Misha - posted on 06/24/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )
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Im new on here i just wanted to ask some of you single mothers how did you get over you child/ern father because i just cant get to that breaking point and just leave him alone no matter what he do to me its been so hard im hurting so bad and i have no one else to turn to
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Elizabeth - posted on 06/26/2012
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Charlotte & Kristin have summed it up very well. I can't add much more to what they
are telling you here. Basically, my heart goes out to you. I know first hand that terrible
loss and how tough it is to let go. If you believe in God, ask him for support. Reaching
out and being honest about how you feel (as you have done here) is a great step. Don't
stop here, you will be surprised at how many people can relate to you and will be
supportive. The love is available, just not from your ex as you had hoped for.
Good luck to you.
Charlotte - posted on 06/25/2012
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First, you need to love yourself. As simple as that sounds, it takes some time to get there. Think about the things that make you happy and do them. It'll take your mind off of your ex as well as cause you to enjoy spending time alone. When you get to the point where you truly love yourself, you'll realize that you deserve to be loved by someone who knows how to treat you the way you deserve to be treated. I have gone through the same thing. I was married and have 2 children with my ex. The relationship was not healthy and it took me a long time to realize I did not deserve to be treated that way. I recently started a blog as a sort of therapy in letting go of the past and moving ahead to the future. What types of activities do you enjoy? Reading? Writing? Cooking? Dancing? Maybe take a class of some kind? Whatever it is, do it for you. Soon enough, you won't have time to pine over your ex because you'll be too busy loving on yourself!
Hope this is helpful to you!
Charlotte
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Kristin - posted on 06/25/2012
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First of all seek counselling to help heal you. You need to make yourself happy and do things for you and your kids. It isnt easy but you have to stay positive and strong. Join a parenting group, or a gym, or a class you would enjoy taking. My childrens father left me for another women when I was pregnant with our youngest child. It isnt easy but i stayed busy and I had a really good support group of friends and family. What I realized is that I had to stay strong for my kids, and that they and I deserved to be happy and not hurt. Live for your kids. Ignore your ex. It does get easier and less hurtful in time. But counselling always helps as well. I wound up going on an anti depressant after my baby was born for 6 months and that seemed to help as well. Remeber you are not alone and it will get better
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