is 42 too old to have a baby

Barbara - posted on 07/18/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )

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have an 18 and 12 year old from a marriage that broke up and they live with him. now have a boyfriend and have a 4 year old with him but she now asks for a baby brother or sister as she doesnt see her half brother and sister. i am nearly 42, is this too old to try for another baby?

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Michele - posted on 07/21/2009

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GIrl NO!!!! I had my first child at 41 and I am thinking of trying to have one more. So no 42 isn't to old. just keep your health up andI am turning 48 this year and have been trying for 7 seven years. I don't conceive easily. So I say if you can go for it, but do it because this is what you want not becuase you feel you have to make your youngest child happy.

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DreYah - posted on 08/17/2012

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Go for it !!! it just happen to me my fiance is 27 i am 41 and just found out and wasnt expecting it my son is 22 and man ole man i was scared at first but now i am excited i get a second chance to do it different due to i was young and wasnt ready and prepared and stable as i am now. So i say if ya healthy go for it

Allison - posted on 07/22/2009

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i know i'm really late with this response, but i'm new to this board and am just surfing around looking at the posts. so hello to all.
anyway i had my first child at 31 a boy and second at 38 at girl she is 3 months now.
anyway i did not have any problem with my first but with number 2 i had a very very very difficult time. the pregnancy was easy but for me anxious, no sleep, and ended up with post-partum, i am doing well back to myself but all my doctors kept telling my it is my age as well as hormonal.
so my advice is it is up to you but really think about it. were your previous pregnancies easy? for example. it goes down hill in my opinion. no more for me, no matter what!!!

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I don't think so...if your happy and healthy I say go for it. I'm 39 and trying...I also have a 12 and 18 year old and can't wait to have another. Good luck!!!

Roberta - posted on 07/19/2009

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Not at all. As long as you feel you'll have the energy and prepare yourself with the knowledge that your life will be drastically but positively changing...again.

Jenni - posted on 07/19/2009

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No, 42 isn't too old. My friends mum was 48 when she had twins and found she was more patient and organised the second time round, she has other children in thier 20,s.You've already had one child, who is still very young, with your new partner, If it's want you both want then go for it, it shouldn't matter what other people think. Good luck x

Leslie - posted on 07/18/2009

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Its a personal decision and there is no right or wrong answer BUT please consider the child itself when making a decision. Will you be there for him or her when they need you? Will you be prepared for the never ending teenage years when you are in your fifties? Will you even be able to speak the same language and keep up? I really struggled with these questions since I wanted two children and only had one because I got divorced. I ended up getting my tubes tied at 41 because I knew I wouldn't have the energy or want to truly devote all my time all over again to a young child. I wanted to be fair to the child not selfish for my own needs.My son is ten and I waited until I was 31 to have him but I couldn't go through diapers and crawling stage and being chained to the house again because the baby is sleeping. I'm living now and enjoying my son and his age.

Tasha - posted on 07/18/2009

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I say yes, but that's just me. Now I have admire some who waited like after the age of 35 almost 40 to start cause they had done all the want to do and plus got their stuff together. Which is ok, but now they have to stay up on their exercise to stay young for the kids. :-)

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