How to deal with a deadbeat dad?

Amanda - posted on 01/11/2010 ( 230 moms have responded )

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I need to vent. Drew's dad has never met him. I have been holding out hope that he will come to his senses and realize he is missing out on the best thing he could have in his life and ask me to see him. I have sent him messages via email and text (cuz he doesn't answer when I call) trying to be as polite and non-pushy as I can be but telling him he can see his son whenever he wants but to no avail. I feel like today was the final cutoff when he deleted me from his myspace. That was a knife to the heart. How could someone so easily write off their own child? It blows my mind. What am I supposed to tell my son when he asks about his dad someday? "Sorry sweetheart, but your daddy didn't want you."? Don't know why I'm sharing this with everyone but I just needed to put it out there. Any advice on how to deal with a deadbeat dad?

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Alyse - posted on 07/08/2013

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I'm in the same boat, but with twins....didn't acknowledge our daughter when she was having open heart and kidney surgery at 3 and 4 months of age.....no communication until they were about 7 1/2 months old....he finally met them when they were 8 months old (that is the only time he's seen them, they will be a year old this month)....communication was ok after that.....then it tapered off again until nothing. Sometimes, the best thing to do is to shed those tears for the pain you feel for your children, get mad and then move on. Currently I'm in between the "get mad" and "move on" stages. If they don't want to make the effort to be in their children's lives, then they probably don't deserve to be there anyway and the kids will be better off. And remember, when the kids DO start asking questions.....and they will....try not to talk down their father, that's not good to do...but neither is making a bunch of excuses for him. Just be realistic about it to them...Good luck hon...and good luck to everyone else dealing with a douche hole.

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From my opinion, having dealt with not one but two deadbeat dads-COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS. Stop the communication attempts with him. Its the best thing for you and your child. Its drama you can do without.

Mom Of - posted on 06/26/2013

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You cannot change the way a person deals with/feels about their children. Damaged people cannot see the hurt they cause other people. Continue to be a supportive and loving mom to your child. One great parent is better than having having two parents with one of the two being emotionally unattached to the child. Hopefully in his own time the dad will come around but if he doesnt unfortunately there isnt much you can do about.

I would make sure that he is put on child support. Not wanting to be an active participant in your childs life does not alleviate the financial responsibility of having children. Hang in there!

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Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do to force a man to want to be a "father". You can make him pay money, but that is not what you are asking. Your child unfortunately will suffer. All you can do is be there for Drew. Love this child as much as you can. When he asks about his dad, you can just say, "I am both Mom and Dad to you and have always been. My love for you is soooo big is it enough for both roles!" (that is good for a young one) As he ages, you can just explain that your relationship with his dad did not work out and it is just you and him. There really is not reason to destroy his father to him, as that will cause major issues within your child as he ages - kind of like, what is wrong with ME that my dad didn't love me. You DO NOT want to cause that. He may need a counselor when he grows up - or by that time, you may have found a loving partner. You cannot predict the future, but at this time, just love this child with all you have. That is the best thing you can do. Stay strong. Many hugs.

Ryna - posted on 03/21/2013

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Dear Amanda,I am also sailing in the same boat.my son is 9th old.his father hs never cared to meet or talk to him.but that is something not in my hands to change.all I can say is stop giving him so much importance.don't give the remote control of your n your son's life in someone's hand who doesn't value it.it's not worth it.life is much more than this.everything in life happens for a reason.......n if we are patient n accept it wholeheartedly,only good comes out of it.have faith in the Almighty.you never know what good comes out of this.role of a father is important in a child's life.but the presence of an irresponsible father in your son's life,is the most fatal for his life.
Learn to find ways to be happy-just two of u.if someone comes along (as ur partner) to be ur son's father or a friend,well n good.Otherwise,you are capable n very well know that u cn give your child a bright n happy childhood all alone.A single woman alone is worth hundred men.I hv learnt it with my own experience.
Lots of love n best wishes for the new beautiful life ahead.I know u have it and u can do it!!!

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Camille - posted on 07/29/2014

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My daughter just turned 9 and wouldn't know her biological father if she bumped into him. He has been able to not pay the court ordered child support by living in Florida since that state won't do anything because we live in the state next door. I have talked to DHR in both states and talked to a lawyer and was told it's a dead case since the laws to help have gotten worse since 2007. My ex deserves to be in jail so my next move is to take away what is left of his legal parental rights.

