How Do Single Moms Afford To Live?!?

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Vanessa - posted on 12/31/2012

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My job is part time and Im so afraid I wont make enough to support my son once my boyfriend leaves. And the child support thing is a joke. I've never seen any. (From my ex husband ). I've put resumes out everywhere. I just wander how I will keep the lights on.

Regina - posted on 09/14/2009

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BLOOD SWEAT AND TEARS!!! lots and lots of budgeting, good support network... relatives /friends....and a whole lot of love.

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Jenny - posted on 08/28/2014

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I work full time and still struggle everyday! its so hard....bday partys, xmas its very very tight. not living in a good neighborhood =(

Malaika - posted on 06/04/2014

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Indigo Lankton - posted on 04/21/2014
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Molly - posted on 05/02/2014

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I was cleaning people's homes...
ask around..friends..at work..landlords...
if you clean fast and well..its extra income

Traci - posted on 04/20/2014

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I have gotten through it by bartending. It allows me to work 3 or 4 nights a week and yet raise my child. Day care doesn't raise him...I do! I am working while he is sleeping , I am working. I would love to go to colllege though. No child support either. Men suck! We need a woman president

Gwen - posted on 01/01/2013

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Hello, i am not really struggling with finances, but simply with disciplining two teenager boys. Any advice is appreciated. My kids like to hang out with their friends and don't study very much. One son has problems with truancy. They are both in high school.

Tara - posted on 09/15/2009

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trust me it is not easy at all i have three kids and it gets crazy but somehow they never starve or go without anything and i mean anything. we a single moms have to have faith we have to be go getters....nut if anyone know how to make life a lil easier for a single mother of three E-mail me at stkittsqueen@yahoo.com...seriously....

Samantha - posted on 09/13/2009

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We just do because we have to for the kids and we can, its hard but we learn to live simply and enjoy things others take for granted, we become super organised with meals and budget and we save as much as you can each week. Theres allot of agency's that can help when things get tough but theres no reason why it can't be done when it has to be that way.

Karla - posted on 09/13/2009

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Right know my parent, brother, my aunt and I (and daughter) are trying to help each other house so we're living together. I'm in the process of getting a new job that pays more and then I'm out. Its been nice to save a little money but my sanity is more important.

Ann - posted on 09/13/2009

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It can be very difficult constant financial juggling that never ends, forget about a social life, or any decent clothes for yourself as well as any pampering you may have done before kids! I am self employed in Ireland so at the moment the recession has killed my business no clients no money!
I invite people to dinner as a social event and always watch a movie or play games! I cook everything myself my children eat what I eat, no jars of food, I breastfeed so no formula way too expensive, I have the best clothes for my children because I wait for the sales. I am a trained masseuse and reflexologist amongst other things so I swap services, a friend is a hairdresser standing all day so we trade she does my hair and I treat her to Reflexology, another friend is a beautician so we also swap, another a gardener, she helps me with the gardening and I treat her to massage! I swap massages with other people I trained with so I can be pampered regularly. I have no maintenance from my daughters father so financially I have very little to live on, I grow vegetables, herbs and fruit so that saves me a lot of money and I pick a day to spend cooking for the rest of the week with 3 & 4 dishes in the oven at once and all the hobs going at once it does save on the electricity and frees up time to spend the my baby daughter.

Ann - posted on 09/12/2009

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Try not to ever use credit cards. They can get you into trouble if you don't have the money now you probably wont have it later. My ex has been out of work for a year and it is getting very hard. I had $3 in the bank for a week and a half until I got paid. Look for cheap and fun things to do with the kids...dollar movies, free museum visits, coupon cutting for deals etc. Be inventive, I also went to work for the before and after school program so that my kids could go there for free. Lucky for me but they now charge some of the employees for thier children depending on the amount of hours they work. One of the most rewarding part of that experience is that I was still with my children, and they felt safe. I actually still work there and now two of my children worked for the program. The money isn't great but with my exes support money I was making it now it is becoming more difficult. Food pantrys, and my church have helped me also my mom when I am desparate. I have been divorced for over 10 years and it doesn't get easier but it is definitely better than being married. I always try to remember that when I get down.

Shanna - posted on 09/12/2009

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I'm currently going to colleg so I get some money each month from my student loan and I have the child tax benifit money that somes in every month. It's extremely hard to do becasue it's not much money at all but you work with what you get. My daughter goes to daycare while I'm at school so the government subsidises a portion of the daycare costs as well. It's definately not easy but It works if you work it! I'm counting down the days till im done school so i can go back to work!

Emily - posted on 09/08/2009

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i dont know! but it does scare me! and i want to be a stay at home mom! I dont believe in creshe when baby is so young, else you miss alll the first things, how on earth is this possible, only to work from home?!

Heather - posted on 09/08/2009

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we just have to take every thing as it comes. i find if i dont try to live beond my means.i see it as if i cant afford to pay cash i cant afford it full stop im fine and as long as my daughter has what she needs all is good.picking up clothes the next size up when on offer or reduced prices is a good thing put them away in wardrobe and its amasing how much you can get( i have night dresses for my daughter till she turns 5 years they were a £1 each and i bought 2 ov each size ) this can also apply for shoes/ trainers when they are in one size look out for next in the redused section all they need is a good pair a playing out pair this way ov working out clothing helps to be able to treat them to other things instead ov worrying that there growing out ov things . also keep all good in condition toys. clothes ,child related things and sell them on when not needed grown out ov or no longer played with at car boots sales or computer selling sites and the money you get back form them you buy more ov what you need to get ahead ( i do one before my daughters birthday the money i get back goes on getting birthday presents and the next stages clothes and shoes ) i do good for my daughter but i cant say for myself i go without most ov the time but im happy i may not go out any more but we have food in our tums clothes on our back and a warm house and most ov all i have my babbie.

