How to deal with a deadbeat dad?

Amanda - posted on 01/11/2010 ( 230 moms have responded )

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I need to vent. Drew's dad has never met him. I have been holding out hope that he will come to his senses and realize he is missing out on the best thing he could have in his life and ask me to see him. I have sent him messages via email and text (cuz he doesn't answer when I call) trying to be as polite and non-pushy as I can be but telling him he can see his son whenever he wants but to no avail. I feel like today was the final cutoff when he deleted me from his myspace. That was a knife to the heart. How could someone so easily write off their own child? It blows my mind. What am I supposed to tell my son when he asks about his dad someday? "Sorry sweetheart, but your daddy didn't want you."? Don't know why I'm sharing this with everyone but I just needed to put it out there. Any advice on how to deal with a deadbeat dad?

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Mom Of - posted on 06/26/2013

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You cannot change the way a person deals with/feels about their children. Damaged people cannot see the hurt they cause other people. Continue to be a supportive and loving mom to your child. One great parent is better than having having two parents with one of the two being emotionally unattached to the child. Hopefully in his own time the dad will come around but if he doesnt unfortunately there isnt much you can do about.

I would make sure that he is put on child support. Not wanting to be an active participant in your childs life does not alleviate the financial responsibility of having children. Hang in there!

Despises - posted on 06/23/2013

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Deadbeat Mom, Misty Strong aka Misty Daniels aka Misty Dawn Daniels aka Misty Dawn Strong aka Misty Dawn Daniels Strong. She now resides in the Hoquiam, WA or Aberdeen, WA area and is on the prowl looking for more victims. Protect yourself!

She preys upon men on the internet to impregnate her, so she can trap them. She has 3 children by 3 different fathers. She has abused, abandoned and neglected at least her first two, and actually led another family to believe her first child belonged to them for 2 years, knowing all well that child did not belong to them. Misty Dawn Daniels Strong, formerly of Denton, TX, Norman, OK, Oklahoma City, OK, Enid, OK, Blue Ridge, GA, Richmond Hill, GA, Hinesville, GA, Ft. Stewart, GA, El Paso, TX, Ft. Bliss, TX and the list goes on! As you can see, she's had many addresses and always lives off someone else, a TOTAL LOSER!! She abandoned her first child as an infant, and abandoned her second child at birth. That child's father is an illegal Mexican.

Her last victim got his taxes garnished for her child support, because she never paid it, and is now far behind again, because he's not around to get garnished anymore. She got pregnant by him while he was married to another woman and they had three children together. He kicked her to the curb when he got tired of her sponging off him.

BEWARE OF THIS PREDATOR!!

www.facebook.com/mistydawn1081

Kevin - posted on 05/21/2013

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Mandi - posted on 05/20/2013

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Please join my facebook group! I am currently pregnant and the father - who I was with for 3 years- has suddenly decided to abandon me with our unborn son. He is seeing someone else, on top of that, who has her own child! I've never been more devastated! He is flaunting it around like it's nothing and I don't know what to do. I'm an average, late 20's business woman. Very independent and intelligent and this happened to me! The man who was supposed to be so wonderful just up and left me!

I have HAD IT with dead beat dads across America! Join my facebook group and tell your story!! JOSHUA KELLY, This is IT FOR YOU.

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These men should be called out on their actions!!

Theresa - posted on 04/27/2013

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You shouldn't worry too much about him receving custody. He would have to prove that you are an unfit mother and that the child would be better off living with him. Which it sounds like that's not likely. I personally had a child and became disabled from MS and couldn't work as much. When our daughter was three the father who worked a top ranking job at Boeing tried to sue me as well just to get his child support lowered. Even with all his money and expensive lawyers he still did not win. Furthermore, what's best for you child is love and stability in his/her life with out a lot of drama

Jennifer - posted on 04/22/2013

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i havent given birth yet, but the father doesnt want to be in our lives. and get this: he has another woman pregnant, she is due any minute, and he abandoned her as well. i dont want him to be a part of his childs life. but he has threatened that if i go after him for child support that he will seek parental rights. hes homeless, possibly jobless, and has no emotion or compassion. im not sure what to do and whats best for my child.

Alisha - posted on 04/20/2013

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No I would never say daddy didn't want you. Just say daddy can't be with us right now. Depends on the age of the child but never talk bad about him as hard as that is. It will make it worse and make your child feel worthless.