Mom Of All - posted on 07/14/2014

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My daughter is 13 years old. Her father has been in and out of her life for the last 6 years. Meaning he'd be there on 2 occasions in the past 5 years then disappear. My daughter doesn't want to go anywhere alone with him. He recently asked if she can spend a week with him but I don't feel comfortable and after asking her neither does she. The best thing to do is focus on the people who love and support your child not on those who chose to do other things. Your child will eventually see for themselves what his absence means.

Kesha - posted on 05/09/2014

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wow deadbeat dads! I got one for you the amazing liar I asked him to get her one day a week and he said I am expecting way to much! really

God - posted on 04/14/2014

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@ GENERAL

Why dont you just start a Dead beats R Us organization?? It takes 2 to procreate there fore the aforementioned 2 shall bare responsibility in caring for said child.

And if you consider getting your wages/ tax returns garnished, license revoked, and possible jail time for violating court orders freedom than you, who call yourself a man are as stupid as the woman who decided it was in her best interest to have you.

General - posted on 04/08/2014

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Ma'am. .....no.....you still didn't answer The question. ...first off,if you got married or a guy purposely started a family and ran.,im right onThe horse next to you with the lynch mob....but if its just something that happened then no......its your choice then its your bag....you get all the choice and all the glory!!!!.....what happened to the responsibility to yourself???,what are you going to teach your child??.....I know if im a child I would not want to be around someone who's going to resent my very being,the sting of those eye's lasts generation upon generation. ...,and its all because mommy fought tooth and nail for that child support money.....and it wasn't even enough to make a difference but it was just enough to effect daddy's life...,and at the end of the day whats best for the child should be what you think about most....thats why you shouldn't give yourself to a man that doesn't truelly want to be with you,and ma'am you know!!!!...I would rather know that my mom hustled and did what she had to do to make sure that I was ok...at least ill know one person in my life talked the talk and walked the walk...thats the kind of character I'd want my kids to see and have....,but who am I????....so no....no chid support no nothing!!!!!

Desiree - posted on 04/07/2014

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First to you, ingnorance is bliss. Yes both adults made the conscious decision to have sex as they risk getting pregnant or an STD. Either way it's a gamble on both sides. You can argue that women are more at fault than men because they can have an abortion,blah blah blah. However, the psychologically and physically effects it has on a woman has been proven to develope deep seeded problems later in life.Therefore, you must understand that it not just about having an abortion and that's it " out of sight out of mind", there is more to it. Regarding, good girl bad girl. What about the men? Do you honestly think most women want to have a baby by a man who is too poor to buy diapers and too immature to wipe his ass? Do you really think that most women dream of being in a situation where the father is a schmuck? Do you really believe the content you wrote? My friend you sound like you need to live life a little more and educate yourself because your words sound like a boy speaking and not a man. Btw- there is a plethora of single moms that were once married and find themselves divorced. As well as exclusive relationships that went south for one reason or another. My point is, a person is going to be a deadbeat parent regardless of the relational status. If its not in that person's heart to be a parent to take on their responsibility and obligation than my friend that is why we have laws in place to ensure the best interest of the child not the parents.
It goes both ways 50/50 if you don't want kids don't have sex as its a risk especially if one is having it with random people.

Desiree - posted on 04/07/2014

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I too am a single mom of three. I have been to hell in back with my ex. Everything from extortion to death threats all because he didn't want to pay child support. I have been harassed and my car keyed. He was my college sweetheart who turned into Satan after our kiddos were born. He doesn't want to be involved in their young lives and at one point I was forcing him to be. Now, I say no way. They are now 11 and 9 yrs old. He has been absent for the past 8 years and didn't support them not once. My kiddos have asked about him, and I tell them" daddy is working on getting his life together". I've never spoken ill because when they get older they will form their own opinion about him and it's not going to be a pretty one with a bow. The point I'm trying to make is don't allow this schmuck to dictate your life and son's. If he doesn't want to be involved let him go. He will one day grow some balls and come to realize he royally messed up. I've learned that any man who intentionally walks away from their child does not deserve their child's love. Also, I would advise if you have already to seek child support you may not need it but he has a responsibility and a obligation

