Stacy - posted on 07/12/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )
I am the single mother of a special needs child. Her father is on the birth certificate and I have a court order for monthly child support, which he still hasn't paid a dime towards what he owes. I also have a restraining order against him with which I have custody of her and he gets supervised visitations with a deputy for 3 hours every other Sunday. He has shown up once since the start of the restraining order at the end of January. He has canceled 4 times. She does not know who he is and that one visitation affected her health so badly, I have to consider getting a doctors envolment if he tries to see her again. I am seeing someone else now, and we plan on getting married eventually, and she knows him as her dad and he wants to adopt her after we are married. When we went to child support court, her biological father said he would not sign over his rights and would not let me change her last name. What can I do to get him to change his mind? And now he is in hiding because they are going to issue a warrant for non support. But he keeps calling me telling me I have to return his calls and he is going to press charges for me because he has rights to find out about his daughter! First the judge said we have to maintain some form of contact because we have a child together, but says nothing about it in the restraining order. I could have him arrested for violation of the restraining order for phone calls, but I don't want to have to go through all of the court stuff again, let alone see him again. Now I found out that the deputies can still allow the visitations even if he owes child support! Why does he get the rights to see her, once every 6 months, even when he owes so much money? He obviously doesn't want her because she is not a "normal" kid like all of his other friends' kids. And now he is seeing (living with) someone else who has three kids and doesn't receive any support from their father, but the mother lets their father see them no questions asked. So because he sees her doing that, he thinks he can get away with the same thing. I am so confused, and I can't work because of my daughter's disabilities so we are on a very limited income. How am I supposed to afford an attorney to answer these questions and to help me out with my daughter's rights? Any feedback will be greatfully appreciated!