JaRhondaLynn - posted on 09/05/2009

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Quoting Roz:

It is very hard. It is the most difficult part of being a single parent to me. I worry a lot! I never have enough money yet I always have too much to ever get any help. I don't have any relatives to help either so it has always been all me. I lost a decent job last September so it is even harder now. Somehow we make it but I am never sure how!


Roz How we make it I have learned since being laid off as a teacher in Texas last year with a 16y.o. is that God makes up the difference. Always remember He is a father to the fatherless and He has our back 100%.

JaRhondaLynn - posted on 09/05/2009

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Quoting Roz:

It is very hard. It is the most difficult part of being a single parent to me. I worry a lot! I never have enough money yet I always have too much to ever get any help. I don't have any relatives to help either so it has always been all me. I lost a decent job last September so it is even harder now. Somehow we make it but I am never sure how!


Roz How we make it I have learned since being laid off as a teacher in Texas last year with a 16y.o. is that God makes up the difference. Always remember He is a father to the fatherless and He has our back 100%.

Jayme - posted on 09/04/2009

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As a single mom...you go without to provide for your child. Stop eating out, nights out, pedicures/manicures, shop for your child and not yourself.Buy generic brand items (even formula) and use coupons when possible. Work overtime when possible...it is hard but can be done...by anyone. Find an at home daycare, rather than a daycare facility. These are all things that have worked for me.

Mandy - posted on 09/04/2009

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I live in the UK and although it was a struggle at first i must say that i am manging ok. I have to budget and keep an eye on what i spend but its ok. I am on benifits at the moment and am able to save up to visit my dad in spain once a year. It took some getting used to but i managing ok. I am going back to college to retrain for another career and would not be able to do this if it was not for the state benefits i get. I feel so lucky that i am able to get this support.

Susan - posted on 09/04/2009

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I know how you all feel. I have been doing this for 15 years and it doesn't seem to get any easier.

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It is a real struggle to begin with and I suppose from my persepctive it subsides but never really goes away. We do somehow do it and I have to ask myself how, but we do. For me I find the hardest bit is having debt and then catching up on my gas and electric bills the most struggle. I have no one that can help me and I dont even have any mummy friends close by that I could see on a regular basis which makes it even more harder. People suggest to go out and meet other mums, and while I would like to I t makes me realise I am not the confident person I once thought and its so much harder to make friends when you ae old then when you were at school, I guess its the fear of being rejected. I think all us mums/moms deserve so much more for everything we do and that includes the mistakes we make along the way!!

Amy - posted on 09/03/2009

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I am finding out with my 3month old, it is very hard, I have a decent job and I am trying to save money where I can and my baby's father will hopefully help with the sitter costs when I go back to work. The hardest part is not being able to completely rely on the baby's father, I try to always have a back up plan.

Caroline - posted on 09/02/2009

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It is really hard. I have a decent job, but it still seems like I never have enough money. I do alot of bargain shopping for groceries, clothes, you name it. I tried to get help, and was told I don't qualify. It is scary, but you do what you have to do, even it means you have to go without any kind of luxury items (getting your nails done, a new pair of shoes, new clothes, going out with friends). You just have to keep going forward. Day care is what gets you, so if you have somebody who is willing to help you out and watch your kids for little or nothing, that is a huge help too. My mom did that for me, and it helped out so much.
Hang in there, it can be done.

Stephanie - posted on 08/13/2009

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The governenment (in ontario canada) offers lots of help and services to single parents. I had to do a lot of research and investigating... but it was worth it. Now, a lot i don't qualify for because I have a good job and I'm not mental or anything, but what I got I was grateful for. Every little bit helps right?

Start going to parent/kids stuff to meet other moms, sitter swaping really help me out (taking turns watching each others kids)

It is hard! but do we know any other way?

Good luck.



p.s. buying my house helped loads! Rent was double my mortgage!! But understandibly, not everyone qualifies for that either.

Roz - posted on 08/13/2009

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It is very hard. It is the most difficult part of being a single parent to me. I worry a lot! I never have enough money yet I always have too much to ever get any help. I don't have any relatives to help either so it has always been all me. I lost a decent job last September so it is even harder now. Somehow we make it but I am never sure how!

Tamara - posted on 08/13/2009

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its hard but you get used to it, takes some time though, i used to work midnights so that i could spend all my time with ailey, now that she is almost 2 i work early mornings i go in at 4 and get off at 11, so i still have the day with her, but my sister in law watchs her for me so i dont go broke, but i also get help from the state, because i just have a hard time trying to pay for everything, now i that i am back from medical it'll get easier, hang in there

Jessoliver87 - posted on 08/13/2009

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We just do. We have to do the best with what we have and get because we have to. Its definitely hard work though!! I'm lucky to be living with my mum so I have help from her.

Sandy - posted on 08/12/2009

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Trust me, it's not easy. Fortunately I have a lot of friends and family around that help with watching my daughter so I don't have to pay for a sitter. If I didn't have all the help that I do there is NO WAY I'd be able to afford to live. Basically you've got to run yourself ragged. It's not much fun but it's way worth it.

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