I need help. Im a mommy to be and need advice.

Sandy - posted on 07/08/2012

I think it's a good idea to tell someone, especially your mother. It's so easy today to eliminate pregnancies but I think you have to be absolutely sure you want to do that. Physically you will heal, but mentally is a whole other story. Could you live with yourself if you decided to end your pregnancy? There is a lot of guilt and depression that follow an abortion. Having a baby is expensive but if your mother is supportive as well as other family members and you have really good friends that will be there for you, you can make it work. Some churches offer free child care and offer a lot of programs to hook you up with if you decide to go through with having your baby. Don't ever think your life is over now that you are pregnant, having my two girls was the best thing that ever happened to me! Stay strong and make an informed, well thought out decision with the help of your family. Good luck and god bless.

Courtney - posted on 07/07/2012

It all depends on why you are questioning having the child. I had an abortion when I was 16 years old and I do not regret it. It was certainly not easy morally... but in the end it was the right thing for my life at the time. I am 29 now and have an incredible child... and while it didn't work out with his father I am so happy to have him.

Don't not have the child because you're afraid the father will leave you guys high and dry. If you want to have the baby and already feel love for the baby, then have the baby and I promise you'll get through it and have a new love in your life that's more amazing than any love you've ever felt.

There is no right or wrong answer! Either way good luck... and follow your heart. I'm sorry you're in such a rough place right now. It will pass either way. Hang in there.

Louise - posted on 06/30/2012

You need to decide whether you want the baby or not. Once you have made that decision you can move on. I have taken the abortion pill three times as my babies hearts stopped before I was 8 weeks pregnant and I did not miscarry naturally. It is two tablets taken in the morning and then you get a forced period which is quite uncomfortable but not painful. You need to really think about the future for both you and the baby. If you have it you are tied down financially for the rest of your life really, but you will have a motherly bond and raise a child. If you dont want to be tied down and you can manage the emotional sides of having an abortion then go for it. Dont let people on here preach to you about pro abortion or anti abortion it is your choice. It is not a religous decision either. It is not a sin, it is more of a sin to raise a child begrudgingly and unloved.

Talk things through with your mum but at the end of the day it is you that is going to have their life turned upside down not anyone elses. There is no right and wrong here it is down to what you want. Find out how pregnant you are because these pills can only be used up until 8 weeks not a day more, after that time it becomes an operation. Decide quickly but think all the options through as you have to live with the decisions with no regrets. Good luck!