understand the feeling. Being a single parent is so very isolating. You have way less available time and your kids go everywhere you do. Add to that the fact that married parents disapprove, act like your situation is contagious, or just don't understand. Other single parents don't have any more time than you do...as a rule we don't get out much!
I recently moved to a new community, and am having the same problems. Hanging out at the park is nice, but doesn't get dinner on the table. While we make it occasionally, I have yet to meet any other parents there. Church is also great, but it's hard finding one that is accepting of my situation. One with other single parents who are in a similar situation seems to be asking too much.
I don't know what the answers are, but if you find them, please share!

KElly - posted on 09/16/2011

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There is a web sight called meetup.com. I just found this web sight and last week and I've already went to a party that I didn't know anyone but wund up meeting a good friend. This web sight is really good, please check it out but watch out some places charge you a few bucks, once I get a job I will join them. Please let me know how you like it. good luck to you and everyone else whom is reading this post. :O)

Tiffany - posted on 09/12/2011

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I have the same problem too! lol I am divorced, I do foster care, my kids are in some activities, but I still find it hard to really make friends. I have always been that way, so I can't help with advice, but I can let you know you are not alone. ;)..I try to talk to other moms, but I just can't seem to figure out how to get much farther then the friendly hello.

Tiffany - posted on 09/08/2011

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The best place I think to start is to join a site for parents. A site like this :) I am finding it very difficult to find friends where I live who have kids.

Jane - posted on 09/07/2011

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"Most moms at church will turn their heads if they here I am divorced"

Then you haven't found the right church yet. Keep looking! There is one out there.

Tricia - posted on 09/07/2011

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Thanks for all the helpfull tips. We recently moved to a new town so my old church friends are to far away. We don't have much money so joinint extra groups right now isn't in our budget, but I hope someday. We go to the park alot but always see new people and it is a little hard for me to just ask someone to get together after talking for a couple of minutes. We are looking into a new church. It takes awhile to find that right group. Most moms at church will turn their heads if they here I am divorced, even if it was for mine and the kids protection. I don't trust easily at all due to things that happened and am finding it hard to open up to people. However I am aware of it and am working on it. I am glad there are other moms out there who understand. I hope peace finds you all.

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Have you tried church groups or at your kids' school? Meeting people at parks or within your community are some of the few places you can meet other moms with young kids. Also, if you enroll them in special classes like arts, music, or dance, there are parents who usually hang around until the classes are over. Hope you find some friends soon. Take care and God bless you and your kids. :)

Sandy - posted on 09/07/2011

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Girl scouts or boy scouts is a good way to meet other moms and dads and also there is a group called Parents without Partners. They have single parent nights and also family events. Good luck.

Jane - posted on 09/06/2011

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Join some sort of kid-friendly group. It might be a church of some sort, a play group, a craft group, some sort of reading activity at the library, or even a class of some kind, like Kindermusic. Our gym even has "Mommy and Me" exercise classes.

A friend of mine recently asked me to come to her Buddhist peace circle - I'm not a Buddhist, but a lot of the folks who are in our town tend to be artistic, and somewhat unconventional so its a good place to meet folks who are different.

User - posted on 09/06/2011

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I totally relate to you. I find everyone is busy with their families and don't choose to invite me to any social gathering. I have been told it's about being a single woman. It has nothing to do with having children with you. Then there are different types of single mums. Some have fathers who take the children at certain times, as well as pay child support. Some mums like me, have an abusive ex & upon the advice of highly qualified people as well as my own intelligent judgement - it is ver inappropriate for now to allow this man to have any contact at all. Due to recent physical health issues I have been unable to work for some time now, which really gets me down. It impacts upon my isolation and finances. The only way I have ever created some as semblance of meeting people while at the same time provides age appropriate activities for children, is at one of those alternate churches, even the baptist churches. There you will be welcomed, have ongoing invitations to a range of activities, with just women or as a family. I'm not suggesting being insincere, but it does work. It might take a little while to find women you click with, but in the process, you and ur children will enjoy a sense of belonging, large range of activities, support, and new friends. Just an idea. I have tried to do the mother stuff for sport & school & hated it. It wasn't just that the women were boring, their conversation and interests were absolutely of banal mediocrity. I have had a full life, am very eclectic in my interests, with a penchant for being creative and left of centre (unconventional), only to those women I have met who are insular, exclusive, & have to be part of a clique. I am always open to making new friends, something I never had trouble doing since I became a mother and moved from the eastern suburbs to poxy Sutherland shire. I wish you all the best!

Sherry - posted on 09/06/2011

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I volunteer at my daughter's elementary school. I have her in cheerleading and girl scouts. We frequent the neighborhood pool. I also work full-time as a registered nurse. And I recently moved into a very family-oriented community. All of this allows me to meet friends. Plus it also allows me to make friends with people who have children around her age.

Sarah - posted on 09/02/2011

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Take your kids to the park and chat with the other moms, maybe that will spark a new friendship... I have been having the same problem!

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