Vanessa - posted on 10/10/2010 ( 14 moms have responded )
I seriously need advice.
I live at home with my mum and 6month old son. There is tension between my mum and I. Im not sure why really. i find myself getting very irritated at her, because she says she will help out and stuff..but when i actually ask for help, she does it 'begrudgingly' and so i end up not wanting to ask her. Another thing is that, she will ask if its play time with my son and i say yeah sure, have fun with him, but then as soon as he gets cranky she will just put him in his high chair and say to me here you go (despite the fact that she can CLEARLY see me doing the washing up or making dinner) and i just think to myself, where was this 'help' u were offering. and the things i do for my son she quite often replies with an "i never did that with u, your just being ridiculous" and its really starting to wear me down! she wont listen to me when i talk to her about my son's 'routines' or his little quirks and then i know when i leave my son with her, she doesnt have a good time coz he gets cranky. And she asked me about it and i told her that i thought it could be because ur not "listening" to what he wants. Its like when she offers advice, if i dont do what she says, she thinks im just ignoring her. Oh my god ... i just think i need to go to professional counselling with her (we have tried talking and talking and talking and still we end up at the same cross road) I am reluctant to move out, because I am studying a degree and basically would have to give that up to work for get extra money for rent. so do i perservere til my degree finished (and end up with a better job) or do i move out and put off the degree?!?!?! I want to finish degree/get better job/then move out. but how can i make this work with my mum!?