Madeline - posted on 04/17/2013

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Hey the guy in this band PAUL WADE MCDONALD is the father of my 7 year old son... He doesn't see him or call him or support him emotionally or financially... He's off living life to the fullest- making a ton of money with his regular job AND his BAND, while I struggle as a single mom... FEEL FREE TO GO TO THIS WEB PAGE AND LET HIM AND HIS MANY FANS KNOW WHAT A PIECE OF CRAP HE IS :) there are links to their FB and twitter and even INSTAGRAM ... It'd be really nice to have people sticking up for my son and what he deserves... Maybe it'll push him to be a father... Thank you all! ♥ http://ewgtx.com/

Madeline - posted on 04/17/2013

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Hey the guy in this band PAUL WADE MCDONALD is the father of my 7 year old son... He doesn't see him or call him or support him emotionally or financially... He's off living life to the fullest- making a ton of money with his regular job AND his BAND, while I struggle as a single mom... FEEL FREE TO GO TO THIS WEB PAGE AND LET HIM AND HIS MANY FANS KNOW WHAT A PIECE OF CRAP HE IS :) there are links to their FB and twitter and even INSTAGRAM ... It'd be really nice to have people sticking up for my son and what he deserves... Maybe it'll push him to be a father... Thank you all! ♥ http://ewgtx.com/

Jane - posted on 04/08/2013

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Has anything changed for u yet? I'm in the very same boat and wonder if I just need to give up or keep being nice and letting him ignore our baby

Immy - posted on 04/03/2013

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I can imagine what you're going thru ma dear. Just pray and leave it for a moment. in the meantime, be nice to your child, and don't bad mouth him. I know it's difficult coz I've been there, but there is light at the end of the turnel.

Maria - posted on 03/24/2013

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Expose this guy! He is on tour in US promoting what a spiritually evolved being he is:

Maria - posted on 03/24/2013

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Keep telling people your story. Shine a light to whoever will listen. Put on a light on these ugly people and don't let them get a way with it!!! Every chance I get I share the truth about the man who fathered my child. He was my best friend ... so the betrayal goes deep ... you think you know someone ... and he chooses a life path that is so horrific and so despicable ... he went off ...married another woman ...had two children with her and did the same thing ... you can't escape karma ...

Keep spreading the truth! You are not alone sister! Keep fighting the fight and be a shining example of unconditional love for your children!

Tammy - posted on 03/24/2013

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call your local DHS office and or the local child support office there are attorneys that WILL help you also if you call the IRS they can look it up and find that he has been claiming your son he will be in serious government issues here's my email if you want/need any help or to talk tammylynn6176@yahoo.com

Raine - posted on 03/24/2013

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I kicked out my ex-husband for drug abuse and possible child abuse when my son was 5 months old. He was granted supervised visitation. I believe he saw him twice and that was it. I do not know where he is. He doesnt pay child support. He clearly doesnt care about our (my) son. and you know what? It is probably for the best. he was clearly a bad father when he was around, so there really is no loss to my son or to me. It is him that is losing out. It blows my mind too to know he doesnt care. And you know what? My son just simply thinks that he doesn't have a dad. I've tried explaining the basics of the situation to him, but he is too young to understand. One day I will explain that his father had different plans that did not include us. and that will be fine. I dont know your situation - i dont know if there are substances involved or anything, but i would just be honest.

I did find out the other day that he is living with a woman and her children and the thought of him being a daddy to other children and not his own fucking kills me. It makes me so angry. What can I do though? Nothing. So I keep my mind focused on my son. He is all that matters. Good luck in your situation. come back and tell us how everything goes.

Tammy - posted on 03/22/2013

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My son just turned 18 this month. I left his dad when I was about 3 months pregnant he didn't see why we needed to change we both partied (I was 18 when I was preg.) I stopped cold turkey when I found out and he kept drinking and getting high! So I left I moved back to my home state IA and left him in his MO. well he and I were young and my hormones were wacko so I was very lost on what was right. When my son was about 1 a friend went w/me to show my son his g-ma's etc. his dad happened to be there which I felt great about. When my son turned 3 I went to Job Corps w/my son and sent his dad about $400 to come stay the weekend w/us he cashed it and never came. wasn't till my son was 16 they talked off and on at 17 promised to come see him never showed up to this day my son doesn't really know his dad. Don't tell your son his dad didn't want him just say "we didn't work out you did what you felt was best" If you have any info on his dad and your child wants to know more wait til about 16yrs old let your son find out on his own and your son may get ugly like blame you and my son went as far as hitting me 1x so bad I went to the hospital and he went to a teen place for the weekend. He got a huge wake up call he had to see me for a longtime w/1/2 my face black and blue. Now that he knows both sides there is no hatred and the reason my son attacked me and was so angry w/me was that he knew I would never leave him. I know sounds odd just don't talk bad about his dad and give him lots of love and when older if he asks tell some just not all til you feel he's ready be honest and counseling is often best thats how we had to get things out all the way! Sorry I ramble I just really know how you feel and my heart goes out to ya!

