How does the whole child support thing work? who pays for what?

Monique - posted on 03/01/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )

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How does child support work? I have been a single mother since my son was born almost 9 months ago and i would just like to know if anybody knows what the father is supposed to be paying for? He does earn more than me and i just feel like he is not paying enough. i have no extra money for myself every month, yet he is going on holidays and dining out every weekend? Am i being selfish? i just feel like he should pay a little more because at the end of the day he only sees my son for a couple hours on the weekend and im the one doing everything and yet i cant even afford to go out for dinner.

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Monique - posted on 03/01/2010

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wow thanks guys, your so helpful. No i didnt go through court because he has never refused to pay for our son i just feel terrible asking for more because he is being so co-operative, so i rather go without, but its getting to the stage where im starting to feel a little resentment towards him because he can do so much and i cant. I live in South Africa so im not sure if you'll be able to find out Elizabeth but thank you so much for offering anyway. I think ill seek legal advise just to see what is fair for both of us. thanks again guys!

Elizabeth - posted on 03/01/2010

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I agree with Sherry. I have been a single mother since my son was born and when his father started to give me child support outside of the court i felt the same way so i went there and got help and it went from him giving me $300 a month to them making him give me $700 not including childcare cost. What state are you in? I could possibly find out what he SHOULD be paying if you dont want to go through court so you can show him.

Sherry - posted on 03/01/2010

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was there an order by the court or does he just give u money voluntarily? Public aid is all about getting the support that u need to help raise ur kid..I would go talk to them and they will go after him for the amount that is fair to both of you..

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