General - posted on 04/04/2014

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Hello everyone,I am a male and just happened on to this site and read a few posts and was wondering something,...when did it become ok for a women to bear a child and extend a mans bloodlines when he doesn't want you to have his child?????,I mean ,I know some people will belittle what I just wrote but if you want men that show perceived character then why dont one of you just answer the question. ...think about it. ..I mean just look at both sides for a second,guy meets girl,no promises made and you lay down with him and a child is produced,women fought tooth and nail for the right to have sex outside of the relm of reproduction..but what happens when a man doesn't want to have a child???.I know ,he should have kept it in his pants,he should have wrapped it up,and other sayings come to mind..but remember good girls keep their legs closed and sayings like that??,at the end of the day you have the right for child support,and in a fit of anger many choose this path of confrontation,and why is it Confrontational you might ask???...because most of you are not having sex with wealthy men,and times are hard and the average guy makes just enough to live and maybe even have a little bit of joy in his life with the women he really wants,and remember were in modern times,cell phone,apartment,car,insurance,clothes and food all are essential in having a standard of living that can show the ability to provide for a decent modern women.so most men cant take care of two homes at once. ..and at what point do you say "this is my fault,because I knowingly laid down with a man without any commitment,or promise of future support should anything happen????.you can do anything a man can do but better,remember????..all im saying is we know what the law says ,but we all know laws are made to keep a society running not individual morality,thats an individual thing,so I guess most men feel that if they are not gonna enjoy the benefits of the joys of fatherhood,they would rather do nothing at all....,to me thats true justice and its the reason men no BOYS died on the soil of foreign lands for the idea of democracy and freedom of choice!..with great power comes great responsibility,at least thats what we tell boys..personally I think a woman with child should move on and go on with life,life is too short ,no child support no nothing. ..truly take ownership of the situation,its the one you made and As your Child matures youll be surprised at the level of respect he or she have for you. ..thats really whats best for the child ,I mean if thats what were truly trying to do...thats all I have to say...good luck and remember the conscious of a man is always his heaviest burden most men in time will come around. ..trust me but if you choose the path of war(child support)then all bets are off ,you and your child get what you get.

User - posted on 03/19/2014

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Hi Amanada. Like you I am a single mom with a father who seemingly wants not much to do with his son. It took him 2 years to come around and now that he has I almost wish he hadn't because he is hardly ever here and he is a "no show" most of the time. I know this might not help, and you have written this two years ago, it does get a little bit easier. I have been looking for help too to deal with it because it is always hard. I still can't get my son's father to pay child support or help out financially.

I think it is best to just leave him alone and move one with your life. Your son is best without him. He deserves a parent who is there and loves him 100%. And his father definitely isn't going to be that person. And I wouldn't want him around if he has to be forced into it. He's the idiot. Some day he might even realize it.

Instead of focusing on him not being there, look at everything you get because he isn't. You get all the hugs and I love you's. You get all the rewards.

I hope it all works out for you.

Beth - posted on 02/16/2014

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Hi Amanda, I know exactly how you feel as I felt the same way during my whole pregnancy and first year of my child's birth. I would pray about it and leave it in God's hands. I didn't nag or bother him so much with her, but I decided I would not let him forget that she is here. So every 2 or 3 months, I would send him a picture on facebook or tell him that she needed diapers (even though she really didn't). With the hope that one day, it would hit him, that he has someone who is more important, an innocent child. He didn't come around until our child support hearing, when she was 11 months. But honestly it felt better for me to see them interact, than it did my daughter. It seems she sensed a connection to him because she doesn't do well with strangers, but opened up to him pretty quickly. But ultimately, if she sees him now and not again until she is 5 years old, I don't think she will remember him. It seems like it was more for me to cope with being a single parent. And I made a mistake in this whole process of them finally meeting...by getting pregnant again by him. I actually just made a post about it in this very forum.

But I wanted to share my experience with you, hopefully it help somewhat. Mainly just be patient. I wish you the best!

