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I am a single mom of 5 children, ages 16, 15,9,5 and 2...

Alicia - posted on 07/23/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I feel so overwheelmed everyday, so stressed..my 9 yr old boy is severe adhd, and is being diagnosed for aspergus syndrome, my 5 yr old girl is well, hhmmm, were to begin, she is always stuck to me, she dont listen, she is sassy, all i hear all day, all night is mommy, mommy..sometimes i feel like i am going to snap. dont get me wrong, NEVER would i hit or abuse my kids..then there are the teens, the 15 yr old is a girl, and boy is 16..their a whole other story..my 2 yr old girl, cant really say much, yet...she has a bad temper, but she seems to listen more than the others...i have no time to myself, ever, not even at night, my 5 yr old sleeps with me, so when i am not cleaning, or cooking, i am yelling, arguing...i dont know were to turn anymore..i have taken parenting courses, read books, had human service workers in my home...seems nothing helps...anyone with any advice...

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Kristin - posted on 07/24/2012

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First off take a deep breath and relax. You have 2 teenagers who are more than capable of helping you with household chores, and baysitting the kids. Second you need to get your 5 year old to sleep in their own bed, as sleeping with you is not good for either one of you. Can you not get help with behavior classes for your ADHD son? You need to lay down the law in your home, your the parent and you need to be firm, I make my 16 year old son watch my 6 yr oldf and 1 yr old every morning so i can go to the gym, he is also responsible for taking the garbage out, dishes and sometimes starting dinner. My 6 yr old is responisble for helping to dust, he makes his bed every morning and helps out with his little sister. I make both my younger kids clean up their toys (well as much as a 1 yr old can clean up lol) I dont yell at my kids or argue; my house my rules dont like it theres the door. Not saying my kids are perfect we have our moments with our 6 yr old and temper but I stay firm and consistent and they know that they have to help as I work full time and if they want to go to the park or need a ride somewhere than they need to help out. Good luck

Arin - posted on 07/24/2012

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Alicia - I feel for you girl. I only have one little girl and I feel the exact same way sometimes. You never really feel like you have any time to yourself when you are a single mother especially in your case with 5 children. I'm not sure what advice I can give you with my limited knowledge of parenting but I wanted to reach out to you to let you know that you are not alone. For the school aged kids, maybe you could get them involved in some type of after school program that will help them with discipline, self esteem, and dedication perhaps a sports program or mentoring program like big brother/big sisters. I know that being involved in sports when I was young kept me out of a lot of trouble and taught me some very valuable lessons about working as a team and learning to respect myself and others. Plus it will get them out of the house for a little while so that you can have some time to devote to your 2 year old who's bad temper may just be an attempt to get more of your attention. When you need a little time to yourself... I know that in my area, there are several churches that provide 'mommy's day out' at a very reasonable price like $20 for a day from 9am-2pm. I wish I had more advice to give and I hope that this has at least helped you a little. Stay strong!

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