Erin - posted on 11/03/2011 ( 34 moms have responded )
My Daughter's father is 38 & has 6 kids by 5 different women...my daughter is his 7th, im his 6th babies mother and i just found out 2 months ago that he is going to have a child born this November (which means the asshole was out dippin his stick in other females when i was 6 & 1/2 months pregnant with our daughter). He has NEVER come out of pocket not ONCE for ANY of his children (not even ours)...his famous line is "oh thats not my kid, shes a hoe she cheated on me with my cousin" ...now he has NEVER said this about my daughter and he was with me everyday of my pregnancy, he was with me for her birth and everyday thereafter up until 2 months ago when i found out about this new chick thats havin his kid. i kicked him off my couch out of my appartment and i moved back in with my mother for support. He is good with her thou and she lights up with a huge gummy smile and squeals her head off every time he is around her, so when i have appointments to go to or lots of errends to run or clients (i own my own spa) i leave her with him for that short period of time. BUT i have been holding back on telling him about himself because: A- she is jus so sooo happy with her dada and B- im afraid that if i piss him off (he is very VERY childish and extremely verbally n mentally abusive) he will take off with her and ill never see her again. (he was born and raised on the US Virgin Island of St. Croix) Id like to go to court and get some sort of supervised visitation in place or even have him give up his rights so that he wont be able to take off with her. I dont want cut him off and take him away from her because she just lights up everytime she see him, but i dont want him to ever try taking off with her either. Some of my friends say just cut him off shes only 5 months and wont even notice but i truly feel that she will....a little piece of me inside is kinda hoping that he will do what he did with alllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllll his other kids n jus leave and not look back but i dont think thats gonna happen because he says this little girl is the love of his life.
Sorry...i know i kinda rambled on a bit but does anybody have any advice? im a first time mom and this is NOT how i ever dreamed it would turn out...i dont know what to do