Christian - posted on 02/16/2014

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Hi Amanda,
I put your dilemma to my bright Sunday School class. It would seem that your energy is being focused on the wrong issues. You cannot control what someone does, only what you do and how you choose to react to events. So what do you tell your child? You tell your child they are beautiful and smart. If there are positive things about the dad, you tell your child those things, any attempt to get back at the dad through the child will only affect that child’s self-esteem. It will not hurt the dad at all. The child also will carry an adult’s burden on their shoulder, and be trained not to forgive others. By the way, I managed to show the class the picture of the child of a deadbeat dad, whose mother chose to tell him only the positive things about his dad. In the picture the child was ten and it was the first and only time he saw his father. He went on to become the President of the United States. Feed positivity, power, and love to your child. Tell your child “Each family looks different, ours consist of a beautiful and intelligent you and a very pleased me.”

Christian - posted on 02/16/2014

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Hi Amanda,
I put your dilemma to my bright Sunday School class. It would seem that your energy is being focused on the wrong issues. You cannot control what someone does, only what you do and how you choose to react to events. So what do you tell your child? You tell your child they are beautiful and smart. If there are positive things about the dad, you tell your child those things, any attempt to get back at the dad through the child will only affect that child’s self-esteem. It will not hurt the dad at all. The child also will carry an adult’s burden on their shoulder, and be trained not to forgive others. By the way, I managed to show the class the picture of the child of a deadbeat dad, whose mother chose to tell him only the positive things about his dad. In the picture the child was ten and it was the first and only time he saw his father. He went on to become the President of the United States. Feed positivity, power, and love to your child. Tell your child “Each family looks different, ours consist of a beautiful and intelligent you and a very pleased me.”

Brandy - posted on 01/14/2014

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My sons father is a really mean and abusive person. I saw the way he treated his other kids. He yelled on a daily basis and called them f***ing idiots all the time. Plus he is just a huge dead beat drug user. He drove his 16 year old to shoot himself with his gun (the dads gun) 3 months ago. I know in my heart its not safe for my 3 year old to be with his dad. I have decided to cut him off completely. Also, my ex has 10 children, 7 of which he does not know because he let the mothers raise them. I don't know the whole stories on all them, I just know they exist. I am 25, my ex is 42. What should I say to my son now, and what should I say when he gets older? He still remembers his dad and it breaks my heart to have to do this. But my sons safety is the most important thing to me.

User - posted on 01/13/2014

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I understand your pain...I know its hard to understand ...but its for the best....he doesnt need a selfish.father in his life...it would do more harm then good..to only have a part time dad to...do you believe in jesus???...he is the father to the fatherless...and will provide all your needs..

Jessica - posted on 01/04/2014

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Thats crazy a real man would wang yo be in their kids life no mattet what

Rose - posted on 01/02/2014

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Ladies remember that pregnancy and child bearing is a women disease. If you don't want to have the responsibility of raising a child possibly by yourself you need to protect yourself. Stop putting so much faith in man. You will only set yourself up for failure.

Rose - posted on 01/02/2014

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I'm a young single mother to a two year so I can understand your frustrations. I have realized that I have had to put a lot of my life on hold but realizing it's not just my life anymore I'm sharing a piece of me with someone else. With that being said everything is harder ... No friends,family,school,support. Oh and did I say I'm not working. My baby father is in and out does whatever whenever. He is the definition of deadbeat even steals from me. I have realized that no matter how much I complain bicker and gripe it is not going to change anything. You have to accept and move on quit wasting your life waiting for him to change. It won't HAPPEN! I have decided to cut my baby father out of the picture completely. If they don't fight or make the effort ..cut them off. Let your kid decide when they are older if they want to recontinue their relationship. What's done is done you are single mother learn from your mistakes live positively and work harder. It will only make you stronger and be thankful god took what needed to be taken out for something better to fall in place.

Peggy - posted on 12/30/2013

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Here is a switch. The little boy is 5 years old and lives with his father and they both adore each other. The mother has an IQ of 70 yet the little boy still wants
to see his mother, of course. Today she said in front of the child, with many curse words and meanness that she didn't want the little boy and not to come around. On the father's side of the family he has much love and is attending
a private school that promotes all the values we wish for this child. I am sure he us hurting inside. I think Sheri's answer is the best, but just to put it out there that Father's can be the biggest and best of all love to a child.
from a Grandmother who is hurting too.

