Is it wrong to want to put my baby daddy on child support?
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Markie - posted on 03/05/2010
Nope thats how i felt at first when i thought about doing it but he comes and goes when he wants so i had to play it safe and put him on it anyways to make sure my kids are always taken care of, he would say he would never be with me again if i put him on it and i did it anyways and he still came back it didn't change anything.
Sara - posted on 03/10/2010
did he help you create that baby?? then he needs to help support that babies needs. u deserve the help and ur child deserves the help as well. when a child is created BOTH parents need to step up to the plate and support that child.... not one anymore then the other, but also no less then the child deserves. in the long run...you will def. be thankful for the help. i'm a single mom too, and the amount of support i receive is no where near what it costs me to raise my kids...but i am still so thankful for the help. get ur child support!!! some men try to make us fell bad for getting child support....when actually they should feel bad for not wanting to help pay for the child they helped create.
Angela - posted on 03/08/2010
dont doubt for one second that its a wrong move. i fought a long battle to get support. i eventually got what was needed. if u do get support,go through the court and ask for a garnish on his salary.that way ull get the money on time and with out questions.
wish u all the best...stay strong
Latoya - posted on 10/08/2013
Im deaf mother to my daughter is one month old so her father never be there for me while i pregnant till born also never see my daughter so he had 7 kids different babymom so should i put him child support but he never get job cause he on addicted drugs and many woman.. what i go do?? All i got low income and i had place for my daughter
Cheraki - posted on 05/07/2012
No! You didn't make the baby yourself. You shouldn't have to support your child alone. If he's any type of man he will step up and pay his support. Don't let him talk you out of filing. Get everything through the courts. This way there's no "oh I pay my support" crap when he's not. When going through the courts it's very easy to pull up payment history.
Don't feel one bit guilty either about putting him on child support.. He didn't feel guilty when he was making your child!
Good Luck to you
Tyera - posted on 03/11/2010
He needs to take care of his child!!!...Some "men" can be adult about it and take care of theirs and their are some that still act like a child is a doll and you can return it!!..If he is taking care of your child with money and visit and you all are acting civil then no..but if he is not doing a DAMN thing yes take his behind to child support!!!
Charity - posted on 03/11/2010
i wouldnt feel bad a all about putting him on child support..like the other ladies said he helped make the baby so he can help take care of the baby...im in a similar situation just the my baby daddy doesnt want nothing to do with his daughter so therefore im doing what i have to and im taking him to court for custody and child support and he can deal with it in the end because he was trying to be there and then all of a sudden he just stopped and my daughter is only 2 months old...thats plain wrpng in my eyes, but do whats right for you and your daughter girl, stay strong and keep your head held high, your doing a great job!!!!!
Doretha - posted on 03/08/2010
No it is not if he is not helping you take care of your children why struggle you didn't make them by yourself now you have to think about you and yours cause if he was thinking about his children you wouldn't have to put him on child support don't make them babies suffer cause he don't want to do right do what's right for them not him
Latifah - posted on 03/08/2010
NO!!!! not at all girl. He helped create a baby so he must be held responsible, but from my experience you should do it as soon as possible because its not easy out here. I am a single parent of a 13yr old boy and a 7yr boy and it takes so much money to just give them the basics. Thank God I am a strong woman cuz even though I have a child support order in place the father still pays nothing. Its okay cause he decides to caght he will be owing that money to them no matter how old they are (back child support)
Brooke - posted on 03/08/2010
Every little bit counts...... just because you claim child support doesnt make you r him bad parents like alot of people think and then look down on us single parents. in Australia if you dont claim child support the goverment gives you less money go figure my eldest son is 4 and his father has nothing to do with him and has never helped me out at all. so all ill say is its not wron 1 bit
Alicia - posted on 03/08/2010
No it is not wrong at all!!! Like you said you are the one that is doing everything regardless of his help or not you have to make sure your baby get the things that are need. My daughter is 7 and I'm just now filing for support and now he does small things (but he doesnt know i filed wanted it to be a surprise since he's a deadbeat) it get harder as they get older. I have manage by myself and with a GREAT deal of support from family and friends and you will also with or without him you will be fine.
