I dont get it!!! Why are men not taking care of their babies????????

Summer - posted on 09/13/2009 ( 23 moms have responded )

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Why is it men don't seem to want to take care of their babies? I mean what are they so afraid of? You would think if they had a father that raised them they would want to do the same for their children or if they didnt have a father they wouldnt want their own children to feel how they felt growing up witout a dad. I mean all they have to do is love the child, care for the child, help with finances for the child. Is it really that hard?? Nope i just don't get it!!!! Not saying ALL men but i just seem to hear more men not stepping up.

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1isplenty - posted on 06/08/2013

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Perhaps it's due to evolution as well. Very few animal males are very active in child rearing and our own hunter gatherer forefathers saw the men leave and hunt while the women nursed. Men do not have the same 9 month built in bond and usually take a more distanced view. The baby is a crying, needy parasitic irritant that cannot communicate beyond crying. Hence my screen name.

Shari - posted on 09/21/2009

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dont get either my son's father walked out us when he was 16 months old then came back when it was convent and i he hasnt seen him since may of this year but sometime i dont care

Brittany - posted on 05/30/2014

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I honestly was hoping i would get an answer. but as usual no one understands the make POV anymore (well I said that as if we ever have, but we haven't and probably never will) my child's father ranted on and on about marriage and a baby and marriage to a point he purposely got me pregnant and will admit to this day. so while I'm 8months pregnant cheats on me and then tries to be all gushy to me after she's born. like the good person I am I let him have a life with his daughter which I've tried living with him and he'd never take responsibility for her and didn't even try to get a job until she was two months old. now anytime I spend a night with him he completely pushes her on me and pretends to be sick and just lays in the bedroom all day. WTH? you wanted a kid but without the responsibility? I think guys think it's fun to walk around saying I'm a father but they don't wanna be the man they claim to be when it comes to actually dealing with it.

Carew - posted on 05/16/2013

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I can think of two reasons. 1-A lot of women these days are bitches so the dads can't stand to be around them. 2-A lot of guys are immature and don't want to take on the responsibility of being a father.

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Vern - posted on 12/27/2012

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hmmmm well my child is gonna be loved in spite of wat happened they call me a woman a phenominal woman

LeSelle' - posted on 10/12/2012

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File for child support. That will make them get a job real quick. If they don't or can't keep one their license will be revoked and they'll be working everything off by doing jail time.

Summer - posted on 09/21/2009

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It doesn't make since. What would happen if us women thought that way? Who would raise our babies? As a single mother of a son i'm going to try my best to teach him to be a better man that his "dad" is.

Stephanie - posted on 09/21/2009

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because they dont want the responsibility. its all fun and games when its puppy love and there is no protection or even if you plan to have a baby! my daughter kayla's father and i planned on having her and when i was 5 1/2 months prego with her.. he left.. 2 years later and he is working on baby number 3 an dhas nothing to do with my kid or his son.. which are only 6 months apart. Its tough.. but they will all get what they deserve in the end!! hang in there HUN!

Kathleen - posted on 09/20/2009

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I dont understand it either, I have a 2 and a half yr old and expecting another in march... Men just dont wanna step up and be a man these days. Makes me angry that they can just get up and walk out and not even blink an eyelid at it, but no point in gettin angry about it right, not like its gonna make much difference.

Marrion - posted on 09/20/2009

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I could go on with this conversation all day......It's just sad, very sad.

Kat - posted on 09/19/2009

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That is a very good question and i wish i had the answer to it. I am a single mother of twins, and their father acts like he is so much better off without us. He's out partying and getting drunk every night while I have to take on all of the responsibilities of raising our children. I think alot of it is that men just need to grow up and realize that its not all about them

Tara - posted on 09/15/2009

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I dont get it either it is an epidemic and it is sad but that is just why we as women are stronger and getting stronger by the minute. after all we cant leave and run away. we have to be there. I am a single mother oth three and i have stories that i can write a book about girl and i can sit and cry or i can just be the best mom i can be and move on... all men are not like that for real but there is a big majority these days and i myself am wondering when it is gonna change. I know being a single mom and my last child is a boy i am gonna teach him how to be a stand up man no matter what....it is now us single mothers who have to show our sons how to be men so lets just try our best and not dwell on sorry dead beats.

Regina - posted on 09/14/2009

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bcause men wanna be peter pans for the rest of their lives, and when thye leave and can see that we actually can do it without them, they think that we are better off, and they continue theyre lives as if nothing changed. prancing around on their show ponies

Karla - posted on 09/13/2009

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My daughters father has not paid child support in almost 3 months and has not bother ot call her either. Not even to see how her first day of school went. I thinks its because they are not here so they do not understand what goes into raising kids. Plus, some of their mothers need to stop babying them and let them grow up already (at least that is one of my problems).

Angela - posted on 09/13/2009

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Because they aren't being made to. Too many mothers allow the fathers to just walk away and not own up to their responsabilities. Even if they didn't set out to be fathers during conception we shouldn't be single mothers after conception.

Danielle - posted on 09/13/2009

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I don't get it either. I am a single mother of 3 and the dad walked out saying that he wasnt ready to be a family man. I dont know how it even crosses their minds not to want to raise these kids. As mothers we have no choice but to step up yet for alot of them it is just too much to comprehend.

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