I need an opinion on an issue I have had with the father of my babys family...

Amie - posted on 08/08/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

April 2nd 2012;
@ 6:02pm Me: Have you eaten dinner yet? this is about the time evan eats his dinner he's probably starving.
no reply-
@ 7:56pm Matt: On my way.
@ 7:56pm Me: K.
@ 9:26pm Me: Hey wheres evans blue outfit and his green sippy cup and the wipes are gone.
no reply-
April 6th 2012;
from 314BleepBleep Cell Phone: Amie, this is Mary matts mom. Matt just told me that you aren't going to let Evan come over for easter. Your visitation order from the court says matt
is to get him every other holiday. So far the only holiday he's been with our family is christmas. Not only is this not fair to us you are also violating the court order. Matt is filing an order to enforce visitation and you will be going back to court. I suggest you look up what happens to mothers who violate visitation orders in the state of illinois. Its against the law. We are evans family too and we love him and want to see him on our holidays. I will spend the money to prevent you from keeping him from us if thats what it takes. I'd rather we get along for evans sake. Do you really want him to grow up with this kind of conflict?
(I called his Mother to clearly explain that Richard had not wanted to have evan on easter, All I said to him was I made plans with evan on easter as well and If he wanted to take evan also on easter he should just tell me and we can work it out. I am always up for compromising with this family and they do not budge or even ask me nicely why things have been going the way they have been. I can't control when matt wants to see our son. All he has to do is tell me when he has plans for evan in advanced, not the day of, and I will let him take evan whenever and how long he wants evan.)
Matt will never tell me when he wants evan, I have to ask him like a child or remind matt that he's taking his son. Also Matt is always changing the time of visiation already agreed upon, for example like today we agreed he'd take evan at 1, now he is saying he is taking him at 3 which is very last minute and I have to rush to do the house chores and run arrons as fast as I can and I never get to relax since no one else can watch my son and help me out, the only time is when Evans father takes him once or twice a week for 5 hours, which seems to fly by for me since I use that time wisely to get things done that I couldnt do when I have evan. I always let Matt sleep in and take evan whenever he wants.
I also did not like how matts mom, Evans grandmother, harrassed me through text and did not bother to call and hear my side.
This is harrassment, I did not give her my number and she did not have my number. My mom never calls to complain to matt about how he does very little for evan. Matt even yelled at my mom when we were together when she asked him a simple question as in If he was going to lend some money for formula and diapers and he flipped out and yelled and left my house, me being home from the hospital not even a day, I had to get in my car with my stitches and force myself to drive to get my son formula he needed. Evans father that day did not even call to ask if I ever got the formula for our son, he did not care.
I wish this family would compromise as much as I have been doing ever since evan was born. This child support has been no good for evan and I. His dad has given him unexplained rashes and bumps about every visitation he can not tell me how evan got these within just 5 hours.

Seems like matt only keeps evan cause his mom wants to see evan. do you think I am in the wrong? or he was in the wrong? should I keep this for proof to the courts?