Sakia - posted on 12/29/2013

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I am in a similar situation except the father lives with us. He works all the time and when he is home he is totally disconnected from the kids. I asked him to help with them because I was sick and he blew up at me. I was sick with a stomach virus. What do I do? Help!!!

Brande - posted on 12/28/2013

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In reply to the CHILD SUPPORT PAYING ABSENT FATHER, I feel as if It's both parties fault bc if he didn't want kids....why not use common sense & condoms? It's always both parties fault in my opinion no matter what bc unless you were raped, you knew that you were committing an act NATURALLY made to create another life. Now granted you cannot make a male nor female do anything for a child but I believe tossing child support on them would make matters worse bc when the time comes for the child to know where that absent parent is, they might resent the parent & the child more. - an expecting mother of a so far absent child's father

Jessica - posted on 12/27/2013

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I know how you feel my baby daddy dont want nothing to do with my baby but got his other children pictures all over fb. How do you think that make me feel. Like i told him he can see her whenever but got to change because he can't keep walking in and out her life.

Kenetta - posted on 12/18/2013

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I am a single mother of two beautiful little boys 10 and 8. I have been on my own pretty much since the day they both were born. I married my high school sweetheart( their dad) who turned out to be a pitiful excuse of man and mama's boy. He was in out of our lives for the first two years of the boys life and like the corward he is he would wait until I went to work and pack his stuff some of mine with it and run away with another woman. I have been divorced over 5 years now and thank the Lord for it. He as done nothing for them and makes no effort to be there for my boys. I hid nothing from my kids and told them the truth. I told them that their father is lost and he needs Jesus and they need to pray for him. His ex-inlaws are in the picture, but I have to be careful with them too cause they will try and set up little visits with daddy. How in the hell can he never see them, call them, support them, but once a year he can play daddy and walk away. I put an end to this. Ladies God said He would be a father to the fatherless. give your children strong foundations and help them to learn who they are in Christ cause my two little men are mighty warriors for the Lord even at their young ages, and the Lord has sent mighty men of God in their lives to mentor them.

Denise - posted on 12/18/2013

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I have 2 children dad never paid support after he left but just recently he contacted ne he wants to be a family I never tried to force him I lokked for him and the children saw him at family events yes the family was some what involved in their lives its true some people are not meant to be parents he says he finally became a man.No you did not know he was going to be this way now you know just take the money thats something I did not have and move on while they are still young.

Westwood - posted on 12/11/2013

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My dad had3 children and raised 3 of his wifes kids the middle 2s father never came around mom didnt push it dad did a great job .

My sister one of the 2 went to see her dad she is now 50 yrs old . hes such a looser i mean really a looser he just didnt want her . Im like wow really ? and this is new because ?
some men where bred to be real men then there are those that their fathers should of pulled out before they found the egg,

Sorry ladies im in the boat and he thinks its ok to live off women black mails and hits me when i ask him to move

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OK; I'm going to answer this as a child-support paying but absent father: it's your fault! Yes, that's right; I said it: it's YOUR fault!
If you gave the job of father to a man who did/does NOT want it, then YOU have made a bad decision!

The ONLY thing you can compel a man to give his child is his money. The absent dad is the unintended consequence of Roe vs. Wade. Women don't want the law to dictate when they will become parents?? Well, neither do men!

If you were married and he left, that's different but if you're a baby momma, get your money for child support and move on with your life. It is not in the child's best interests to be around any adult who resents their existence. And for those thinking the same stupid thing my baby momma did of "He'll wise up and come around some day!" No, he won't. He may accept the child but he will PERMANENTLY resent you and probably the child, too.

Paul - posted on 11/20/2013

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I'm a father of three daughters and would like to help mothers with daughters without fathers. I can't find any project like this. Father's of Daughters helping girls. I would volunteer to take fatherless girls with my kids to do something together. Any ideas how to get this started?

