Abigail - posted on 08/19/2010 ( 75 moms have responded )
Am I the only one who feels this way...everyone says how much they think their children need a father figure. I am a mother of a 21 month old son, my husband cheated on me after 3 years of marriage. After my son was born he changed...working a lot, didn't want to spend time with us...his son wasn't important enough to him. Now that I have moved out and filed for divorce, he is making my life hell wanting to see my son all the time. He went through all the trouble of filing a court order for visitation, and yet didn't show up for 90% of the days. He is mad at me for not forgiving him. My son didn't really know who he was before the separation...he actually see's his father more now. But his father is irresponsible, immature, and in no way is a "Father". My son views him as a playmate. Im allowing him to visit our son under my supervision (because he showed up drunk to one of his visits). I just hate that my son cares even though he is so young..and my ex couldn't care less...he is doing it just to irritate me. Is it horrible to really believe my son would be better off with out his father? I know it will never happen cause the courts don't believe that...according to them a father just has to be good enough ( I don't agree with that at all). How do I get over it and deal, especially if I have to for the next 17 or more years of my sons life?