Ryna - posted on 03/21/2013

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Dear Amanda,I am also sailing in the same boat.my son is 9th old.his father hs never cared to meet or talk to him.but that is something not in my hands to change.all I can say is stop giving him so much importance.don't give the remote control of your n your son's life in someone's hand who doesn't value it.it's not worth it.life is much more than this.everything in life happens for a reason.......n if we are patient n accept it wholeheartedly,only good comes out of it.have faith in the Almighty.you never know what good comes out of this.role of a father is important in a child's life.but the presence of an irresponsible father in your son's life,is the most fatal for his life.
Learn to find ways to be happy-just two of u.if someone comes along (as ur partner) to be ur son's father or a friend,well n good.Otherwise,you are capable n very well know that u cn give your child a bright n happy childhood all alone.A single woman alone is worth hundred men.I hv learnt it with my own experience.
Lots of love n best wishes for the new beautiful life ahead.I know u have it and u can do it!!!

Jennifer - posted on 03/20/2013

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I need advice. My sons dad is hiding his business under his brothers name. He claims he has no income but supports his daughter and wife. He does not pay my child support claiming he has no money. I am about to be homeless at the end of the month. Department of revenue is no help at all. They said oh he as no income. He as filed taxes and claimed my 13 yr old son f
or 13 years and never gave him a cent. I cannot afford a lawyer obviously anyone have any suggestions. I am desperate!

Pasmapi - posted on 02/22/2013

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I can sympathize,...

Lars Hindsley
Is a total dead beat who has not worked to support his son since 2000.
This infantile high school dropout still lives with his 85 year old Mom.
If you search his name you will see he does everything but work online.

Kayla - posted on 02/11/2013

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Diane - posted on 01/26/2013

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I am a single mom of 4 wonderful kids whose father has had little influence in their lives. He sent us some money a few months ago, the first time ever, then got mad when I didn't contact him for a few days. Our contact with him has been sparse over the years, seems like he only is available when it is convenient for him. He even promised us help during the holiday and even went as far as telling me he put money in the mail, "it's on it way".....and nothing ever came. We gave him the benefit of the doubt and blamed it in the USPS but when we tried to call him, we found out he had his phone disconnected. Obviously he lied!! For almost 9 years I have been raising these children on my own, never thought I would be in this situation. Some men are incapable of being a father (and some women are incapable of being a mother). Even a wedding ring doesn't mean anything to some people. I can't cry over spilled milk......I love my children to death and will raise my children the best I can. God Bless all the single moms in this world.

Christina - posted on 01/25/2013

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My son is 12 now but I was basically a single mother till he was 5 (thats when I met my hubby who has been a father to my son unlike the deadbeat) even though the first year of my sons life I was with the deadbeat he never helped never bought what my baby needed but he didn't want me to work but he wouldn't buy diapers or formula. Luckily I had help from family. he has another son who was 4 at the time my son was born. He has a relationship with him but not my son, he hasn't seen him since he was 5 and my son didnt know who he was because the last time he had seen him he was 3. He has never paid any child support the state can't find him but I found him on facebook. I sent him a message telling him his son wanted to meet him which he did but I never got a response back. I smother my son with love.... He is a mamas boy but only when its me and him when his step-dad or step-brother is around or friends he like your typical 12 year old.

Judith - posted on 01/17/2013

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You should never tell a child him father didn't want him. Stop trying to make the father be in his life. If he doesn't want to be in his life, your child is better off without him in it. Just try to get child support from him thru the child support enforcement agency. Maybe one day, one day he'll come around and realize what he's missed.

Delissia - posted on 01/15/2013

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I have a similar problem with babys daddy 39 year kid that dont know his head to his ass!!! Playing with our saughter hear and emotions is what he does cause he wants 2 or 3 of us at same time stringibg us along!!! Its sad she is a beautiful baby

Maria - posted on 12/22/2012

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Here are some links ‏to support groups that would love to post your story! DM them and share your story! Shine on a light on these deadbeat rats! There is a family of abandoned children out here for support! We are creating a community for people like us to help effect change by getting the truth out there.