Nuresa - posted on 10/22/2013

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Hi Amanda
I feel your pain and your anger even though this post is old. I am in the very same boat with 3 young kids. PLease pop me a mail, I need to draw strength. Nuresaj@gmail.com
by the way I am in S.A

Stephanie - posted on 10/16/2013

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My daughters father was in her life for her open heart surgery but when she was hospitalized again for a cold he couldnt take the long nights and expected I do everything and left. Seven months passed and all I got were texts asking how she was. Never paid me anything or helped out. He even told child support (that by the way still hasnt kicked in) that hes helping me by giving me money. Oh and NOW when my daughter is 10 months is when he wants to shower her with presents and play the I care act and its all your fault victim game. He says he never saw her because I give him attitude when in reality when he would text me I would respond in a normal sentence with a "shes fine" he cant take responsibility for his actions. He also believes he can come at whatever hour he pleases. I strictly told him from 5 to 7:30 and he still wants to show up at 10pm. I just want him to quit the act go away and leave us alone. My daughter doesn't know who he is. And she doesn't need poison in her life. Oh yea, he also had the nerve to ask me at my daughters bed side when she was hospitalized if he could put her in his taxes when he hasn't paid anything for her and she doesn't live with him. All he and his familu want is to find a way to get money off of my daughter and me. Ugh.

Betty - posted on 09/21/2013

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Jillian, you are right we have to get together to get changes done to help single parents and the children. All the laws out their and the Deadbeat Parents are still not paying. Please check out "Child Support Justice Seekers" at https://www.facebook.com/BoopN1stylist

Betty - posted on 09/21/2013

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Please share your story on Child Support Justice Seekers. their are more out there hav ing the same problem. at htttps://www.facebook.com/BoopN1stylist

Jillian - posted on 09/10/2013

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Don't give up he will pay never give up for the sake of your daughter if he wants to be a deadbeat then push and fight for him to pay the consequences

Mackenzie - posted on 09/10/2013

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i have a four month old daughter who's also my first child .her father basically told me he couldn't take care of another kid in how he didn't think she was his but i'm willing to take a DNA test but he refuse to but i tried not being a bitch about the situation but when u can go off in buy a new car but can't help take of your child .so now I'm in the process of filling child support. but that doesn't make things any better when u avoiding an innocent child who didn't ask to be here but its a hurtful thing knowing your child will soon wanna know Where is daddy in i promise myself that when she's old enough to understand the truth me in her would have that talk but until then i gotta do my part in not give up

Jillian - posted on 09/09/2013

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There is things that can be done if the people come together and fight for a change. If there are more severe consequences to child abandonment it won't happen!

Jillian - posted on 09/08/2013

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Exactly but they should pay a more severe consequence prior to the child being an adult. I know there's a lot of tax payers would opt to keep a dead beat in jail over paying for almost half of the populations food. Therefore reforming child support as well as child abandonment laws making the consequences more severe and less of a way to go around & beat the law is the only way to make them pay.

Marie - posted on 09/08/2013

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I'm the daughter of a dead-beat dad. My mother struggled (as most single moms do with deadbeat partners) to keep things together, and the break up of the family affected lots of people. I don't think these deadbeats should have it so easy. Cutting them off just doesn't phase them much since out of sight is out of mind. One of ways to deal with this is if the law allows for adult children to go after the dead beat dad for backpay child support PLUS interest for the money they still owe - and never paid. After all, a debt is a debt. Does this even exist? I don't have a relationship with the deadbeat, and never want one either. That would get these people to take things seriously, instead of constantly running away. He needs to pay up, and the only way these people understand is by being forced to take responsibility in the here and now.

Jillian - posted on 09/08/2013

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There are too many dead beat fathers out there. We live in the United States of America for crying out loud. If everyone who is sick to death of a dead beat dads come together and stand for a change! Stop doing it on your own because you didn't make that child alone! Lets get to the books and reform these laws that make it more of a serious crime to abandon your children & not pay your child support. Even individuals without children who disagree with subsidies like welfare using YOUR tax dollars. People only qualify for welfare when they can't make ends meet as a single parent. It's not fair to the rest of society having to pick of the slack of a dead beat father not handling their responsibilities! The amount of people on welfare would drop instantaneously if non custodial parents took responsibility and paid the child support that is due. Child support is the most backed up out of all government agencies, wouldn't this be a sign that it needs to be reformed! Too many men quitting their taxable jobs to work under the table. Too many men who up and move to run from paying their child support. There are preventive measures for men, if they never wanted children they should've prevented having them in the first place! As citizens we need to come together and rectify this serious issue!

