Is being stressed normal when your a young mother?
Lisa Marie - posted on 04/23/2010
Hang in there. At the age of 39 I decided to have a baby (not a husband to go with it) I have a 21 month old and I am a full time college student. Stress is part of life, it can also be a great motivator. Trust me it is no less challenging at 40 than at 20. You can do it.
Davenia - posted on 04/23/2010
Being stressed is a normal part of motherhood. We worry about our kids all the time. Are they safe? Are they getting enough to eat? Am I spending enough time with them, etc... Just make sure you try to take some time for yourself (easier said than done, I know), so you don't lose your temper with them, which I have been known to do on occasion. Just remember it will all be worth it one day.
Chranda - posted on 04/20/2010
BEING STRESSED IS NORMAL FOR ANY MOTHER!!!! WE HAVE SO MANY THINGS ON OUR PLATE AND SOMETIMES ITS HARD TO HOLD IT ALL TOGETHER TAKE SOME TIME TO YOURSELF 30MIN IS A LOT WHEN ITS JUST YOU I CALL IT MY ME TIME MY SON KNOWS WHEN I GET THAT TIMER OUT AND PUT IT ON 60 MIN DONT BOTHER ME UNTIL THE BELL RINGS!!!! IT WORKS
Kellye - posted on 04/18/2010
being stressed is normal for just being young much less being a young mother just set back and look at all the good things happeing in ur life try not to focus on the bad things they can drive u mad. bless ur heart i'll keep u in my prayers at night! try prayin it always helps me even before i got saved he still listened and i still cried out to god for help everyday...
Jennifer - posted on 04/18/2010
Stress is a totally natural part of Motherhood, period. The only people who aren't stressed at some or even several points of life are too medicated to feel anything at all.
Those of us who are Only parents tend have more of it, as we don't have handy sounding boards or partners who can take over when we really should be giving ourselves a time out.
The trick (I'm still earning it by the way) is to know ahead of your actual snapping point that you need to call a "Time out". Put the crying baby in the crib & step outside the front door for 5 minutes of fresh air. Let the toddler watch a cartoon with a bowl of cheerios, teach your preschool children that nap time has been replaced by "resting time" ... whatever they can do quietly in their room for 30 -45 minutes is OK. School aged kids can read in thier rooms while you have a bath or make an uninterrupted phone call to a friend. OUr house rule for interrupting phone calls has always been " If you're not bleeding or barfing, and nothing is burning you can safely wait until Mommy's all by herself, private phone call is done to have a conversation. Works like a charm.
I do knnow it's hard, but once in a while you must put you first. It'll allow you to be a better parent, and a kinder person over all.
Peace to You!
Amy - posted on 04/18/2010
Stress is a normal part of being a mother. In addition to putting your child in a safe place and taking a few minutes to yourself, I would recommend working on your support network. I know it can be difficult being a single mom in college; many of the other students have no idea what you are dealing with. But maybe you can talk with your professors to see what advice they have, or join a Mother's Day Out program to meet other moms. You can try to swap babysitting or just have playdates where you can have some "adult" time while the kids play. You can try asking at your pediatrician's office for mom groups or resources. Also, if money is tight, you may be able to get some additional subsidized childcare assistance. Don't be ashamed to ask for help, only a strong person can do that. Think about your neighbors - could one of them step in for a few minutes when you are having a rough day? Maybe in exchange, you could help them out with a household chore or something. Anything you can do to build your network so you don't feel like you're truly all alonse. Good luck to you in this situation; I know it can be rough.
Cheryl - posted on 04/18/2010
There have been many times when I put my young kids in a safe place and just went in the other room for 5 minutes to get a break. Nap every chance you get. Take any and all opportunities to give yourself peace of mind....some days are harder than others, but it is totally normal to be stressed.
Rachel - posted on 04/18/2010
I understand how you feel. Sometimes I wanna scream when my daughter wont settle down. One night she was cryin at 4am and I couldn't take it any more so I went in the kitchen and ate a bowl of cereal and just let her cry. Afterward I was a lot more calm and was able to get her to sleep. Sometimes just taking a time out can help. Despite what everyone says its normal to get upset with our kids sometimes. Pretending like you dont have those feelings will only make it worse. It helps me to talk to some of my friends about it and they just offer me reassurance that I'm doing a good job. And your doing a good job. You haven't given up and thats whats important. Your doing everything you can to be a good mother, so pat yourself on the back and dont feel guilty if you have a rough day.
Maricela - posted on 04/16/2010
we all worry about blowing up on them..i have 2 girls, n its the 3yr old that gets to me, bbut ive been doing so good, before i blow up i think to myself n tell myself how much i luv her n how she is still learning to behave..i try surrounding myself w/ lots of friends so i can leave them w/ them for a while n in return i do the same for them..we all need time to ourselves..i have no family near so i have to, but i have so much faith in GOD, that if it wasnt for that, i would be done already :) good luck n one day u will be quite proud of urself for everything u r doing to better urself even when it means not getting enough sleep, thats what being a true mother is all about...
Tiffany - posted on 04/15/2010
If you need 5 minutes put the little one in a safe place, like their crib and walk outside. Let them cry and take those 5 minutes for you. When your little one is asleep or napping take a nice long hot bath or shower. I know how you feel. Is there a reason for the crankiness in your little one?
Bobbie-Lynn - posted on 04/15/2010
But that's the problem when i need to take a break and breath. There isn't that help where i need 5 mins to myself. My little one is always cranky i barely get sleep at night. I work part time going to college full time i'm always up and i'm scared that one day i'm going to blow and my little one will be right there.
Tiffany - posted on 04/15/2010
I think being stressed whether young or older comes with the territory. Especially us single parents. We carry the weight of the world on our shoulders and don't have much help with the load we carry. Stress comes with it, just like any job. Take a deep breath and take it one step and one day at a time.
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