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Maria - posted on 12/22/2012

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First, file with local District Attorney's office to open a case and provide them with all info you can. Next, tell your story to whoever will listen. Join support groups to help you, where you can also help others by sharing your story. One way to deal with deadbeats is to expose them by telling the truth. Here are some links ‏to support groups that want to hear stories from #singlemoms! DM them and share your story! Shine on a light on these rats!

@AndThenThereWr2
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Stephanie - posted on 12/22/2012

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My ex lives in Germany and I moved to Nicaragua with my two kids.....does anyone know what I have to do to get child support.....he is a dead beat Dad....

Joanna - posted on 12/21/2012

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It is hard to get this one right. i think you have to know your own emotional make up and try to get to i=know your childs as well. I grew up without my father around. My mother really wanted him to be involved and see me and my sister but he felt it was best to leave her to it after they divorced (I was 18 months). I spent my entire childhood asking why my daddy didn't love me (I was a horribly advanced emotionally)... My mum never said he was a bad man and always did her best in this respect by not bad-mouthing him. Nearly everything I did I had in my mind "When my dad finds out I did this, he'll be so proud he'll want to come and meet me. I'm talking about from a VERY early age... and that is the problem. These feelings from such a young age mean they are deep-routed. Like when a child grows up KNOWING they are adopted because their mother/father didn't want them... no child should ever have to know that growing up. I often wonder that i would have been better off thinking in the early years that my father had actually died when i was young (terrible as that sounds). But then i would not have gone through the emotional trauma that I have done and would not be able to understand my mother lying to me... catch 22. Ultimately though i can recognise where my insecurities come from and in general had a very happy childhood and a very loving and dedicated mother. As an adult I realise I could not have asked for more.
I met my father when I was 30 years old. I ended up on the phone to him when my grandfather (his father) was dieting in hospital. I counselled him. Despite all the pain he I went through, at the end of the day, I was talking to a man who was sitting at the death bed of his father and compassion was stronger than all that. We met a few times after the funeral and he professed that he loved me... It was basically all i had ever wanted as a child... for him to just agree to meet me and then i would have the chance to show him he could love me... It was weird actually. I felt stalked for a while! A friend of mine was incensed saying "He doesn't even know you!". For a few years after that I lost my way a bit... realising how deep routed everything was for me and trying to work through it again but in a different way. During that time, I finally grieved for the death of my step father which had happened a few years earlier... A few years later and I am basically involved with a man who mirrors not only my biological father but also my step father too (who was a bit of a drinker but a lovely man!). As far as relationships are concerned I am pretty hopeless but I have a feeling that it would have been that way anyway!
Ultimately I am proud of who I am as a person and without the life I have had I would not be who I am!
I have a very close relationship with my mother and one reaps for that is that she was always my mum when i was growing up and didn't try to be my 'friend'. Sounds strange but I have many other friends whose mums did this during their early teenage years in order to try and 'hold on' to them and it massively backfires in almost every case!
Anyway, as I am waffling now it remains to say that mums are the most precious commodity this world possesses. You cannot change the world outside and you cannot control everything for your children but the love you give them is like a magic shield that gives them strength to live in this strange old world.

Maria - posted on 12/19/2012

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One way to deal with these deadbeats is to expose them by telling the truth. Here are some links ‏to support groups that want to hear stories from #singlemoms! DM us and share your story! Shine on a light on these rats!

@AndThenThereWr2
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@ChildSupportTip

Maria - posted on 12/19/2012

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One way to deal with these deadbeats is to expose them by telling the truth. Here are some links ‏to support groups that want to hear stories from #singlemoms! DM us and share your story! Shine on a light on these rats!

@AndThenThereWr2
https://www.facebook.com/pages/And-Then-There-Were-Two/494282440593852?fref=ts

@ChildSupportTip

Maria - posted on 12/19/2012

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One way to deal with these deadbeats is to expose them by telling the truth. Here are some links ‏to support groups that want to hear stories from #singlemoms! DM us and share your story! Shine on a light on these rats!

@AndThenThereWr2
https://www.facebook.com/pages/And-Then-There-Were-Two/494282440593852?fref=ts

@ChildSupportTip

Maria - posted on 12/19/2012

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One way to deal with these deadbeats is to expose them by telling the truth. Here are some links ‏to support groups that want to hear stories from #singlemoms! DM us and share your story! Shine on a light on these rats!

