Jessica - posted on 02/27/2012 ( 34 moms have responded )
I am still growing used to the fact that I am a single mom... My son's father and I were together for almost 8 year (never married) and when my son was about 5 months we split up, (he is 10 months now) since that time his father has purchased a box of wipes and given me $30 for his care, he did not get him a Christmas present and hasonly seen him 6 times. He also says he doesn't believe my son is his and wants a paternitty test (which I said is ok but I won't pay for it and the state wont either because he signed a paternity acknowledgement at the hospital) well he is hot and cold and the few times he has been around my son the way he is with him makes me uncomfortable (for example getting agitated with the crying saying "What do you want" etc..) He has never hurt him or anything but he has had problems with drugs and alcohol (even though he claims to now be sober) he has recently started requesting to pick my son up and have him a few days during the week and I have a lawyer, legally unless we go to court I don't have to let him andthe idea of it makes me really really uncomfortable. Not to mention he would not have anything my son needs (bottles, Formula, diapers, wipes, alot of times he doesn't have any food)... I just want tto be sure my instincts are on point here and I don't want to deny my son a relationship with his father but him taking him unsupervised makes me really uncomfortable.... What would you do?