Jazmine - posted on 08/27/2013

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Omg this is the story of my life, I have twin boys and going through THE EXACT thing.. Please stay uplifted and encouraged, they will reap what they sow!!!

Ana - posted on 08/26/2013

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I have a three year old by a deadbeat named Jermel Mayers aka the Exalted 1 aka Jay Mayers from Brooklyn Ny. He have eleven kids and one on the way. He has no job so he won't have to pay child support. He only saw our daughter twice and when I was pregnant so was two other women. He never bought our child anything and his family don't even care to visit her either. I feel so alone.

Betty - posted on 08/23/2013

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I went through this many years ago, doesn't seem like much has changed. In 1992 they did a Deadbeat Dad, it was on television. and newspapers. That was about 18 years later, I had 3 children and 1 on the way. The only way, I believe that they caught him was because his picture was on television and in the paper or I believe he would have kept running. He did not see the 4th child a (daughter) until she was 13, and he still refuse to pay child support. We have started a group if you are interested in joining. Come tell your story. We are trying to get a television series that highlights deadbeat parents in order to help secure the necessary resources to children and families they are rightfully entitled to, and to deter future deadbeats from trying to escape the legal obligations of their children and the single parent.

CHILD SUPPORT JUSTICE SEEKERS
You can also join me and others in our group https://www.facebook.com/groups/595262180496443/

Jack - posted on 08/18/2013

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How about dead beat Moms? Paid for 11 years to find out our children did without while she banked it all and used it to buy her boyfriend a new truck!
How about accountability for the Money given to ensure it goes to th children. Not drinks, smokes or gifts for boyfriends!

Janine - posted on 08/14/2013

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What do I do if my child's father NEVER calls him..only picks up the phone every two weeks when he is suppose to spend time with him..so when I bring him most of the time his mother is watching him..should I keep calling or just let him call me for his child

Emil - posted on 08/07/2013

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.Im pregnant with a boy due at end of year and it's making me sick what his dad is doing he made out was single and we were gonna v together for life !! He was cheating with me n has offerd me money I just want to get revenge n make him suffer the thing he message.me are discusting

Deb - posted on 07/09/2013

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You can publish his information here, if you have the legal docket number etc. https://www.facebook.com/groups/609127545786094/

Maryell - posted on 07/08/2013

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How many times is it dealing with a deadbeat dad before some women realize the problem is the deadbeat mom (sometimes). I understand one instance where the dad runs out and doent wantthe responsibility.

But c'mon, two daddys!! The first comment from janine mota is just rediculous. Girl you need a reality check.

For other women, im sorry.

Despises - posted on 06/23/2013

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Deadbeat Mom, Misty Strong aka Misty Daniels aka Misty Dawn Daniels aka Misty Dawn Strong aka Misty Dawn Daniels Strong. She now resides in the Hoquiam, WA or Aberdeen, WA area and is on the prowl looking for more victims. Protect yourself!

She preys upon men on the internet to impregnate her, so she can trap them. She has 3 children by 3 different fathers. She has abused, abandoned and neglected at least her first two, and actually led another family to believe her first child belonged to them for 2 years, knowing all well that child did not belong to them. Misty Dawn Daniels Strong, formerly of Denton, TX, Norman, OK, Oklahoma City, OK, Enid, OK, Blue Ridge, GA, Richmond Hill, GA, Hinesville, GA, Ft. Stewart, GA, El Paso, TX, Ft. Bliss, TX and the list goes on! As you can see, she's had many addresses and always lives off someone else, a TOTAL LOSER!! She abandoned her first child as an infant, and abandoned her second child at birth. That child's father is an illegal Mexican.

Her last victim got his taxes garnished for her child support, because she never paid it, and is now far behind again, because he's not around to get garnished anymore. She got pregnant by him while he was married to another woman and they had three children together. He kicked her to the curb when he got tired of her sponging off him.

BEWARE OF THIS PREDATOR!!

www.facebook.com/mistydawn1081

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