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how to leave my little girls dad

Wanda - posted on 09/08/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )

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Hiya im New to this,my daughter is 14mths,shes the one thing i got right in life,her dad is so nasty to me.I know I should leave but being on my own and being a single mum scares me,he has two teenage children whos mum sadly passed away two yrs ago of cancer,he drinks,on manyban occasion he has gone to town drinking and gambling and left me looking after his kids,especially when I was pregnant,he puts me down everyday,and my family and friends,he does nothing with.his kids let alone with our little girl,he even hides drink around the house,and empty bottles in the garden,it's not just that and the above its how he didn't want to be near me when I was pregnant,not even be affectionate,I had my daughter and did it on my own I got post natsl depression and went to his house hoping he would be supportive,he wasn't he just drank,verbally abused me,I have confidence or self esteem,he doesn't help with our daughter one bit,his teenage kids get everything yet he buys nothing for our daughter,I have my own place so I know I don't have to put up with it,but it's the overwhelming loneliness and anxiety I have why I haven't left,I want to be with someone who doesn't shout,who likes me for me and won't treat me like im a baby sitter/ cleaner

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Bobbie - posted on 09/08/2012

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You answered you own question. You stay because you don't want to be overwhelmed by loneliness and anxiety. Thank goodness you have a good head on your shoulders.

Facts

- you are lonely now without attention in the relationship that you crave

- his company comes at a great expense to you

- your child is subjected to the loud angry voices and stress which IS affecting her

- his children are better off not seeing the bad relationship example their father demonstrates

- only harm can come from enabling a drinker to drink more often by taking on their responsibilities

- You and only you are responsible for your own happiness.



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