@AndThenThereWr2
https://www.facebook.com/pages/And-Then-There-Were-Two/494282440593852?fref=ts

@ChildSupportTip

Debbie - posted on 12/04/2012

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God knows I went through the same questions girlfriend. This isn't your fault and just re assure you beautiful child you want him! I did everything make him do the right thing but in the long run realized her father was ill! Mentally ill for lacking empathy for his own kid! I tried to hide his. Disinterest in her but, as she got older they get it. Anyone who has no empathy for thier kid doesn't deserve them! And your kid would be better off not begging for his attention. Get child support then see what happens. All love n best wishes from me n my daughter who is now 11 and although it hurts her and angers me still she would rather be with me than anyone. We moms are their strength!

Anne - posted on 12/04/2012

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Never say one bad word about his father no matter how terrible he is. Just say I love that your dad gave me you. That is all you need to say. If you never say anything about him the child will eventually find out all by himself what kind of person he is. Then go to court and get full custody and child support for your child. He is responsible even if is not in his life.

Take care of yourself,protect yourself and move on from him. He obviously does not care about his son or you so let him go don't make yourself crazy over someone who does not see what a prize you and your child are. You are special and better than he deserves. I know this hard believe me I have been through this as well. I never said anything bad about my child's father and eventually he figured it out. It hurt him but I did nothing to color his opinion. I always answered questions about his dad. It was as if he never existed unless B asked about him. I did get full custody and child support. I know this is not what you want to hear. Just take it one day at a time and it will get easier and you will have the life you and your child deserve.

Zaynab - posted on 12/01/2012

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I am 23 years old, married with a 9 month old. I have a biological deadbeat father that I never met, yet he only lives an hr away. He has never been involved in my life. My mom wondered and still wonders how someone can just walk away from their child and never look back. I know it hurts to know that your son has a "Biological father" who could care less, however in the long run , screw him. You are a strong women and will raise your son to be just as strong. When your son is older he will appreciate you all the more. He will know what type of man his "Father"was.

Keep the faith.

Sue - posted on 11/25/2012

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Why..thats the answer only he knows.Im a single mother of four in i ask myself the same question.Instead of wondering why the dad isnt around,just enjoy the time you share with your son.As a mother you cant make him be around.He will open his eyes in see that life goes on without him.Dont put to much strand on yourself, live your life.As for as,telling your son,just let him know the truth.being real with your kids is the only way through this..keep up the good work..every thing happens for a reason...remember to stay strong..

Marlene - posted on 11/24/2012

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take him thru the court systems and make him pay for child support that's my advice to you. Don't let him walk around thinking he can make babies and not support them. Plus don't bother him anymore find someone that will help you raise your child. there is nothing he can teach your child anyways that would benefit him.

V - posted on 11/23/2012

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It must change. Why is it required of the mother but not the father? Last time I checked it took two to make a baby. Follow me at @childsupporttip!

Stephanie - posted on 11/23/2012

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I am in he same situation......I wish we could change the laws and require that a father must call and see their child with frequency......

Kary - posted on 11/20/2012

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I have been single since my youngest daughter was only a few months old and similarly my ex had never seen them or bothered to pay child support. I refused to lie to my girls or make excuses for my ex. I simply told them that we were divorced because he didn't treat me nicely, and we didn't see him at his choice. A couple of years ago he kind of popped back into their lives for a couple of months and then right back out and after having met him both of my daughters feel as though they have missed nothing not having him in their lives. They gave him an opportunity and he blew it. I will say this though, neither of him is willing to let him have that chance again. So, take from my little story what you will but I say it's not about your son it's about the biodad and his absence in your son's life may be a blessing.

Mom - posted on 11/10/2012

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Forget about him.Do you want that kind of man to be a father figure to your child.You will meet someone that will except your child as his own .When you child is old enough and ask about his father tell him the truth and he can decide for himself if he wants to get to know him.I have exspirenced this so I know what I am talking about. My children turned out great and did get to meet and know their father when they were older.That was when they were grown and they told him you didn't want us then and we sure don't need you now.

Kimberley - posted on 11/10/2012

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Amanda,

Just write it off as his loss. Look at it another way, also. He may not be the influence you want your son around. My son has to see his dad and hates every minute of the meaness and the control. He would much rather not have to see him. At the same time, he does know his dad and he says he loves him. SO that is something your son might miss. What I'm saying is that there is no perfect situation. THis is what you have to work with, so make it as good as you can for your son. Get him involved in sports or scouts - places where he will hopefully see REAL male role models. At first, he may feel some jealousy towards other boys who have dads, but he will also see that having a dad is a mixed bag and it's not perfect for these kids either.

