Jessica - posted on 06/28/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )
I am a single mom of four 1/2 kids. I say i have a half because my children have a half sister from a different mom that stays with us every other week, if not sometimes more. I was in a relationship on and off for six years, but he was a dead beat who didn't take care of the kids or provide for them in any way shape or form. he cared too much about his drugs and his friends over taking care of his kids. even when i was with him, i still felt and acted like a single mother. he was not there for us financially, physically, emotionally, or as a father figure. i recently moved away from him and his daughter.
My problem is, my kids don't have any respect for me. they are getting into everything, making huge messes, and destroying everything they can get their hands on. it seems like i turn around and there is a new mess right after i clean up something. i clean the walls, they get colored on within ten minutes. i steam clean the carpet and they cover it with syrup within 30 min. my mom and i spend the whole day cleaning and the next day they destroy everything we did in 20 minutes. they are ripping out screens and throwing things out the windows, pouring my shampoo, tooth paste, and what ever they can find out every time i buy more. they dig in my car and throw food in it almost every day and are wrecking it. my two year old has taken to pooping and smearing it all over her walls, bed, what ever. my mom bought her a new toddler bed and new sheets for it and not ten minutes after we set it up, she spills strawberry syrup all over it and all over the floor and smears it on her door ten minutes after i scrubbed it off. they throw books out of windows, drag blankets all over outside, leave their bikes every where, walk with muddy feet on my clean laundry, eat all the baby food snacks, throw boxes of cereal every where after i get done vacuuming... the list goes on and on... the point is, i put them in time outs, i make them clean it up, and it doesn't seem to be enough. my house is always a huge disaster and i don't know what to do. i don't get breaks from my kids and i can't clean 24/7. it is depressing me and i don't know what to do. i also stop buying things after they make a mess with it, and they still make messes. i put things up high and my kids will climb to get it. i feel like i have a bunch of wild untamed animals in my house.
any good suggestions on how to deal with this other then time outs and making them pick up would help. my other problem is most of the messes is caused by my two year old. she is out of control. she poops and pees on the floor all of the time, won't use the potty, and can climb on anything and gets into everything! there is nothing that stops here and i don't know what to do. she has broken all the furniture in her room, ripped every picture off her wall, wrecked every book, tore apart the closet (including the very top shelves), colored on every wall, gets into everything, and makes huge messes all the time. i am a single mother and i can only do so much! how do i deal with it?
My kids are 8 months, three in aug, five, half sister is six, and my son who has autism is 11.