Arrynne - posted on 04/09/2010 ( 20 moms have responded )
I am sorry but this comment really miffed me..
' don't let him see her alone until you have this sorted out because he has as many rights to her as you at this time'
So your advice is for her to deny the father his EQUAL rights to the child so she can have the upper hand? I am pretty sure if the child was in his custody and he was refusing for her to see the child alone there would be a huge uproar. I understand that many of you have been burned by the BD's in your lives.. but seriously. Maybe some things were said in the heat of the moment, of course any parent who loves their child would want custody of said child. The hardest part in any of this is putting your own feelings aside and looking out for the best interests of the child, although it may hurt.. it is NOT about you. This is not a possession, a thing. This is a human being who was created by two parents, welcomed into this world by two parents, loved by two parents.. and to deny either parent access is illegal whether you would like to admit it or not. I am extremely happy that family law is finally starting to look out for the best interests of the child and not the parents. A child deserves to have an equal chance to bond and nurture that bond with both parents, each parent has the right to have equal parenting time with the child. I am so sick and tired of reading posts about how to get the father out of the child's life, or how to get child support without the father having any rights to the child. Is this what you really want for your child?
As a single mother and as a former step mother who has seen what lengths a mother would go to to 'win' a child, as well as seeing the other side of the fence, what a loving father would do to stay in his child's life and fight for that child when everyone is againest him, including a judge who has not evolved with the current laws ensuring that father's have equal rights. It really saddens me to see what parents would do in the name of 'in the best interests of the child', which has absolutely nothing to do with the child.
Please note before you respond I am NOT speaking about deadbeat dads, mothers who have children with deadbeat dads have every right to be pissed off and vent. But moms who are bitching because the fathers want something to do with their kids.. shame on you.