Kimberlee - posted on 11/09/2012

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FILE for CS. That's the best you can do and your child deserves at least that.

Alex - posted on 11/06/2012

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Bring him to court You cAnt make him want to be a father but you can hit him where it hurts in his wallet! At least that way you get the supper you need for your son who cares if his there after that or not. Hopefully one day a real man wil be in his life M&D want to be a dad to him .

LaKisha - posted on 10/25/2012

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My son is 4 and I have known his father since I was 14. We have only been in a relationship when I was about 24-26 and it was not great. He currently does not provide support bc he has no job. He only sees my son when I call him n tell him he needs to watch him while I take care of something. In the beginning I used to curse him out and get pissed bc he wasnt around to help. Now that my son can talk I know he loves his dad and likes to see him. When he asks me about him I let him call him. I let him tell his dad that he wants to see him. I never speak badly about his dad to him. I am giving his dad enough rope to hang himself with it. I do not have to say anything. The older my son gets the more he will understand that mom always had his back and was always there to take care of him. It will be on him to form his own opinion about his dad. My advice is to simply let go of all ill feelings you have towards him and if he wants to come around to see his child then by all means let him. I say this bc when our children are grown they will never be able to say that mom was the one that kept them away from their dad. They will have memories of asking dad to come and he never showed up. Facebook, mysace, instagram, etc is irrelevant. That has nothing to do with raising a child. Only focus on things that are of importance. We can still love the guy, but we have to move on. I have come to realize that he will get his comeuppance in life no matter what. In order to be a great parent to our children we have to let go of all foolishness. I never understood how a parent could simply disregard their own children. I do not even dwell on it bc it is something we cannot control. We can only strive to be the best parent we can be. I always say that in order to have better men in this world, we have to raise better men. Amanda I understand what you are dealing with. You have to walk by faith and not by sight. Know that everything will work out. In the process leave his a** alone. When he chooses to see his child then by all means let him. Love your child so much that you are able to keep hush no matter how you feel about him and let him come around if he chooses.

Maria - posted on 10/23/2012

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That is so sweet. I just tell the truth and always try to do my best. I have been silent about what my ex has done and how he continues to bully us by not sending support. I believe children should have two parents, but when that isn't possible, one that loves them more than anything will make up for anyone absent. We are survivors of abuse. My child doesn't have a healthy father, aunt, uncles, or grandparents. But the magnificent souls I call friends give us love and support. They are my family. It's about the souls, not the bloodlines. When people are abusive and toxic, it takes courage to say, “No, enough! I will no longer allow you to treat me this way, as so forth. You have no power over me.”



I have done everything I can to work with my child’s ex. I put up with his cheating, his lying, his illegal business operations, his smuggling, because I had no self worth. I was not empowered. I was living in fear. No more. I will not allow anyone to abuse me again. I'm am shedding light on rodent behavior and exposing the truth.



I have been silent for 10 years. I've been divorced and on my own only 8 of those years I received support. In January I made a new goal: not include child support monies as part of my monthly budget. If and when it did arrive, I could actually put it aside for a college fund. This year he made a decision too, to send support when he felt like it, leaving us for months at a time with nothing, while he lived like a rock star on his 100 acre spread in Australia; bought a horse; went to Vegas and partied with friends for a week. By being silent I do a disservice to myself and especially my child. We do not deserve to be dishonored in such an abusive fashion. In the meantime I am told he posts daily on facebook spiritual quotes, portrays himself as a mystic (as his occupation) a good father, humanitarian (donating publicly to charity for publicity, while not sending support for his child). This behavior does not value us. When I recently discovered these truths, I had to come forward. So I am ... I am forming a company called Mom Solo Digital Art. It will provide an outlet for parents (as there are also deadbeat moms out there) to share their truth and post it on all social media networks. It's time to shine a light on this rodent behavior and by doing so, we create a Resolution for our Solution! If anyone is interested in our services, please have them contact us at momsolodigitalart@gmail.com. Here is one of our Public Service Announcements (PSA) which incidentally is my truth:



New Deadbeat dad PSA:



Thank you for allowing me to share this with you and anyone else in a similar predicament. We are also in negotiation with nonprofit organizations to help us get this service to everyone who needs help but can't pay.

Maria - posted on 10/23/2012

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Oops ... wrong email ... correction: momsolodigitalart@gmail.com ... not yahoo. Thanks

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