Luvmia - posted on 04/13/2012 ( 21 moms have responded )
My son wants to live with his father. His father is not very nice to me and has succeeded in doing a great job at creatively manipulating my son in coming to live with him (most likely to avoid paying child support).
The issue is that I know his father is going to sue me for child support (and of course he has that right). But I am not in any type of position to pay child support nor relenquish the right to file my taxes with our son as a dependent due to my VERY strained financial circumstances. I am currently trying to complete my training program so that I can be better marketable in the job market.
So my question is what would you do if you were in my shoes?
*CLARIFICATION*: In response to some of the posts, I am not looking at my son as a source of income. I have spent A LOT of money taking care of him with private schools, living in nicer neighborhoods, trying not to work so much so he could AT LEAST have one parent their for him (since his father popped in and out when he felt like it), and even in the earlier years I homeschooled him because he needed more individualized attention that the traditional environments were not able to give, etc. so that he could have a better childhood than I had. And whatever his father's child support payment did not cover, I did what any mother should do and that was pick up the rest of the bill and NO I DID NOT have a problem with it. Unfortunately, in doing all these things, bills got out of hand and I am still trying to play catch up and am using tax returns to do so.
In closing, I was trying to make my post "straight to the point" so that it would not be long and drawn out. Unfortunately, some of you took what I said the way you wanted to take it and posted VERY NASTY HATEFUL comments. You should ASK ME QUESTIONS FIRST TO FIND OUT ALL THE DETAILS before making vicious comments about me looking at my child as a source of income which is SO far off base. Anybody can be in a financial bind and have to make some VERY tough decisions in order to keep one's head above water. I don't feel what I am doing is using my child in anyway and at the same time, I do not want to put myself further in the hole than I am already in if his father goes after me for child support.