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How do u figure out which last name you want to give your child?

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Karen - posted on 09/06/2009

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My suggestion is for giving the kids your last name. I have 3 kids with 2 different last names and none of them have my name and it is a pain to have to explain the name situation everywhere we go. If the kid has your name and you marry the kids dad in the future you can change their name t match your obviously or you and the kids can hyphenate your names if you want. Whatever you do make sure you can kive with your decision cause getting kids names changed is a pain in the butt. I hope this helps.

Ramona - posted on 09/05/2009

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The thing u need to think about is how your child might feel I have three daughters my oldest and my youngest both have my last name even though my last two are from the same father I only gave my second daughter her fathers last name because we were "together" now I really regret it he isn't around because he has issues ( drugs and spousal abuse) and she constantly tells me that she wishes she had my last name. and it is such a hassle at school since they want to call me by his last name. push come to shove if u really want his last name involved hyphenate but think really hard u r not obligated to give your child his last name

Georgina - posted on 09/05/2009

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i have 2 kids and both have my last name 1 reason for this is there dad's didn't stick around but another reason for this is that most people/schools ect. assume that mother and child have the same last name when i was a teenager my mum got re married and changed her name and schools would cal her by my last name and it use to get very annoying having to corect them all the time and as i don't plan to change my last name even if i do get married some time in the very distent fucher, also my kisd would have diffrernt last names if they didn't have my last name witch is something to think about if your gonna have more kids do you really want them to have different last names.

Shelly - posted on 09/04/2009

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We chose to hyphenate both names. We were together, but not married at the time. In school, they just go by my name, as I am the sole provider, but their legal names are both.

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