Melissa - posted on 03/07/2010
Absoulutely not! I wish my ex were a stand up man, but he's not. He hasn't paid me one red cent for our daughter. He made the baby with you, didn't he? He has half the responsibility of taking care of his baby. I would file for child support through your local agency. Good luck to you!!!
Angela - posted on 03/07/2010
I myself waited so long by giving him the chance to do it by himself. I can tell you this, whether a small amount or a large amount, you will realize it helps! It is is responsibility to help take care of his child, financially and emotionally. Best wishes and I hope you do what is right for you and your child!
Rolanda - posted on 03/06/2010
Look, I see it like this, NO it is Not wrong to take your childs father to court for child support. It takes 2 people to make a baby, so the child needs support from both the mother and the father. If the father is helping you right now, what's to say that tomorrow he will stop even if he says that he will not. This way if you do go to court the support of the child continues and if the father then chooses not to pay then the court gets to deal with it and he will then have to pay the consquences for his action of not supporting your child. SO, YES you really do need to take the father to court for child support!!!
Taneesha - posted on 03/06/2010
I fell that if he is doing everything for the baby such as money, food, keeping the baby, and whatever else the father is suppose to do then no. If he is doing nothing then do what you need to do. Child Support here you go!!!
Marketta - posted on 03/05/2010
NOOOOOOO IT IS NOR WRONG MAMA!!!! YOU TWO MADE THAT BABY TOGETHER REGARDLESS OF WHETHER YOU ARE TOGETHER NOW, HE HAS A RESPONSIBILITY. IF HE WAS A REAL MAN HE WOULD HELP YOU ON HIS OWN. IM NOT WITH MY DAUGHTER'S FATHER BUT IM GLAD HE IS MAN ENOUGH TO KNOW THAT I NEED HELP WITH HER FINANCIALLY AND HE SENDS ME MONEY EVERY MONTH WITHOUT ME HAVING TO GET THE COURTS INVOLVED WITH A CHILD SUPPORT CASE. DONT FEEL BAD ABOUT DOING WGAT YOU NEED TO DO - ITS NOT ABOUT HIS FEELINGS, ITS ABOUT TAKING CARE OF THAT BABY NOW.
Ravetta - posted on 03/05/2010
No it's not wrong at all. It's not easy raising children by yourself and handling everything else.If he's not helping you, then put his butt on child support but if he is helping you with everything, then that is a different story. It will help.
Charlene - posted on 03/05/2010
WOW U GUYS REALLY HELPED ITS NOT LIKE HE DOESNT WANT TO BE THERE ITS JUS THA SITUATION BUT LIKE I TLD HIM I GOTTA LOOK OUT FA MINE N HE TRIES BUT IM THA ONE DEALIN WITH EVERYTHING I GOTTA CHANGE THA DIAPERS DEAL WITH GETTIN UP IN THA MIDDLE OF THA NIGHT N I NOT SAYIN I HATE IT BUT ITS A CHANGE IN MY LIFE N HE HASNT CHANGED AT ALL, IM THANKFUL SOOOOOO MUCH BCUS EVEN THOUGH HE ISNT MUCH HELP MY PARENTS R AMAZING THEY HELP WITH EVERY THING N I APPRECIATE IT BUT I CANT DEPEND ON THEM FA EVA THEY GOTTA LIFE TOO BUT THANKS BUNCHES LADIES IT HELPED ALOTTT I DONT FEEL BAD AT ALL
Meghan - posted on 03/05/2010
It's not wrong at all! Why should you have to do everything? If he was man enough to get you pregnant, he should be man enough to support his child! It's hard enough to be a single mom without having to stress about where your kids next pack of diapers is going to come from! Be strong :)
Isabel - posted on 03/05/2010
Not at all if he is not helping you, then don't delay on doing so i waited 5yrs for him to realize and still hasn't now i did it and i realize that i should have done it years ago, it doesn't make a bad person you need to think of your child's well being before anything...
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