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Lost my mom to cancer, fear of getting sick and putting my son thru the same thing..

Susan - posted on 05/09/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I recently lost my mom to cancer in December 2011... I have an eight month old son and I'm REALLY overly anxious about myself or him getting sick.. If he has a fever I think the worst possible thing and call the doctor ASAP.. It's hard for me to go to work and not be with him.. I worry something will happen when I'm not there or that he needs me. That something will happen and he will new to go to the er. My anxiety is running my life... Please tell me I'm not alone....my mom found out she had cancer six months before she passed.... My thoughts are completely negative...

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Ginger - posted on 05/09/2012

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Just to add to that... All you can do is your best, and plan for the worst. Then you can enjoy the good times. :)

Ginger - posted on 05/09/2012

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Well, it is painful to loose a parent at any age. It most always brings up the fears of one's own mortality in most people. So now that you are aware of what you are dealing with. I think the best thing to do is get all your check ups on time. Cancer is scary. If it was breast cancer, maybe you want to get that breast cancer gene test. I am sorry for your loss. I have kinda dealt with the same issue. Try to enjoy every moment you have. For myself, I try to take things into perspective. I get my flu shots and physicals on time. Every little pain can't be cancer. I even had a tumer in my breast for a year. The first doc said it was a cyst but it grew and it scared me everyday. Till I found a new doc and found it was a tumor (Lukily not cancerous) I find that doing research calms my nerves. To understand my health helped and helps me a lot. Although I could see how hours of googling ailments could go the other way too. ;) THe other thing that helps is doing your best to lead a healthy lifestyle like not drinking everyday, laying off saturated fats and refined sugars, not eating to many high processed foods, and not consuming high amounts of soy which increase estragen production and can speed up the growth of cancer and create cysts and fibroid tumors in women. These things won't bring your Mom back, but they can help you be a healthy happy Mom. Also your kid will see you leading a healthy lifestyle and that will be an example to them. It is ok to grieve and be scared for yourself too. The fact that you are aware of your feelings is a very positive thing. Addressing your feelings is the first step to recovoring from any yucky feeling. Each persons journey is different. I hope yours is a fun healthy one.

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