23guera - posted on 12/23/2010 ( 29 moms have responded )
I'm breaking my head right now. I have a three month old baby boy. I was w the baby daddy for a yr. Three days before I found out I was pregnant he broke it off w me & just wanted to b friends. I ws two months pregnant when I found out. When I told him I was pregnant he didnt want nothing to do w it. So I told him fine dont look for me & I wont look for you. Three months after he called me in the middle of the night like nothing had happen didnt asked for the pregnancy or nothing. The next day he called me again like nothing so I brought it up & he was like well I needed time it was shocking for me. So we continue talkin for about two months but he really wasnt that concerned about the baby once a while he would tell me to sleep good, eat well & walk a lot but didnt want nothing to do w doctors appt. We just talked by phone didnt see eachother at all. When I told him it was a boy he was super excited & happy he told me I had made his day. But days after he started acting weird & stupid he would just calld me around 2 or 3 in the morning drunk. I wouldnt answer his calls till the next morning but he wont answer nor text me till after midnight it continue like that for about two wks so I just told him its seems you just want me for a booty call & it aint going to happen so just dont talk to me or look for me unless its about the baby. all he said was okey. Since then I havent talk to him or nothin. I was about 7 months pregnant when this happen. I had my baby & all did though bout calling him but then I was like no he should look for the baby its not like I be pregnant forever. Till acouple of days before I was fine wout him or thinkin about him but now a friend told me he seen him & acouple of his friends we used to party w. His two best guys asked for me & about the baby to my girl they were surprise I had the baby already & that my baby daddy hadnt look for my son. My girl even showed them a pix of the baby & they said he lookd like the daddy. & after they went up to my baby daddy & told him off why hasnt he seen the baby & tried to be there for him. My girl got his new number & all she told me to call him to see if he wanted to see the baby but I told her no he should b lookin for my son. Why would I take time & look for him when he doesnt take time to look for my son. & she was like well maybe he scared you will talk shit to him or dont know what to say. I told her thats no excuse if he really wanted to see his son he would do anything for the baby plus he knows I aint that kind of person. She still continues to tell me for me to make a move but idk. I had said no since the begining if he really want to be in the baby's life he would look for the baby I dont need to begg for him. I'm fine wout him. I mean I would love for my child to have his dad but its nothing I can do if he not around. But still till this day I cant get it on my head he that kind of person that wouldnt b there for his son back on my head I think theres somethin why he hasnt tried to look for hm but then again something tells me theres nothing that cant stop him to look for him. I'm still here same place I live, same number & all. Plus he just leave 10mins away. So idk. With all this that w my friend told me I'm confused if I should just call him or just not do nothing about it & be like I was before not think about him much. But I also dont want my child to grow up later & be like mom why didnt you try to get contact w my dad..cuz I have heard of situations like that. Plz give me advice. Plus w all the holidays right now I feel like I should look for him for my son since its going to be his first xmas n all.